Are men more attracted to younger women?

[Gaeta]

I was single from 45 to 50.

 

I never felt I had less chances at dating and love because of my age. I never felt younger women were my competitions and I never felt men would prefer a younger one than I.

 

I had tons of attention and most of them were younger.

 

When I pointed my age they'd answer: Doesn't matter you look good.

 

So no, I don't think age matter for a man - what matters is they're attracted to you, you're energetic, bubbly, and confident in your sexiness.

[thefooloftheyear]

Not referencing anyone n the thread or anyone else, but

 

Saying as a woman

 

"hey, I got all kinds of offers", doesn't count for much...sorry..

 

A wrinkled up old lady or a warthog MamaJune type would get all kinds of offers as well..

 

Point is that none of those types of experiences are really valid when we start to talk about what quality guys will really want in a woman they want to enter into an actual relationship with..

 

Now excuse me while I don my flame suit...

 

 

TFY

[central]

I'm attracted to women of all ages - some even older than myself - as long as they are reasonably fit and have a slender to average body type. Younger women in general are more likely to look good compared to older women, but there are plenty of attractive older women, too.

 

 

What then matters is their personality, intellect, values, and tastes - there are some beautiful women with ugly personalities which make them unattractive overall. While there are less attractive women with lovely personalities, I do not find myself romantically attracted to them. I want a combination of looks and personality to be attracted, regardless of age.

[JamesM]

Depends but I find myself more attracted to younger women based only on physical looks...as in below 45...more than I did before. Part of that is because I am just over 50, and sadly many women are not as fit as they were. No, we men aren't either.

 

Having said that, mentally and emotionally many over 45 women catch my attention because they are on the "same page" as I am.

 

So, sitting down for a cup of coffee? Women 45 and older. Having a hot night of sex? Younger than 45.

 

A long term relationship? One who is fit and mentally on the same page with me, age being secondary. The hot sex will follow.

 

Now please realize that all of the above is my thinking and not reality. I am married and my wife and I are on the same page mentally. I would rather have a cup of coffee with her as opposed to any other woman.

 

Just answering the question IF I were single.

[carhill]

As men age, are they more attracted to younger women or women their own age?

In general, I think men find women, age irrespective, attractive in the sexual sense. Sure, some men cast a wider sexual net than others.

I honestly want to know how men feel about this or what they have experienced.

The vast majority of my social circle, including men who've cast those wide nets in their youth or even today strictly from the 'I'm married not dead' standpoint, married women their own age or perhaps a slight bit older or younger, like a few years at most. None over ten.

I have always found older men attractive, but, as I age, I'm becoming aware that I will one day catch up to the guys I've viewed as older men. Will they find me attractive at that point?

I think I understand what you mean, even though you'll never 'catch up' to any specific men since none of us can, yet, warp time. Those men will always be older. For example, a lady, younger lady, I found attractive in my 20's might, not guaranteed but might, still be attractive to me in my 50's even though we're both older. I might be equally attracted to her daughter who's in her 20's.

I'm 36, and I don't generally find men in their 20s attractive. I'm usually attracted to men in their 40s or even early 50s.

Yeah, that's, if persistent, your style. People vary widely in attraction style.

 

For example, do men in their 50s find women in their 50s attractive? Or would they rather have a younger woman?

I'm nearly 60 and still find women my own age, and even older, sexually attractive. Sure, younger women too but not to the exclusion of my peers. Being relationship-focused, I tend to find more common ground with women my own age or older so the younger gals are kinda cool to admire but not of real interest as relationship prospects and I'm not into casual sex so that covers that part.

Do men want to have sex with women as they age? Because, let's face it, the body changes over time.

Sure, IME. If a lady is attractive to me, of course I'd like to have sexual relations with her, generally within the confines of a relationship or marriage. Pretty exteriors are nice and and not age-exclusive but IME the long-lasting beauty and desirability comes from within.

I'm not looking for politically correct answers or a discussion on sexism; I'm just looking for some honest discussion on the topic. I don't think it's sexist for a man to be more attracted to a younger woman, and I don't want the topic to devolve into that please.

