Abe Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 So my ex and I had been talking for a week prior to my going away party at work. We decided we'd try to hang out before the party to talk and whatnot. She came over and told me she was extremely nervous about seeing me again which I agreed with. I explained that everything that happened was in the past and I wasnt bitter about our breakup. Things seemed to go fine until she started to seem to get bitter again. She said she was very tired and almost didn't come out but had to come out..she wanted to see me and she'd deal with being tired. I tried to keep the conversation light....making jokes but she kept turning back to things, bad things that happened in our relationship....I tried laughing off some of the things she was saying but it just seemed like she was just still bitter about some things that happened. She got a voicemail from her sister while she was there. My ex had recently bought a house and her sister was there staying and said that she thought she saw a cockroach...long story short. My ex left about 25 minutes after she got there...saying she had to take care of this cockroach situation. I haven't heard from her since. Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 Originally posted by Abe saying she had to take care of this cockroach situation. Sorry dude .. Left for a cockroach.. Sounds like it was an excuse that her and her sister had set up prior to you guys going out .. Just in case she needed an excuse to leave .. She used it .. Step back .. don't call her .. Since she left the ball would be in her court.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Abe Posted July 23, 2005 Author Share Posted July 23, 2005 Oh believe me I know. I'm still suprised she was getting bitter like she was. I don't want to get back together with this girl. I just wanted to attempt at being friends again...which looks like it isnt going to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
markraine Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 what was she bitter about exactly? Was it a pretty bad breakup or what? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Abe Posted July 23, 2005 Author Share Posted July 23, 2005 yeah it was a really ugly break up. She was bitter because I'm now doing the things that she wanted me to do when we were together......once she broke up with me she went off on a list of things that she didnt like about me.....basically last night she went off about the way i was dressing. Before I was pretty simple in my style of dress.....once she broke up with me I started working out regularly...I went out with a female friend a bought a whole new wardrobe...when I got dumped I felt unappealing and basically like I was unwanted. After I started doing all those things I started to feel better about myself.....she was right about the things she said that were wrong with me and I was doing whatever it took to change those things about myself and I've done it. IMO she's bitter because I'm doing these things now and didn't do them when I was with her. When we talked about a year ago I explained to her that when she broke up with me a light went off in my head and I realized I needed to change some things. Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 I would not call her. If she wants to talk to you she will call you. She needs to get over your breakup. That was over a year ago. The cockroach thing is about a lame as an excuse as you can get. How long where you guys together for??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Abe Posted July 23, 2005 Author Share Posted July 23, 2005 We were friends for 2 years before getting together...and we were a couple for about 2 years. I actually just talked to her...she said that it really was a cockroach in her place she told me not to be a stranger...and that once everything settles down with her new home she and i quote "would honestly like to hang out with me again" so thats that...we'll see what happens... Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 Maybe she got over her senses and decided that she would like to have you in her life agian. I would take this one really slow. Go with the flow. Good Luck with it. Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted July 24, 2005 Share Posted July 24, 2005 Ya really, I think this girl either wants to get back together or atleast still has feelings for you. I mean, she is still bitter after a whole year after a breakup? As the saying goes, the opposite of love is indifference, not hate. The fact that she is still bitter over this whole thing tells me that she still likes you. Are you sure you have no interest in having her back? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Abe Posted July 24, 2005 Author Share Posted July 24, 2005 I may be interested...honestly I would need to see how things went in the future. IMO I don't think she wants to get back together......but everyone that I talk to seems to believe that she might. She didn't ask me if I was seeing anyone and I didn't ask her if she was seeing anyone. A mutual friend of ours is going to talk to her on Monday....I explained what happened to him and he's going to ask her how the night went to get her take on it. He promised he wouldn't mention that I even talked to him so....I guess we'll see what she has to say....not that she'd give him an honest answer...but its something i guess Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted July 24, 2005 Share Posted July 24, 2005 Originally posted by Abe IMO I don't think she wants to get back together......but everyone that I talk to seems to believe that she might. You should take into account what everyone else says as well. I've learned that a lot of times one can be oblivious to how a person is feeling...but people around who have an unbiased view can sometimes give a lot of insight on a situation. Originally posted by Abe She didn't ask me if I was seeing anyone and I didn't ask her if she was seeing anyone. A mutual friend of ours is going to talk to her on Monday....I explained what happened to him and he's going to ask her how the night went to get her take on it. He promised he wouldn't mention that I even talked to him so....I guess we'll see what she has to say....not that she'd give him an honest answer...but its something i guess You never know she might spill her guts a little bit. If she suspects that you planted a mole (your friend) she might share how she feels knowing that what he says will go to you. In a sense, she gets to say what she wants without having to tell it directly to you...which is a lot easier for most people. If she doesn't suspect anything, then again she will probably be honest because she has no clue that he will tell you. It's a win-win situation in my opinion. Anyways see how it goes and hopefully you can get some tidbits of info at the very least. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Abe Posted July 25, 2005 Author Share Posted July 25, 2005 we'll see what happens...i have a feeling my friend forgot to even ask her Link to post Share on other sites
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