My Girlfriend Long distance Forced to Become an Escort

[justwhoiam]

two working girls where I live who are married to rich middle aged guys. The guys pay them a stipend every month that is significant ... into 5 figures (yes, really!). Yet ... they still work as escorts. The husband or boyfriends money becomes a stable 'base' income, leaving the girl free during the day to pursue other additional income as she sees fit.

That's called "greed".

[S_A]

Most of the weekend strippers in vegas are USC/UCLA girls trying to pay tuition.

[AngryGromit]

Dude you are being taken for a ride....

Because she doesn't want to. There are always other options. Don't be so naive.

 

I don't agree, he says he's known her for years, this isn't the situation when some unknown person one the internet that he never met befriends him than gives some sob story there grandmother is on death's door and unless he wires her $1,000 she is going to die scam.

 

I'm sure for her prostitution is a last resort for her, but if she's careful, make life better for her... or a lot worse. While a young attractive female can make a lot of money in the right city, there are risks involved too. If she's really going to do this, she be wise to contact an agency, while they do take a cut of her earnings, they provide a certain level of protection and line up clients for her. The main problem I see with prostitution, beside the moral dilemma of it, it's very difficult to stop. Who the hell wants to work at a $10 a hour job 40 hours a week, when someone is willing to pay you $300 or $400 for an hour to have sex with you (also TAX free). If your young and attractive and near/in a major city you can make a LOT of money fairly quickly. It's a tough lifestyle to give up. On the other hand if she is in a small town in the middle of nowhere, she be lucky to get more than one or two clients a week, some women use it to supplement there income, but it's hardly a get rich solution. Also the very attractive women get the lions share of the business, if she's not model material, most agencies don't want to be bothered with representing you.

 

Most prostitutes end up on drugs and under the control of a pimp. They are not allowed to just go take over some corner without a pimp coming and telling them his girls run that corner.

 

Streetwalkers are pretty much the bottom of the barrel prostitution, people that been in the business for way too many years, and have to accept less to get business. Young Attract women usually work for escort agencies, unless they get into prostitution to pay for there drug addiction.

Edited March 6, 2017 by AngryGromit

[KBob]

Dude you are being taken for a ride. This is how these things go... why can't she get social assistance or assistance from her school? Move so she can walk to a job at Walmart?

 

Because she doesn't want to. There are always other options. Don't be so naive.

 

EXACTLY!! You think every woman in the Great Depression or the Great Recession turned to hooking? NO!! There are other jobs out there, she might have to move cities for them, but it is what it is.

 

She seems unwilling to make those changes. And it seems like you are defending her actions, which is basically tacit support for them.

[Chris516]

Hello, This is embarrassing as I never thought I would end up in a situation like this, but never the less I need help.

 

I'm with this girl who is about a state away from me. I'm currently attending college, and she is having to work through a hard economy. She recently has run into a problem, and can't keep her living situation intact due in part to the fact that she is about to lose her job. She has resorted to becoming an escort.

 

I told her I wasn't mad, because I know how hard her situation is at this moment. She has been nothing but honest wit me about the whole ordeal which is more than I can ask for in this situation. She says it's only until she can get financially ahead, and then she will move on to another job.

 

The problem I have is I don't want to leave her, but I'm afraid she will fall in love with a client, fall in love with the cash, end up killed, etc.......

I love this girl with every piece of my being, and I can't stand the idea of her having to resort to being an escort. I've come up with ways of helping her financial situation so she doesn't have to do this for long, but the worry still lingers. I'm going to visit her in a week, and I don't want things to fall apart between us.

 

I would like help from someone who has been in this situation, or someone who themselves was an escort. I don't know who else to talk to about this.

Are you referring to, her being a 'call girl' for the need of $? If yes, that is different from being a prostitute as someone else suggested she might be.

[Graverocker]

For anyone who kept up to date with the post it went bad. We don't talk anymore, and now I don't feel love normally like I used to. This year has been ****, and I'm good at making it seem like it hasn't. 1 friend died in an accident, the other was recently murdered. Ive burned some bridges with other people, and now I'm trying to get my life back on track. Honestly the experience left me open minded, at least to strippers anyway not prostitutes. Why does it matter? Also I almost jumped into the sex game to help her, couldn't do it. Made some friends and I figured out I'm most likely bi sexual. The only thing I have to say is that love isn't enough to get through, no matter how much you love someone.