 

Everyone has their own style and IMO as long as no one is being materially harmed, to each their own. If one of my friends likes flirting with the young bikini clad babes on the beach, hey no skin of my nose unless he's taking it beyond what another friend of mine, his wife, finds appropriate. Men do what they do and, yup, most of the successful ones didn't get there by obeying boundaries all the time. They push. Age, looks, relationships, work, you name it. We see it every day.

 

My personal anecdote is most of the women I dated in life were within a few years of my age, very few more than five years younger or older. The one I married was a couple months older. YMMV!

[BC1980]

Thanks for all the answers. I think the consensus is that age is more of a secondary factor. It does seem like people tend to let themselves go physically as they get older, and people also seem to get bitter due to past relationships. Some people stay youthful, and don't look how you might imagine someone who is middle aged. A lot of it depends on who well you keep up your appearances, if you exercise, eat right, dress nicely, ect. And just having a general positive attitude about life makes one attractive.

[BC1980]

My advise for older women is keep up your looks/body as best you can...Desirable guys your age really prefer/want you, moreso than a younger woman.. but they won't settle if you are falling apart physically...Sorry, I know that sounds kinda crude...

 

TFY

 

Nah, I don't think it's crude. If women are honest, they will admit the same. Very few people are going to be attracted to someone who is obese and slovenly. I'm attracted to guys who are and fit and healthy. 3 years ago, I did go on a date with someone I met on Match, and he was about 20 lbs. heavier than his pictures. I still thought he was cute though, but that might have been because I had been talking to him for a few weeks and gotten to know him on a personal level. A little pudge is fine, but I've never been attracted to someone who is extremely overweight or even someone who is thin but looks sloppy and unkempt.

[JamesM]

Thanks for all the answers. I think the consensus is that age is more of a secondary factor. It does seem like people tend to let themselves go physically as they get older, and people also seem to get bitter due to past relationships. Some people stay youthful, and don't look how you might imagine someone who is middle aged. A lot of it depends on who well you keep up your appearances, if you exercise, eat right, dress nicely, ect. And just having a general positive attitude about life makes one attractive.

 

I know of two women, one in her mid 60s and another in her early 70s (yes, 70s) who I find to be attractive. And the 70 plus one looks younger than her age and is quite flirty. She is fit and in great shape. And her eyes.....

 

Age is secondary to being fit and full of life.

[BC1980]

Sorry but this is no longer the case. Men like to think this is the way we think.

 

Can you elaborate?

[elaine567]

 

Age is secondary to being fit and full of life.

 

I agree a 20 yo who has no spark will not find many suitors.

Neither will older men and women for whom the zest for life has disappeared.

Men and women are attracted to interesting people who are fun to be around.

Of course if a man is looking for a woman to be the mother to a brood of his kids then he is not going to be looking at 40-50+ yos, and young women who want young fit fathers for their children are not going to consider 40-50+ yo guys either.

 

My feeling is that relationships are hard enough without introducing large generation gaps into the mix.

 

...we went out with a group of couples the other night..one of them was a 55 year old guy and a 35 year old wife. She was miserable and and over-sharer. He was nice, way overweight, losing his hearing (he couldn't understand anything) and wanting to go home early and whatnot, complaining to her in front of everyone. Later when she wasn't around she was talking to a group of us about how he so old, he used to be fun, she just wants to go out and have fun and he always ruins it for her, she's been with him 10 years and feels trapped, should have never been with someone so much older, different generation, was fun at first but not now, etc.

[GorillaTheater]

As men age, are they more attracted to younger women or women their own age? I honestly want to know how men feel about this or what they have experienced. I want women's opinions too. I have always found older men attractive, but, as I age, I'm becoming aware that I will one day catch up to the guys I've viewed as older men. Will they find me attractive at that point? I'm 36, and I don't generally find men in their 20s attractive. I'm usually attracted to men in their 40s or even early 50s.

 

 

Sooo, how you doin'?

 

For example, do men in their 50s find women in their 50s attractive? Or would they rather have a younger woman? Do men want to have sex with women as they age? Because, let's face it, the body changes over time. I'm not looking for politically correct answers or a discussion on sexism; I'm just looking for some honest discussion on the topic. I don't think it's sexist for a man to be more attracted to a younger woman, and I don't want the topic to devolve into that please.

 

 

I imagine other men might say differently, but this man in his 50s definitely finds women in their 50s (one in particular) very attractive. I might spare a glance for an attractive younger woman, but I couldn't imagine myself in a relationship with one. I value maturity and common experiences.

