Bryanp Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Are you kidding me? How do you feel now that your wife and yourself are on the world wide internet around the world to be viewed by any and everyone? I hope you don't have children. This is beyond diabolical. This shows the absolute utter disrespect and contempt that she has for you, herself and most certainly your marriage. You are in a living hell. This to me is beyond forgivable. Enough is enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey born raised Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 You need to drug test her. This behavior escalates. FOO and CSA need to be explored, 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MickeyBill Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 I am pretty new around here and usually try to "see the other side" or give the "benefit of the doubt" but his one really is shocking. I know a couple who do somewhat similar stuff but they both know what is going on...! This one is very bizarre and like the cat said, criminal. She took a lot of time and effort to set up a porn scene for the OMs (probably the Scottish guy isn't the only recipient) taking his request, setting up the phone on the selfie stick , candles, so theres enough light for a good exposure, putting on a show by ****ing the hubby while probably giving looks to the "viewers", down loading and posting to the guy(s). There were a lot of chances for her say "maybe this isn;t such a good idea" but she wanted her validation from her cyber friends. wow. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 At the very least, call your internet provider and phone company and get it all shut off. By yourself a portable hotspot (MiFi) that only you know the password to. Make sure she has no way to keep doing this while you are in the home. If she has to have a phone, make sure it's a simple flip phone with SMS only (no data) and no camera. She's lost her adult Internet privileges forever. And this is at the very least. Me, I'd turn her phone into the cops and let the chips lie where they may. You'll need the police report in your divorce paperwork to help you gain custody of the kids. Surely no Judge would make the kids live with a sex offender. Turn those lemons into lemonade. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Was she streaming your lovemaking live to others? That is such a personal invasion, some guy in Scotland had her acting as his sub. This sounds more like Dominance and Submission type relationship, the guy in Scotland was her master and she did whatever he wanted even over your well being. You need to bring this point up with her, was she into S&M? Link to post Share on other sites
Author zombiehead Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 That is why she wanted to be on top and not change up positions. She put on a show, I tried to change positions but she said she wanted to be on top it feels so good. I didnt argue it was great little did I know it was all staged. Link to post Share on other sites
MickeyBill Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 How did she react? I would be freaking out if I were in her place. Seems like she fessed up like it was no big thing, when according to the cat it's a federal crime and if you do divorce she could lose any chance of unsupervised custody?? Or she thinks she's just flirty and sexy and looking for a little spice? Does she grasp what she has has been doing since summer of 2015 until now? Does she know that divorce is a definite possibility? Link to post Share on other sites
Author zombiehead Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 I will look in her phone for the original video. The one sent was edited because it begins with her pleasuring me orally then she mounts me and ends after we both finish. All you can see of me basically are my arms, hands on her body and my you know what. I'm not going to have her arrested and thrown in jail unless more to this horror comes out. I'm going to do the google reverse photo search and see if her porn selfies are circulating the internet. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 (edited) zombiehead, you seem to be acting very weak-minded right now. She just admitted to manipulating you in an even bigger way than you knew and are just saying, "well, one day at a time..." Yes, one day at a time as she continues to play you. I have heard you say things like: I can't make the decision to divorce this quickly. My head is spinning I can't think straight. I need some time to think this through. I don't believe you have been doing much thinking. Your wife made a sex tape of you and gave it to other men. It'll be in someone else's hands forever and so now it can be anywhere on the internet. I hope you, as an individual, can get through this, but you are acting like such a tool for her. And I'm pretty sure a lot of people can say that they have heard words like this before after a betrayal has been discovered: Edited February 12, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author zombiehead Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 I have not sleep in days, my brain feels dead, I cant remeber to flush the toilet I'm so braindead. I need sleep and time to process all this horror. When I try to think.sparks and smoke come at of my ears. I cant remember what I was doing 30 seconds ago. I'm sitting under a tree at the park on my phone warching the twins play. When I get home I'm going to sleep the rest of the day. This will be here tomorrow and forever, need to recharge and process. I will be seeing an attorney this week so I know my options. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
deadsoul Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 I'm just at a loss for words right now. Your babies are your priority. I hope your wife gets the help she needs and I think you are handling this in a very calm way, which some might see as weak, but I see it as putting your kids first. Keep doing that and keep them at the forefront of every decision you make from here on out. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
deadsoul Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 I have not sleep in days, my brain feels dead, I cant remeber to flush the toilet I'm so braindead. I need sleep and time to process all this horror. When I try to think.sparks and smoke come at of my ears. I cant remember what I was doing 30 seconds ago. I'm sitting under a tree at the park on my phone warching the twins play. When I get home I'm going to sleep the rest of the day. This will be here tomorrow and forever, need to recharge and process. I will be seeing an attorney this week so I know my options. I think that is a great plan. Take care of yourself first so you can take care of those kids. You're right, it will still be here tomorrow and forever. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 I have not sleep in days, my brain feels dead, I cant remeber to flush the toilet I'm so braindead. I need sleep and time to process all this horror. When I try to think.sparks and smoke come at of my ears. I cant remember what I was doing 30 seconds ago. I'm sitting under a tree at the park on my phone warching the twins play. When I get home I'm going to sleep the rest of the day. This will be here tomorrow and forever, need to recharge and process. I will be seeing an attorney this week so I know my options. I'm really sorry you're going through this. I hope you can get a lot of rest soon. