pia911 Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Hi everyone … I have a question what I should do. I can’t ask my friends my family here they are not understood and accept about this…. I have relationship with bisex male. He’s gay married. He live in Europe .I meet him on dating website 4 years ago He come to visit me in Asia every year.We Shared everything Food ,Hotel,Travel My salary just 15K but I don’t know why I want he happy when he here I try to work hard and save money for his holiday. He has husband at home who stay with him around 16 year. I said I want go visit him .i can live in hotel if he free he can come to meet me . he said he can’t help me support me with visa and he don’t want talk about this .he scare his husband hurt and find out. My friend My family ask me about relationship ask me how was going. But I have no answer. I know answer is I can’t do anything. He said he want I be patience he said his husband will accept me in someday. He said he love me and love husband.he said he happy he have husband and home and still have me here. He did not show me anything. He hides everything about me. On 2015 when he come holiday here I have pregnant around 2 week with him I go check because my period not come I call and I tell him I have a baby he stop talking me. And said he don’t want his husband find out his husband will sad and hurt he give me money 20K for go abortion he said its good way if I want relationship with him. i make something bad I kill my child. On 2016 He come here again I feel why I have to be patience with this. He skype with his husband in room and tell me stop talking I see they both happy together. He has his husband pic on phone screen. He have profile pic together with his husband. I should stop this by walk out from his life and that’s good idea ? how people can love 2 person in same time . who have good idea for me please help. Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 You're wasting your time with this guy. Rather than be someone's dirty little secret, focus on finding someone who is interested in a full-time relationship with you. This guy won't even acknowledge your existence when he's around the people who are important in his life. Basically, you're his hidden vacation girl. Why are you opting to date a foreigner long-distance? Why aren't local men of interest to you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 l think you have to get out of it to pia, l think he is wasting your time and hard earned money. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Hi everyone Hi Pia, and welcome to the LoveShack.org LD forum. I have a question what I should do It looks like he needs an escort. So if you're not one, let him go. Cut this deal you have with him. I meet him on dating website 4 years ago Many gay men are on dating sites or websites for encounters. Even (or especially?) the ones in long/steady relationships. Some have sort of an "open" relationship. But it's not the case of this man. He come to visit me in Asia every year.We Shared everything Food ,Hotel,Travel So he's not paying for you? You're paying half of everything? I don't know. I guess he wants his cake and eat it too (it's an expression). he said his husband will accept me in someday That day might not come... he give me money 20K for go abortion [...] i make something bad I kill my child. Couldn't you use the 20K to keep the baby? I'm sorry to hear this. How do you feel? Will you be able to have children now, should you want to? I should stop this by walk out from his life and that’s good idea ? I guess so. how people can love 2 person in same time . who have good idea for me please help. Look for polyamorous online and you will find out. I'm not sure this is love though. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Sometimes bisexuals want to mostly be with one sex but then sample the other sex to fill that need. That is what he was doing. I am so sorry about your situation and your pregnancy. He is an old married man, and nothing you can do about that. Please do not keep letting him come take advantage of you. You must find someone for your very own who loves you. Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
Chris516 Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 OP, He got you pregnant. Then when you had the baby, he told you that he did not want his husband to find out. Not only did he cheat on his husband because it was not a situation involving a surrogate. Now he refuses to help support the baby. He is a real piece of work. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 OP, He got you pregnant. Then when you had the baby, he told you that he did not want his husband to find out. I think she had the abortion. i make something bad I kill my child. Link to post Share on other sites
Chris516 Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I think she had the abortion. Looking back at it. I wonder if the OP actually did go through with it. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 9, 2017 Share Posted March 9, 2017 Looking back at it. I wonder if the OP actually did go through with it. Yes, in 2015. Link to post Share on other sites
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