[BC1980]

Sooo, how you doin'?

 

 

 

 

I imagine other men might say differently, but this man in his 50s definitely finds women in their 50s (one in particular) very attractive. I might spare a glance for an attractive younger woman, but I couldn't imagine myself in a relationship with one. I value maturity and common experiences.

 

The last guy I dated was 16 years older than me! I work in a hospital, so I find myself around 40-50 something doctors all day long. They are like fine wine to me. All married of course When I was getting my masters degree, I had the biggest crush on my professor who was 20 years older than me. I saw him at Starbucks last summer, and I still found him attractive. He's got to be in his 50s now. I don't if that's normal or just me. Maybe I have some unresolved issues. . . . I do find that men get better with age though.

 

That is a sweet thing to say about who I assume is your wife.

[BikerAccnt]

Sooo, how you doin'?

 

 

 

 

I imagine other men might say differently, but this man in his 50s definitely finds women in their 50s (one in particular) very attractive. I might spare a glance for an attractive younger woman, but I couldn't imagine myself in a relationship with one. I value maturity and common experiences.

 

Have to agree with OldShirt here. As a 50 something man, I definitely find women in their 50's attractive; provided they've kept up with their appearances. Women of all ages are attractive, certainly in a sexual way. But, I also couldn't imagine a relationship with someone more than 9 or 10 years either side of me. To much life experience differences.

 

--Oh and on the attractive thing. That goes both ways, we men need to keep up our appearances too. The beer belly thing only attracts so many

[anduina]

Considering the google porn search analysis, teen is in the top ten in the majority of the 51 countries analyzed.

 

Most popular porn searches of 2014 by country (51 Photos) : theCHIVE

 

Something else to reinforce the male fixation with younger females, an analytic of OKcupid. The older the guy, the wider he casts his net but only for younger females where the trend line remains consistent for older women.

 

https://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2010/02/22/ok-cupid-data-on-sex-desirability-and-age/3-32/

 

To contrast, the same analytic for female daters on OKcupid.

 

https://thesocietypages.org/socimages/files/2010/02/2.png

[M1ke12]

I can just tell you how I feel. This isn't true with all my friends though.

 

I am 46. I am interested in women 38-50. I am interested in women that take care of themselves. Women that are active. I am not asking that they are even as fit as I am.

 

Younger women can be pretty to me until they open their mouth ......and before I get slaughtered here for saying that, I find 20 something guys equally as annoying.

 

For me, sexy is way more then looks. Sexy has so much to do with attitude, connection, personality.

 

Having sex without that connection is not nearly as good. Its just empty.

 

I am currently dating (probably too soon after a break up) but that is what I am looking for, that connection.

[Chilli]

lf she's kept her looks and body then hell yeah l can be very attracted to women my age.

And every now and then l might see someone that's even a few yrs older than me yet she might look better than most 10 - 15 yrs younger.

The problem is that is very hard to find so of course younger women attract me more.

 

But in saying that , most of the women are out there chasing younger guys now anyway so what's the difference, all the same reasons.

 

ps op, but 36, is about the hottest age of all l reckon, so there ya go, enjoy it.

Come to think of it , when l was 36 l could pretty well take my pick too and the biggest hassle was older women coming onto me , even in front of my w, so, once again, there's not much difference between the sexes , really.

[salparadise]

My theory is that estrogen keeps women who are in their reproductive years looking attractive to men, largely by keeping the skin tight and supple. This fertile look continues a few years post menopause, and then the skin loosens and wrinkles and the texture signals the stage of life. It makes sense that the genes of men that determine them to be attracted to fertile women will proliferate, and the more fertile the better as far as that goes. As with all species, sexual attraction and fertility are inextricably linked, one in the same. If that ever becomes untrue, those genes will go extinct pretty fast.

 

To me, 50 year olds remain quite attractive even though I'm past that age. 60 year olds, not so much.

[Popsicle]

People try to get the BEST LOOKING person the can get. Age doesn't matter. They will go for the best looking person they can get regardless of age. This is why you see people together with big age gaps.

 

Some people are lucky enough to pull attractive people both young and old. In that case, they will usually go for someone with the same level of maturity and interest as they have -which is usually someone around their same age.

