Whoami33 Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 Long story short after the break up, I gave her some space and about a week to cool off and think.. A week later I contact her but never mentioned to her that I missed her or anything of that nature and she was thankful that I reached out, even said "thank you for this talk" The following two days later I reach out again and it went even better! This time towards the end of the night she mentioned to me how she misses me and it caught me off guard! So I tell her I feel the same and we end the night .. now this is where everything gets weird, the day after that I said goodmorning and we're talking happy as usual, but I have a sense that she feels dumb for opening up to me the night before because today she seems a bit drier then usual with the text, so I tell her hey is okay if I reach out to you later? And she says yes it's okay ? ... so 6 hours later I reach out and she replies with "I don't think we should be friends, I get too attached to you and I don't want too" so I proceed to ask "what's wrong with being friends"... I regret ever asking this becuase she starts bringing up our past how bad I would treat her, how I would come home and argue w her, how I didn't let her really do much, how I was just a bad person, And so we argue as I'm trying to let her know things will be different and she completely stops opening my messages and ignores me. (Back to square one) Finally the following day after that, I try to apologize for the argument and tell her "whenever your ready to talk I'll be here ?" And she replies "pls leave me alone I'm going to ask you once:/" and I reply with "alright I will give u what u want, peace" .. and haven't spoken to her once after that last message.. it's been about a week and 2 days since we last spoke.. what do u suppose I do to get this girl back? The feelings are still there I know it Forsure. I just know she's scared to fall back in love and get hurt all over again after giving me so many chances.. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 "pls leave me alone I'm going to ask you once:/" It was too soon to try talking with her. You absolutely cannot be friends.What she asked for is exactly what you do which is absolutely nothing. Do not contact her again. If she feels like it down the road she will contact you. She likes you, but at this time she dislikes you more because of how you treated her. She will need time to get over those feelings. Emotions are too raw. I'm not always against contacting an ex that dumped someone, but in your case you now have no choice. She knows how you feel. You don't need to say anything else to her. You do and you really piss her off for good and she blocks you everywhere. Learn from this and work on yourself in the meantime. Maybe months or more down the road she will contact you again, but you can't hold on to that and wait around. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 If you chase they fee. No contact is best. Move on like she has. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whoami33 Posted February 9, 2017 Author Share Posted February 9, 2017 "pls leave me alone I'm going to ask you once:/" It was too soon to try talking with her. You absolutely cannot be friends.What she asked for is exactly what you do which is absolutely nothing. Do not contact her again. If she feels like it down the road she will contact you. She likes you, but at this time she dislikes you more because of how you treated her. She will need time to get over those feelings. Emotions are too raw. I'm not always against contacting an ex that dumped someone, but in your case you now have no choice. She knows how you feel. You don't need to say anything else to her. You do and you really piss her off for good and she blocks you everywhere. Learn from this and work on yourself in the meantime. Maybe months or more down the road she will contact you again, but you can't hold on to that and wait around. Yeah I don't plan to wait around. And after she said that, I said I respected her wishes and never spoke to her since.. who knows maybe sometime in the future things will fall back into place.. in the meantime do u suppose I put my instagram on private to make her wonder? Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 No games. Whatever you do you do for you and to help you get past this. I suggest removing her from all social media after what she said. Don't be thinking about doing this or that to try and win her back right now. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 Yeah I don't plan to wait around. And after she said that, I said I respected her wishes and never spoke to her since.. who knows maybe sometime in the future things will fall back into place.. in the meantime do u suppose I put my instagram on private to make her wonder? If she's at the point where she doesn't want to talk to you anymore, what you do on social media isn't going to make much difference to her. One can still have feelings for an ex but know it's not a healthy choice to go back. All you can do is accept her decision and focus on moving forward with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 If she's already given you many chances and you blew them, why would she be foolish enough to give you yet another chance? Link to post Share on other sites
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