Considering divorce and other options--advice needed

[amillion11]

I posted about my situation over on the infidelity board. I'm looking for advice because my wife is having an emotional infidelity with her old boyfriend.

 

There are lots of moving parts in this thing and I'm weighing a number of options--from divorce to attempting to fix things.

 

Any advice you could give would help me a lot.

 

Thanks in advance.

[Just the Motions]

Hi Amillion,

 

What is your definition of, "emotional infidelity"?

 

That can cover a broad range of things.

Phone sex? Flirting? Simply confiding in him?

Is it even possible to be unfaithful, "emotionally"?

 

Personally, I have a tendency to jump to conclusions and think the worst.

 

Have you asked her about this?

Have you told her that you are uncomfortable with it? If not, please do so.

 

I think too many of us take our commitments way too casually.

We get married with the idea that if it doesn't work out, we'll get out.

In front of witnesses, we vowed, some form of, "'til death do us part".

So I really believe that divorce is always the last option!!

 

My advice is to talk to your wife...about everything.

Don't be concerned with opening that proverbial can of worms. Get it all out.

And if you can't resolve issues between the 2 of you, seek outside assistance in the form of marriage counseling, clergy, or whoever you're most comfortable with.

 

But please, exhaust all other options before throwing in the towel.

 

Good luck!