So there's this cute guy at work...

[Fallen_Angel]

Originally posted by AMBOMB72

I have an idea. The next time you walk by him, make sure he sees you and then turn around and look at him when you pass him. If he's looking back (checking you out), he likes you.

 

That's so 9th grade...I LOVE IT!!

 

I'll try to make sure to dress extra nice tomorrow. Thanks for the tip.

[Fallen_Angel]

I had lunch with the cute guy today!!!!

 

I chalk it up to fate. Last night I called my ex and ended up staying up late because we were on the phone for close to an hour. I was angry and upset...and VERY tired this morning. I was going to go to lunch with another coworker but at the last minute she switched lunch with someone else. I was planning on calling one of my friends to discuss what happened last night but decided against it.

 

So as I'm walking to the convenience store I look behind me (VERY discreetly!) and I can see him walking a short distance behind me. I reached the store before he did. I was trying to find a sandwich in one of the display things and I saw him a few feet away. I was SO close to opening my mouth, and he walked away!

 

Lucky for me, the line at the register was really long, and he ended up standing behind me. Due to my lack of sleep (read: I was too tired to stop myself from being afraid!), I went for it...I turned around and said "Hey, how funny was it that I saw you driving last week? Do you know someone from [my town]?" Yeah, he knew it was me! Turns out he lives in the next town over from me!!!! After I paid for my food (which I honestly can't remember, it was such an exciting blur) I said "Do you have any plans for lunch?"

 

We had to wait for his sandwich at the deli counter, which seemingly took forever, but I did not mind one bit! I tried not to blabber too much, but I was making him laugh, which was really cool. We walked back and ate lunch outside. Sometimes there was a pause in the conversation, but I tried not to freak about it. After all, I didn't want to come across as one of those girls who doesn't know when to stop talking! I think maybe he might be a little shy, who knows. But we talked a lot about work and what we did before work...turns out he just graduated, so I figure he must be younger than me (I'm 24). And he even held the door open for me when we walked back into the building.

 

So for the first time in a looooong time, I had an unforced smile on my face. And when I left at the end of the day, I saw him on the way to my car. He smiled and waved. I swooned. Well, I smiled and waved back, and once I was out of sight I swooned.

 

Gosh, I hope I continue to get the noon lunch. I ought to ask my supervisor!! Yay for courage!!!!!!

[AMBOMB72]

Are you in love with this guy?

[Fallen_Angel]

Um, not really, seeing as I barely know him. Sorry if I was a little overexuberant. This has been a really rough summer for me.

 

I know I shouldn't make a huge deal out of it all, and I won't, but it was nice to be happy for a change!

[Zephyr45]

Grats! Keep us posted.

[AMBOMB72]

Originally posted by Fallen_Angel

Um, not really, seeing as I barely know him. Sorry if I was a little overexuberant. This has been a really rough summer for me.

 

I know I shouldn't make a huge deal out of it all, and I won't, but it was nice to be happy for a change!

You have nothing to apologize for and there's nothing wrong with a little exuberance, nor is there anything wrong with making a huge deal of your crush on this guy.

[Fallen_Angel]

Well, that's a relief.

 

Now I'm trying to figure out where to go from here. Yesterday and today I had a later lunch. (I'm 99% sure he has the noon lunch.) I saw him Thursday as I was leaving but I don't think he saw me. Today as I was leaving I saw him near his desk but again, not sure if he saw me.

 

Soooooo...on Monday I have noon lunch. I was thinking maybe I'd e-mail him. The company e-mail addresses are standard fare, ie. first initial/last [email protected].. And the company website has an employee directory, where I could theoretically find his last name (already know it! hehe). So I figure if he got an e-mail from me, it wouldn't look insanely stalkerish seeing as I know his first name and the software department he works in, and a simple search of the employee directory would bring up his record.

 

After lunch Wednesday I left things as "so I guess I'll see you around?" Would an e-mail inquiring as to his lunch plans sent late on Monday morning be a bad thing? I mean, what do I have to lose? If he blows me off, then I can just ignore him, right, and if we DO have lunch again...well...there'd be some swooning.

 

Oh yeah...almost forgot...I did happen to tell someone at work about this. I hope she doesn't tell anyone! Anyhow, she walked past his desk the other day and there weren't any pictures on it, so I'm assuming he's single.

[AndrewJ]

Send the email.

 

No harm in trying

 

All the best

[A-5]

Just a quick word of advice. You might want to make sure he is single before getting too hyped up over this guy. You seem to really like this guy, but if he is not single you are still going to have the same feelings for him(I'd assume) and you wolnt be able to do anything with those feelings. So find out if he is taken ASAP or you will be stuck wanting a guy that you can never have. Good luck though.

[outdated]

Good for you FA. You're on your way!

[Fallen_Angel]

I decided over the weekend that I would send an e-mail about lunch today, and let me just say I have NEVER been so nervous about clicking "send" in all the years I've been dealing with e-mail!!! I even made a joke about my last name (as it has inspired countless jokes over the years) just so...I don't know, so as to appear lighthearted or whatever. Two minutes later (felt like 2 hours on my end, but that's not surprising!) he said he had to do some research online but was most likely going to grab some food from the convenience store first.

