bubbaganoosh Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 I was at my best friends house to drop off a saw I borrows from him. He was on the front porch and we were talking and I went in his house to get a drink of water. I grabbed a glass and as i drank it ii looked out the window and his wife was getting a tan...........naked. She was behind a table where you couldn't see anything from the road but from the kitchen you could see anything. I came back out on the porch and Talked to him for a while and then I had to leave but never mentioned anything. It was an accident and I left it at that and wasn't about to open a can of worms. Not to mention that I've known him for a long time and didn't want to embarrass him or her. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 I am NEVER going to look over the fence in my neighbor's yard! Link to post Share on other sites
aileD Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 You have to tell your wife about the text. This is no accident now. Jane is pursuing you and letting you know she's interested. She is now a threat to your marriage Your wife needs to know immediately and you BOtH need to confront Jane together and make it clear it's innapropriate 5 Link to post Share on other sites
AngryGromit Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 She was laying on her stomach and feeling out of place I left pretty fast. I just assumed she was on her back, geez, I see more at my local beach in the summer, don't be such a prude. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 I told my wife yesterday and she was a little concerned to start but then laughed her ass off about it which made me feel better. The laughter stopped about an hour ago. She came up with the idea to invite them over and see if anything was mentioned or if they would bite should she throw out some bait. We both were 90% sure Jane did this knowing what was going to happen. After a short text from her I'm now at 110%. We aren't sure about John and not sure if we will ever know. The text simply reads: Did you like? I'm not answering and before anyone says it no I won't share this with my wife. I will stay away but won't risk everything and everyone blowing up over something this small. I have never touched her in that manner and never plan to. I'm a little in shock right now but will post a couple of things said during our time together tonight. My wife isn't laughing anymore and neither am I TELL YOUR WIFE! Show her the text. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
PickledHead Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 Why on earth would you not tell your wife about the text?? Incase John finds out?..incase it ruins the friendship!? I'm pretty certain no one needs a friend like Jane in theirlife especially your wife and if John is completely in the dark and a friend then he too should know what his wife is like Had she pulled this for kicks on a random workman... each to there own! But she is supposed to be your wife's friend 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 This discussion reminds me of junior high school boys... "I saw her boobies!" The truth is, a mature, intelligent, happily married man would see this for what it is - trouble - and would tell his wife what happened and steer clear of this couple in the future. The fact that you have not done that makes me really wonder... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 The fact that you have not done that makes me really wonder... He has told his wife.. they have a laugh about it but realized it was done on purpose so he has decided to not tell her about the last text.. he wants to just end it and let it die. Would I share the last text with my wife.. yes.. but him not wanting to doesn't mean anything either since his wife knows about the incident and he is just exercising his own judgment at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
rick2016 Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 That text message changes eveything...she knew he was coming she set the scene, and wanted sex.This means she has very little respect for his wife.Her Husband is more likely in on it, there was nothing wrong with the dishwasher..I can see this friendship going nowhere but south. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 (edited) He has told his wife.. they have a laugh about it but realized it was done on purpose so he has decided to not tell her about the last text.. he wants to just end it and let it die. Would I share the last text with my wife.. yes.. but him not wanting to doesn't mean anything either since his wife knows about the incident and he is just exercising his own judgment at this point. Oh, I realize that. But, he has not told her about the last text and he has come here to discuss the whole situation. And his wife's response, that they should invite this couple over to see if they say anything or try to bait them about the situation, IMHO also shows a certain immaturity and poor judgment. I'm glad that OP and his wife find this amusing, but I don't actually understand the interest in this situation. This is a pretty easy one, tell your wife about the "accidental meeting" and then stay away. In other words, I think OP is clearly enjoying the "drama" of this all... Edited March 5, 2017 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
Globug Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 There is no reason there should be a secret between your neighbor and you that your wife does not know. Your loyalty lies with your wife not your neighbor and if your wife wants to blow up that is her right and the neighbor deserves it for being so disrespectful. I hope you will change your mind and just show your wife and the text and just say: "Now we know it was on purpose." I would shut the woman down to saying: "Actuallu made me uncomfortable at first but my wife got a good laugh out of it." 5 Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 AAhhh, it was clearly a setup from the beginning. The husband was in on it for a minimum and Jane likely was too. That's gross, stay away from them. I would have a totally different reaction if this were an authentically accidental view of Jane naked. That's just a mistake which needn't be discussed except with your W. Link to post Share on other sites