 

P.s thank you everyone that tried to help me. I wish I would've listened, I have more sympathy towards sex workers now. I know that doesn't make sense, but its hard to explain.

 

Signed

Graverocker

[ExpatInItaly]

You've been through a lot this year, OP. I hope you are taking good care of yourself now.

 

It's time to set firmer and healthier boundaries in your life.

[Graverocker]

Tell me about it dude, I think it went to to **** when I tried to run from life. Now is different hopefully. I think I still have anger problems, I thought that **** was over with when I was young. I guess not. I think I'm ****ed on relationships for awhile though, still hurts a bit. I think when I find someone it'll be easier to be emotionally open with them after awhile. I've never been the type to be open with emotions.

[Wookin Pa Nub]

Sorry if I missed it but do you know how much she will charge an hour? I think some higher priced escorts can make a very good living and only see quality men and the sex is an added benefit.

[Graverocker]

Last time I checked she made $200 cleaning topless for some guy. After we stopped talking idk what happenes, or if she stuck with it to make extra money. When I thought I convinced her to stop and she dropped that bomb on me my heart sank, and I got pissed. Thinking back now I feel like an ass.

[d0nnivain]

I'm truly sorry about the deaths of your friends. You are still alive & you have a life to live. Do it to honor them, if you must.

 

 

Let this morally questionable gold digger go. You don't need the drama she will bring into your life. You have better things to do.

[Graverocker]

She wasn't a gold digger, she didn't really want my help. She just had a ****ed up hand del to her in life. It was more of me and my anxieties and fears that ****ed up our relationship.

[d0nnivain]

She wasn't a gold digger, she didn't really want my help. She just had a ****ed up hand del to her in life. It was more of me and my anxieties and fears that ****ed up our relationship.

 

 

Your first post was she was going to become an escort / prostitute. You recently posted that she earns $200 for cleaning some guy's house while topless. No matter how difficult her life there are other ways to make money.

 

 

I can't believe you think your anxieties cost you this relationship.

 

 

{shrugs} To each their own.

[Graverocker]

Whether you are right or not, the fact that in my mind I could easily dehumanize someone I care about to the point that I hardly see them as a person anymore doesn't rest well on my conscience.

[d0nnivain]

Dehumanizing somebody is not good. FWIW, I didn't see or read you doing that. I saw you objecting to questionable behavior. It wasn't her as a person that was the problem, it was the bad choices she was making.

[Graverocker]

Precisely why I can't get over it. I don't feel like I was in the right with that mindset.

[anduina]

Reading through this thread, you appear to have a good heart under the rough exterior. It's a pleasure to read about someone who doesn't consider people disposable if they don't conform to puritanical standards of behaviour.

 

I wouldn't personally make the choice of prostitution but there's something to be said about someone who's had a tough lot in life, who finds a way to make an independent living.

[Graverocker]

I was never really a tough guy, but the image helps. I just wanna get back into art again.

[Graverocker]

I don't see morality as iron, sometimes reality doesn't agree. I think true morality comes from empathy, not from a book or religious tome.

[preraph]

It's called boundaries and making good choices instead of making "instant gratification" choices that will only erode your life. A better choice is she took two waitressing jobs and saved some money for community college to learn a skill.

 

Of course, a lot of people doing bad things have a good side to them, but the trouble with that is their choices are only going to take them further into the bad side because it requires getting into bed, in this case literally, with lowlifes.

 

As someone who hears real life cases of human trafficking and prostitution, I can only tell you that what may seem like a temporary quick fix turns into a nightmare where you get trapped. There's obviously safer ways to make a living and keep yourself off the street.

[Graverocker]

Heard through a friend of mine that my ex is now making $25 and hour. ****s depressing, I feel like life is passing me by. At least she's happy now though. Better happy without me than not happy at all. No she isn't escorting anymore.