innerconflict Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 I am pretty sad and hurt at the moment. In early May, one of my older sisters told me that another sister and her husband made some hurtful comments about me. For years, I have looked up to my sister and husband, and always felt I can go to them for help/advice. When I learned of this information, I was devastated. I cried my eyes out. My boyfriend had to calm me down. Since then, I stopped contacting them. This morning, my sister came on Yahoo Messenger and asked why I have stopped talking to her. I was scared but told her the reason why. I said that I have always looked up to them, and when I heard of their comments, I was really hurt. While typing, I burst into tears. She asked where I heard from. I replied that it wasn't important, and that I was sorry for being a pest with them. I then said that I didn't want to talk about it, that I was upset, and going to log off. While she was typing a reply, I logged off Messenger. Just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes. I love all my family to death, but when they start to make mean comments, it hurts like hell. I am not sure what to do. I feel like I have lost all trust and confidence in them. Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 I feel for you.. Your sister will make it right with you.. Give it some time and wait and see.. Link to post Share on other sites
UltimateZen Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 You may want to consider the context by which the sister made her comments. Was it out of anger? Did she have a terrible day and take it out the other sister about you? Is there internal jealosy perhaps? Take some time for yourself and then try to hear your sister out. Because you heard these comments second hand I would at least hear your sister out at one point. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 that's family dynamics at it's best, and you need to learn to develop a tough coat when dealing with relatives because sometimes, they'll do whatever they can just to be mean. don't cut yourself off from your other sister without talking to her, preferrably with the first sister in audience so you can get the straight story. Like I said, sometimes relatives say or do crappy things just because they know it will hurt their intended victim. the other thing to keep in mind is that no matter how much you love your family, they will do things to drive you nuts. Try not to take it personally, but call them on their behavior to nip it in the bud. Your life will run much, much more smoothly if it's known you don't put up with nonsense ... now go talk to your sister and find out what exactly is going on, to put your mind at rest. hugs, quank Link to post Share on other sites
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