Sasha Merk Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 My boyfriend didn't have our condoms in the box I was on the bed and heard some of clicking noise like they were hid in a brief case under his bed. This happened one week and then another. The second time i jumped myfeet to see wasgoing on but he tossed them toward the floor and i should have confrontedhim then but I didn't. It's been a month and I have been having cheating nightmares this could be from my subconscious or from a intuition. I have been in his room alone and have not looked into the briefcase. Should I confront him with feelings and ask why the condoms were somewhere else, or snoop through to avoid an awkward argument that will be defended with a lie Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyana76 Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Why does where he keeps the condoms have to be such an issue? At least he has them and is using them with you... who cares where he keeps them? Is there more to the story here? Do you think hes cheating? Do you think there is unusual stuff in the briefcase that would freak you out? I have no idea whats going through your mind or why its a big deal where he keeps them? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Should I confront him with feelings and ask why the condoms were somewhere else, or snoop through to avoid an awkward argument that will be defended with a lie Snooping to avoid an awkward conversation, discussion or argument is not ever going to be a constructive strategy; it does not take the place of acquiring needed-in-life communication and conflict resolution skills. If you think that he is traveling with his condoms because he is having additional sex 'on the road', as it were, then just calmly tell him your concerns about what has led him to all-of-a-sudden keep the condoms in his briefcase under his bed. You do not have to be confrontational or argumentative. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyana76 Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Just ask him about it... don't be a sneak.. open up a conversation without being confrontational. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sasha Merk Posted February 23, 2017 Author Share Posted February 23, 2017 Why does where he keeps the condoms have to be such an issue? At least he has them and is using them with you... who cares where he keeps them? Is there more to the story here? Do you think hes cheating? Do you think there is unusual stuff in the briefcase that would freak you out? I have no idea whats going through your mind or why its a big deal where he keeps them? Hi Lilyana, Thanks for the response, there has been a missing condom in the past that was denied that's why it bothers me, and they are always in the box available for me or him to grab and easy to reach. I almost feel like there are more hidden in the briefcase. It is really weird to have them "hiding" Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Hi Lilyana, Thanks for the response, there has been a missing condom in the past that was denied that's why it bothers me, and they are always in the box available for me or him to grab and easy to reach. I almost feel like there are more hidden in the briefcase. It is really weird to have them "hiding" You already have your answer if this is truly the case. Link to post Share on other sites
ElizabethIII Posted February 24, 2017 Share Posted February 24, 2017 Snoop. If you confront they lie. Link to post Share on other sites
Joga_31 Posted February 24, 2017 Share Posted February 24, 2017 My boyfriend didn't have our condoms in the box I was on the bed and heard some of clicking noise like they were hid in a brief case under his bed. This happened one week and then another. The second time i jumped myfeet to see wasgoing on but he tossed them toward the floor and i should have confrontedhim then but I didn't. It's been a month and I have been having cheating nightmares this could be from my subconscious or from a intuition. I have been in his room alone and have not looked into the briefcase. Should I confront him with feelings and ask why the condoms were somewhere else, or snoop through to avoid an awkward argument that will be defended with a lie confront him! Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyana76 Posted February 24, 2017 Share Posted February 24, 2017 If this is the case, where he is now hiding them because you questioned a missing one, its time to walk. I wouldn't confront him because hes just going to deny and lie and deflect. I would pick up my dignity and just walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 24, 2017 Share Posted February 24, 2017 If the trust is gone you don't have much of a relationship. I'd probably ask a sweet Q like "Honey why did you move the condoms from the night stand to a less convenient location?" Gage his reaction. Problem is if he has a brain in his head he'll just buy 2 boxes: one you know about & can access & one to keep in this brief case under the bed. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 24, 2017 Share Posted February 24, 2017 So let me get this straight....you were lying on the bed and it sounded like he went for a condom out of his briefcase? Does he live with a roommate? or has buddies come over all the time? Maybe he was tired of them tapping into his supply. Link to post Share on other sites
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