AngryGromit Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 That text message changes evey thing...she knew he was coming she set the scene, and wanted sex.... So women who sunbath nude want sex? Who knew! Do women who dress sexy in public wanna be raped too? I do not agree with your view nudity equals sex. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 So women who sunbath nude want sex? Who knew! Do women who dress sexy in public wanna be raped too? I do not agree with your view nudity equals sex. Normally I'd agree, but the text she sent the OP afterwards certainly makes it seem like she was baiting him. Did she want to fool around? Probably, although I guess we don't know for sure. One thing's certain: her intentions weren't innocent. Of course, we also don't know how long she watched the OP watch her butt. I'm also wondering about the OP. The last time we heard, he hadn't told his wife about the text. It's hard to come up with a good reason why he hasn't. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Yes, John and Jane could have set him up for a...prank too. And the follow-up text was a teasing one and not a seducing one. Be up front with them and ask...or a friendship will be lost. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Yes, John and Jane could have set him up for a...prank too. And the follow-up text was a teasing one and not a seducing one. Be up front with them and ask...or a friendship will be lost. Who would want to stay friends with people who play games like this... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Who would want to stay friends with people who play games like this... I don't know. It was kind of tongue in cheek. If there is any desire to still be friends, this has to dealt with. I know if it were my wife and I, then she and I would discuss it with them, but I suspect the friendship would dwindle away anyhow. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 (edited) I don't know. It was kind of tongue in cheek. If there is any desire to still be friends, this has to dealt with. I know if it were my wife and I, then she and I would discuss it with them, but I suspect the friendship would dwindle away anyhow. Agreed. For my partner and myself, there would be no desire to stay friends. This couple is looking for something that we, would not be interested in joining... Even if there was no proposition of actual sex, I wouldn't want to be friends with people who play these kinds of inappropriate and disrespectful games. Edited March 6, 2017 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 There was a lady who used to go to our church who was older than me by a decade. Her husband was an interstate trucker, and as a trustee in our church one of my jobs was to help our widows. Now this lady was no widow but one Sunday she did ask if I could come over and work on her dryer for her ( I used to be a repairman,). I told her sure and when I got there she was wearing a very suggestive housecoat...a see through and there was very little on underneath. She knew I was not married and it was clear what she really wanted. So like Joseph I made an excuse and left hastily. I did t go back to fix it he dryer, and she never talked to me again. Moral to my story is that sexual predators come in all shapes and sizes and you have to be careful. I refused to blow up this woman's marriage after having my exWW do the same to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Rockdad Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I for one am not assuming what the motive was be it a prank or testing the waters to see where the OP stood on some unknown matter. I couldn't tell you how many times I have worked naked at our neighbor ladies house and we are both naked. And yes she is very attractive. The thought of anything sexual isn't even remotely anywhere on the radar. Matter of fact we have been working on a project together when my wife showed up later. Our thoughts were great because we could use more help. Neighbor was at our house yesterday to help my Mrs on a painting project. Just because there is no clothing being worn by anyone doesn't infer to anything physical in nature. I'm an open and honest type. I would have no problem showing my wife the text the OP got and asking the neighbor to clue me in on what exactly was going on. I don't view it as that big of a deal. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 So women who sunbath nude want sex? Who knew! Do women who dress sexy in public wanna be raped too? I do not agree with your view nudity equals sex. Without a doubt Link to post Share on other sites
AngryGromit Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Neighbor was at our house yesterday to help my Mrs on a painting project. Just because there is no clothing being worn by anyone doesn't infer to anything physical in nature. I've painted rooms before in the nude, this way I didn't have to worry about getting paint on any clothing / shoes. I just started to paint my basement, but it's too cold down there to do it in the buff, need to wait for the warmer weather for that. Can't say I painted with others nude. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 I think the OP is setting himself up to fail by not revealing the follow up text to his wife. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 Whether some people walk around nude or not, it doesn't appear to me that it is normal for the neighbor to do so in front of the OP. And to followup with a text indicates to me that she knew he was coming. The only question is if she did it to seduce him (not likely), to tantalize him in a prank (possible), or teased him in what she and possibly her husband thought was a friendly manner. Reveal the latest text to your wife. Since you did with the first part finally, she may wonder why you didn't with the text. And explaining that will be more uncomfortable after the fact. Link to post Share on other sites
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