late night guest Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 My wife developed feelings for a co-worker of hers. She drove him to work and home everyday, the carpool was just the two of them. She thinks he felt the same way about her. She wanted to leave me for him. Either that or just leave me and be by herself. She says she didn't have the nerve to tell him. So now we are stuck with this between us. We are tryingto work it out. I consider this to be an emotional affair. They were close, they hung out outside of work, she imagined being intimate with him.....the only reason she is still with me is that she was chicken to tell him. Her office mates started asking her what was going on between them. My question is, is this an emotional affair??? when she can't be sure if he felt the same way about her? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 YES, it is/was an EA. ABSOLUTELY. His lack of reciprocation has NOTHING to do with it. It's all about your wife's feelings. If she was considering leaving you for him, then yes, it is a clear statement that her love interets, at least for that time, were focussed on him, not you. So you folks have some rebuilding to do. Please Google for "marriage builders" and read the whole site carefully. IT has lots of good info about emotional affairs. Also please learn how to meet your wife's emotional needs fully - then she will not even be tempted to look outside. (I'm assuming she's not a hardcore, innate cheater.) Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 Oh gosh...an emotional affair...yep, this is how all the trouble can start. Do as SoleMate suggests PRONTO! Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 Yes. She has come clean about it though so she must have a conscience. Try to nip it in the bud as soon as possible. It will take work from BOTH of you. Link to post Share on other sites
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