 

I replied and said I'd "forgotten" my lunch (I've had soup in the drawer for a week! Ha) and said I'd go with him if he'd like. He said sure and I told him where my desk was - it's about 6 or 7 up from his, but the way the cubes are designed I can't see him. So at noon on the nose I stared at my clock and my heart started racing...and then he appeared! Sigh.

 

We talked about work and this past weekend and such and I made him laugh again (swoon )! Of course the walk to and from the convenience store seemed entirely too short for me, but c'est la vie. (It's a little more than 2 blocks from work.)

 

I tried to catch him at the end of the day, but as he was driving past he was fumbling with something or other and didn't see me. Or maybe he was trying NOT to see me, but then again he did wave and smile last week so why would he avoid me now?! I'm so overanalytical.

 

I'm still stumped, though. Is he shy?!?! I surely don't want to come off as some overly aggressive/desperate female. I want him to ask me to lunch! I know the obvious solution is to wait and see what happens...but what happens if I wait and nothing happens?!?!

[AMBOMB72]

Did you ever try looking behind you when you pass him to see if he's looking at you?

[AndrewJ]

fa,

 

U seem to be acting a lil crazy

 

Maybee u should ask him if he wnats to do something outside work on a staurday arvo or something.

 

I can sense that u are very jittery

[blue16]

Ok heres what I think you should do Fallen_Angel. You have let your interest known (or atleast the fact that you enjoy his company) by asking him for lunch on two occasions. Now...don't email him or ask him out to lunch anymore unless he does first. This will be the test of whether he truly enjoys spending time with you or is just agreeing because hey - it's just a casual lunch and you're a great girl, and saying yes is much easier than declining and seeming unfriendly. If he doesn't email you back or ask you out etc then I would just move on. If he is interested, he will definitely try to find a way to spend time with you...without you having to initiate anything.

[Fallen_Angel]

Me? Jittery?! Well, nervous energy is my middle name...

 

I haven't tried to look behind me to see if he's looking. I don't seem to have enough run-ins with him.

 

But blue, you're right. The absolute LAST thing I want is for him to think is that I'm over-aggressive and/or desperate. He knows whereabout my desk is, and he could always e-mail me. Even if he is shy...sending an e-mail isn't too hard! Heck, I did it!

 

Anyhow, I know if I don't hear from him in the next few days I may as well just give up and resign myself to being just a friend. (How many other times has this happened?! I should SO be used to this by now.) Even by the end of today I felt pretty despondent because I didn't hear anything from him. C'est la vie.

[karlym3]

fallen- I am going through the same thing right now.. dating men at work. I am going to try the same as you but text page. you have to thin kthat after you intiate something-if they do not jump at it.. then they must not be interested I can feel your pain..!!!!!!!

[amerikajin]

I'm with alpha on this one: don't confuse the soup bowl with the toilet boil.

 

Yes, you definitely can date people you work with, but what are the odds that you're going to end up getting married? And what are the odds that things are going to get pretty awkward around the office if you two break up, especially if he/she ends up dating someone else at work? The latter's more likely - not necessarily finding a new partner at work, but definitely the awkwardness. And then what? It's not that you can't find good people to date at work, but you can also find good people away from the office. I won't say don't date at work, but it's a good idea to try to look elsewhere first.

[Fallen_Angel]

Yeah, I don't think he's interested. He'll act polite if we run into each other, but that's all.

 

Oh well. His loss!!

 

I was walking not far behind him when I got out of work today (and he knew it!) but I was talking to some other people. Wouldn't you know I ended up driving behind him as well. AND he was going on the highway in the same direction I was. So for whatever reason he's sloooowly merging onto the highway (he has some late 80's model Dodge type thing, I have a 2001 Mercury) - must be the 4 cylinders?! Hehe. I thought, eff this. He can literally eat my dust. After maybe 30 seconds or so of driving behind him I saw an opening in the left lane and gunned it, leaving him behind.

 

Back to trolling the personal sites for dates, I suppose.

[Cookie Puss]

Originally posted by alphamale

Yes...if you like your job and getting a paycheck then heed my advice. Never date anyone you work with, no exceptions.

lol, i love how people are so black/white about the subject. btw, this is poor advice.

 

 

 

Originally posted by alphamale

You're talking about the very small percentage of work relationships that end up working out or ending in marriage. The vast majority don't work out and cause major strife for the employees. It is a double-edged sword dating at work cause it is probably one of the best places to find people with things in common but having a romantic relationship with a co-worker can end in disaster, and usually does.

 

now you're just making things up. stop copy/pasting what you read in the players guide and start using real life experiences. i've seen only a small percentage of relationships break up and ruin for everyone. people usually break up and go on with their lives, otherwise the relationship works. now if you're working at ma and pa's supermarket and there's 8 employees, then that might be a problem.