[Nightstick008]

I'm 46, male. I do look at younger woman say college age and find them attractive. However as a single man, I look for woman my own age. I'd prefer a woman at least 40 but most likely not older than 50.

 

I'm also not picky about a little extra weight. I'm actually physically fit and a decent looking man. I still have a pulse and have all my teeth. Up around my parts that's considered decent.

[ManyDissapoint]

Yes, younger women are more attractive to me. But it wouldn't be as much of a factor for me if I didn't want to start a family.

[The_Dork_Lard]

BC1980, excuse me but I haven't read any of the thread, I've decided to simply post my perspective.

 

I'm a 38 year old male, and my whole life I've found women my age and older attractive. For some reason, I don't find younger women attractive. In my entire adult life I've had one younger girlfriend who was 2 years younger. Al the others have been between 1 month and 8 years older.

 

When I was 13, I found 13 year old girls attractive, and other women up to about 40. At that time a 25 year old was an older woman, lol. Any woman over 40 seemed like a dragon.

 

When I reached 18 my window seemed to be 16-45. Seeing 45 year olds in men's magazines with stockings and seductive lips was excruciatingly joyful.

 

Now I'm 38, I find women between approximately 35 and 70 attractive.

 

When (or indeed if) I'm 70, I'll probably like women 60-80.

 

I've done lots of thinking about this, and from my perspective women fall into 2 camps as they age. There are those who let themselves go in all spheres (mentally, spiritually, physically), and those who become like works of art. I've met some 35 year old women who repulse me with their inner ugliness, and some who thrill me. I've also met some 60 year old women who turn me off wirh their facelifts because there is nothing quite so ageing as a facelift. I've met other 60 year olds who give me raging hard-ons because they exude an amazing energy and vibrancy, and it's always in the eyes. Basically, what I'm trying to say is, I think men will find any woman attractive at any age if she is attractive, and attractiveness isn't necessarily inherent in looks alone. For me it's spirit and mind, and the physical attraction often follows.

 

I have to add, I've never wanted children, and do not have any. If I did, I'd probably look for somebody my age. But as attraction goes (as the topic title states), then it's anything (older) goes for me.

[zeeohsixer]

Yes. 21-25 is the best age.

[M1ke12]

People try to get the BEST LOOKING person the can get. Age doesn't matter. They will go for the best looking person they can get regardless of age. This is why you see people together with big age gaps.

 

Some people are lucky enough to pull attractive people both young and old. In that case, they will usually go for someone with the same level of maturity and interest as they have -which is usually someone around their same age.

 

Hmmm, maybe you are right. But it is a generalization. I was dating a very attractive 37 YO women and I gave her up for someone that I had little in common with but a very strong attraction to. That attraction was weird. She wasn't as attractive as the 37 year old Polish woman. Not even close by normal standards. But she had a quality that can't be described and that people other then me don't necessarily see.

 

It extended beyond looks.

[CaliforniaGirl]

Considering the google porn search analysis, teen is in the top ten in the majority of the 51 countries

 

...followed IMMEDIATELY by MILF. You noticed that, right? Hmm.

 

The overwhelming majority of people in the U.S. marry within 10 years of one another, with the bulk of those being 7 *or fewer* years' difference.

 

I'm not worried that any given man is just slightly more likely to beat off to the idea of a teen than myself. The very tiny apparent difference there does not seem to ultimately impact that he will still want to wind up with me, the woman comparatively close to his age, so apparently, it's not all that big a problem.

 

I don't imagine the French lesbians on that porn list are all that much of a threat either, so I'm not going to lose very much sleep over this.

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[anduina]

...followed IMMEDIATELY by MILF. You noticed that, right? Hmm.

 

The overwhelming majority of people in the U.S. marry within 10 years of one another, with the bulk of those being 7 *or fewer* years' difference.

 

I'm not worried that any given man is just slightly more likely to beat off to the idea of a teen than myself. The very tiny apparent difference there does not seem to ultimately impact that he will still want to wind up with me, the woman comparatively close to his age, so apparently, it's not all that big a problem.

 

I don't imagine the French lesbians on that porn list are all that much of a threat either, so I'm not going to lose very much sleep over this.

That's fine since my post wasn't intended to hurt or harm anyone. Only to provide information. Don't forget that I'm not a teen either, in my late twenties.