ladydisaster Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 My boyfriend and I feel as committed to each other as if we were married. We're totally content with where we're at in our relationship. In love, happy, living together, great sex life, closeness, we're best friends. So hypothetically, if we actually do get married, what would change? I mean, what possibly could? Give me the wisdom your experiences! It's just the taxes, right? Link to post Share on other sites
SilentLucidity Posted July 24, 2005 Share Posted July 24, 2005 And with that brings change. People do change over the year and sometimes things that you most loved will change too, but that means you work more. You can't just sit back and expect things to always remain the same. As with all relationships, marriage is no exception, that you will have to put in your time at work with it. Don't get too scared though, sometimes if things are lacking it has to do with the finances and more time at work, and if you have children that is another thing that will change a lot of areas in your relationship. So while you may be scared the changes are going to happen eventually anyhow. Marriage is just a seal of the deal. Forsaking all others, which that should be equally put into serious relationships. You're just wearing a ring and signing some papers. Goodluck Link to post Share on other sites
Newlywed83 Posted July 24, 2005 Share Posted July 24, 2005 I have been married for a little over a year and I can honestly say not much has changed between us. Yes we both work and have to pay bills now but we still love each other and treat each other just as good as we always did. People think you have to change when you get married and everything becomes serious. My husband and I make our marriage work because we haven't forgotten to have fun and enjoy life and each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Annacabana Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 When you live with someone, you both know if the back of your minds that either one of you could leave with no strings attached, unless of course there are children in the picture, then you would only deal with child support and custody. Anna http://www.family.org/cforum/fosi/marriage/facts/a0028316.cfm Link to post Share on other sites
thegoodhubbie Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 If things change drastically after marriage, as far as personality is concerned, then the person you married is not who they led you to believe they were. So, what I am trying to say is that things shouldn't change after you are married, If you have been with this person a year or more there should be no real surprises after marriage. Nothing changed at all after my wife and I married. We just felt even closer and more secure. Both of us felt nothing but intense love for each other that we hoped would not stop and, for the most part, it hasn't. There have been ups and downs, but we still love each other. We have been together for 5 years and married for 3. Link to post Share on other sites
Teag Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Hi, Ive been married for 3 years in August and my H & I have been together for 5 years. Things were always perfect until we had our daughter. With a child brings on alot more stress, for us anyway. I took my daughter to work w/ me until she was 14 months old therefore I was always really grumpy when I came home which made my H grumpy, then I put my daughter in daycare & things got alot better until my H lost his job, then things got bad for a while but are now good again. It just depends on cercumstances and how well you deal with stresses of life. My H doesn't deal with it very well & I've learned to deal with it better.Things can/do change after awhile but all that could happen even if you didn't get married it just easier to get out of it if your not married, it can make people run from their problems unstead of trying to really work them out. But I think most of the change comes with kids, good and bad thats my opinion anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
kitchwitch Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 The day that we got married! I mean, the ink wasn't even dry on the marriage license and he said, "I have a piece of paper that says I own you now." I thought he was kidding. He wasn't. Link to post Share on other sites
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