Tattoochix Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 (edited) So here's my thing. I met this guy, we were friends at first, always a connection and attraction tho. Nothing happened for a year or so. He had a pregnant girlfriend, saw him around occasionally. After a year or so he'd come around more. Well, we ended up hooking up, a lot. I was/am basically his mistress, whatever you wanna call it. We've been off and on for 2 years. We have some amazing sex. Hed spend days with me, not going home to his girl. He ended up leaving his girl.... for me?? I guess. I caught feelings but he wasn't ready to settle down cuz he was just out of that relationship. So I left. We recently ran into eachother. He's back with his baby's mom and we ended up having sex again and spending 2 days together.... he didn't go home to his girl in that time... he always did that. He's telling me he's not happy again and only back with her cuz of the baby but he does not want to be with her and not happy. I don't know if he's just telling me these things? He did leave her before though? He tells me our sex is the best he's ever had, and it is for me too but do you really think you can ever have a solid relationship with someone you've cheated with? I'm just so confused. Anybody ever been through this before? How did it work out? Edited February 11, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language~T Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 If he cheats with you he'll cheat on you. Just look at Bradgelina if you need proof of that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tattoochix Posted February 10, 2017 Author Share Posted February 10, 2017 Ugggh he tells me he's never cheated before besides me. And when she was pregnant he never tried anything and seemed to be good to her and trying. He's known in my circle to be a good guy. Idk but yeah it's true. Wonder if the trust would ever really be there. Thanks :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 What kind of utter douche bag is this guy. He spends two day f....... his brains out with you and leaves his girl friend at home with a little child???? You should mix with a better class of man, one who doesn't have a girl friend. He should be supporting her and the child is his responsibility whether he wants to settle down or not. Poppy. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 Ugggh he tells me he's never cheated before besides me. And when she was pregnant he never tried anything and seemed to be good to her and trying. He's known in my circle to be a good guy. Idk but yeah it's true. Wonder if the trust would ever really be there. Thanks :/ Look how he's treating the MOTHER of his child, what makes you any more special than her, the woman who has given birth to their child? Give that some thought. He's using you and you're being weak by allowing him back into your life. Find a single guy who will love and respect you, be proud to go out with you, show you off to friends and family. Not a taken man who is a father and only wants you as a side piece. You're choosing to believe a liar. Just sayin'. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aileD Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 He's lying to the mother of his child, what makes you think he's being honest with his side girl? They'll say anything to get you to have sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BuddyX Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 Already posted this a few times, just in case you feel your case is unique. Oldest line in the book "My wife doesn't understand me." Second line, " Trust me I'm not like all the other guys who cheat on their wives, I'm different. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Hunniebae Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 If he's unhappy with his life with his child's mother, he has the option to leave. He chooses to stay in an unhappy relationship and wants reassurance that someone else will rescue him. If he's truly serious about starting a relationship with you, then by all means allow him to enter the relationship without leaving one woman to go to the next woman. He will eventually find a reason to cheat on you as he has found many reasons to cheat on his child's mother. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatsJustHowIRoll Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 One day, when you've moved on from this and settled down with your own man, and maybe pregnant with your own child, you'll think back to these times.. and remember that there are women like yourself with no boundaries that will happily sleep with your man because they actually don't care a bit about the pregnant partner at home. Why do you choose to have sex with an unavailable man who had every opportunity to be with you, and still wouldnt commit? He sees you as side piece, not relationship material. He's already had a baby with the women he has chosen Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 He did leave her before though? he did. and back THEN - he wasn't bothered by the fact that he had a baby. soooo... he dumped his girlfriend and started it with you - APPARENTLY, he wasn't ready for commitment even though he spend about two years cheating on his girlfriend PRIOR to leaving that relationship. so he forced you to dump him and he went back to his girlfriend... what makes you think he'll be ready for commitment if he leaves the girlfriend, this time around? and don't buy the baby excuse - a man who can't leave a relationship because he doesn't want to stay away from his baby won't spend TWO DAYS with another woman away from said baby. he's most definitely playing you. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 (edited) Why would you ever want to be with a guy who thinks it's acceptable to cheat on his pregnant girlfriend? And why is that acceptable to you - why did you sleep with him when you knew he was in a relationship with another woman and expecting a baby!! I mean seriously, this is not a good guy. Just look at how he has treated the mother of his child. This is not a good guy, and you have made a bad decision... Nothing to be confused about here... Leave him alone! Edited February 11, 2017 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
brigitte 1 Posted February 15, 2017 Share Posted February 15, 2017 If he cheats with you he'll cheat on you. Just look at Bradgelina if you need proof of that. Yep. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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