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnneP Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Stop it with all this "addicted to porn" "cyber affair" crap. Legally, what she did to use was close to rape. In my state, what she did is punishable by prison time and lifelong registration to the sex offender registry. I did a quick google and it actually doesn't matter what state you're in because she committed a federal crime. She crossed state lines (through the use of the Internet) to victimize you. Call the cops, now! Your divorce and child custody hearings will go pretty smoothly when she's in prison for 10 years. And if this is what she admits to, just imagine the truth. I'd tell you to polygraph her but I'm sure the FBI will. Oh god, let's hope she didn't victimize the kids too. It's really common for those online creeps to convince women to take pictures of the kids as well. She's sick, man. I wouldn't put anything past her. Call the freakin cops!! Here's a list of state voyeurism laws but this is probably a federal issue depending on who wants to prosecute. http://victimsofcrime.org/docs/Policy/Vid%20Voy%20Aug%202009.pdf?sfvrsn=0 I cannot believe that a sane person in a marriage would do something this violating to their spouse. It's disgusting. Imagine if a man had done this to his wife? Link to post Share on other sites
AnneP Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 I would sue her for videoing you without your knowledge. Your wife took it upon herself to video you making love/having sex/being intimate and sent it to a stranger? Some random man's wishes and feelings were considered above her own husband's. Your wife has major problems and porn is not even in the top 3. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kgcolonel Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Z has your wife ever been treated for a mental disorder? This is something that someone might do when they are off their psych meds.....but then again, since 7/15???? I am very sorry you're having to go through this.... Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 There is no rush to act. You have time to see what other truth comes out and make a decision regarding your future. Rest, and you will know what to do. Good plan to see the lawyer. Best to know all your options. This is just such an unbelievable violation of trust. It really is unbelievable. This is about more than boredom and wanting to spice things up in her sex life. Your wife has some definite problems and very, very poor judgment. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SeenNotHeard Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Wow, just wow. Sorry you are experiencing this Zombie. This is a tough series of events to swallow. I get what you mean about being exhausted and not able to process. Once you get your rest and your mind around it you'll come up with a game plan. Stay strong. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GoldenR Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Is she even upset? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
AnneP Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 That is why she wanted to be on top and not change up positions. She put on a show, I tried to change positions but she said she wanted to be on top it feels so good. I didnt argue it was great little did I know it was all staged. I'm speechless. This is insane. Link to post Share on other sites
AnneP Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 I'm not sure why gender makes a difference here. Obviously a lot of people think women doing something wrong isn't as bad as men doing it. When will feminist fight to be treated equal in that regard? Probably never, that's why feminists are a effing joke. Because usually it's the man filming/taking pics of the woman without her knowledge. These men are labeled predators, which is true and my point is not many people seem to grasp the severity of what she has done to him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Is she still doing this? Have her delete all if her accounts. If she won't then your choice. She is an exhibitionist by the way. She didn't think it was cheating because it had no emotional or physical tie with the OM. She was straight with them that she was not going to have sex with any if them, that Z was all she needed and wanted physically. By what Z found all she did was praise him for being a great husband. She got off on other men seeing her and went after Z for the pleasure of it. Not saying any of what she did was right. She should have talked to Z before she did any if this. She should not have lied when he caught her taking nude pics. There are a lot if things shew should not have done. But, by what has be said by Z, she at least has not been physically or emotionally attached to another. Still cheating, but not as bad as it could be. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 The marriage is 100% transparent. She is transparently deceiving you and you are trying to grasp at straws to save your perception of this marriage. I'm sorry that another human is being evasive and creating drama..... No counseling need be made. Unless its legal counsel. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Zombiehead. Is there anyone IRL you can talk to about this, friend, brother/sister, parent, colleague... you need some help and support. Everyone on here will support you but we can only give you cyber hugs. Find someone to talk to. Once this shock leaves you, you will probably get angry, but do not do anything that will get the police involved. Hold onto your temper, as so many BHs start throwing wives out, shouting yelling and causing public disorder, they then get arrested. That can affect your custody rights or get you excluded from your house so don't do that no matter how much you may want to.. Think of your little kids and walk away if she baits you. Link to post Share on other sites
T-16bullseyeWompRat Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Zombiehead. Is there anyone IRL you can talk to about this, friend, brother/sister, parent, colleague... you need some help and support. Everyone on here will support you but we can only give you cyber hugs. Find someone to talk to. Once this shock leaves you, you will probably get angry, but do not do anything that will get the police involved. Hold onto your temper, as so many BHs start throwing wives out, shouting yelling and causing public disorder, they then get arrested. That can affect your custody rights or get you excluded from your house so don't do that no matter how much you may want to.. Think of your little kids and walk away if she baits you. Well if she gets nasty, as already stated she can go to prison for her actions. I don't think either will be wanting to get the police involved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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