Holly. Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 How everyone kind of hurting at the moment went on a date with a guy a liked and it didn't go smoothly but we did smile and laugh a lot then after we went back to his car and kissed for literally an hour and half he wanted sex but I refused anyway the next day he said we weren't right for each other which I can't understand because it wasn't the worst date ever nor the best I'm just abit upset as I liked him but he keeps viewing me my profile a couple times a day still when he was the one who rejected me it doesn't make sense Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 I'm sorry this happened to you. What do you mean it didn't go smoothly? Were you guys not compatible? Anywho, this guy might have wanted a hookup/ONS and when he saw you weren't gonna do that he decided that you weren't "right for each other." It was the first date. Don't sweat him...You did the right thing by refusing. That he stalks your profile might mean he may even come back around. Be careful Link to post Share on other sites
Ieris Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Sounds like he was just after sex. Be glad that he rejected you before sex and not after, it would have been much worse. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 I agree. He wanted sex not a relationship. He didn't reject you. He simply left to go find somebody who would give him what he wanted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 You have no reason to be anything except proud of yourself and relieved. That guy just wanted sex and he wanted it right then and decided if you wouldn't put out, he would find someone who would. You don't need him. There are unfortunately plenty of guys out there, especially on online dating, just looking for a quickie. You need to be sure and put on your profile that you are interested in a relationship and not hookups. Even then, some will use that to try to fool you into thinking something emotional is going on to get sex. Please, this isn't on your or about you or anything you did wrong. You just managed to filter out a guy who was just after sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Let's put it this way - he wanted sex, you rejected him. He didn't get what he wanted. That's all he was looking for. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 How everyone kind of hurting at the moment went on a date with a guy a liked and it didn't go smoothly but we did smile and laugh a lot then after we went back to his car and kissed for literally an hour and half he wanted sex but I refused anyway the next day he said we weren't right for each other which I can't understand because it wasn't the worst date ever nor the best I'm just abit upset as I liked him but he keeps viewing me my profile a couple times a day still when he was the one who rejected me it doesn't make sense He wanted sex PERIOD. You didn't put out so he's continuing to find someone who will. He keeps looking at your profile to see if you're still active and at some point he will likely hit you up again to see if you will cave in. He's probably thinking "well she kissed and made out with me for an hour and a half on the first date, the next time she will go for it. If you're still searching at some point in the future, he'll think you might get desperate enough to have sex with him. Forget about him. If he contacts you again, don't respond. Block and delete. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Holly. Posted March 2, 2017 Author Share Posted March 2, 2017 I made it very clear even before we met up that we would NOT be having sex he seemed very different over text messages snap chats etc and we talked constantly but I'm sure I'll get over it just made me feel like **** I keep thinking was he even attracted to me Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 When you find yourself in a situation where you have to tell a man there will be no sex on your first meeting it's because you are dealing with a player. A gentleman would NEVER insinuate sex at any time before a first meeting. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Tip: don't be doin a heavy makeout sesh with someone you JUST MET. Texting is not getting to know someone..... You are damn lucky he took no for an answer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Holly. Posted March 2, 2017 Author Share Posted March 2, 2017 Yeah true, had to tell him like 4 times though Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Yeah true, had to tell him like 4 times though Well, if you're making out with a guy for an hour and a half and telling him no sex, that's a mixed signal and says that you may be on the edge of caving in so he'll keep asking. Making out for an hour and half is a tease for both of you. This is the kind of situation women come on here and post about. "OMG, I can't believe I slept with this guy on the first date. I never do that but I was so caught up in the moment . . . blah, blah, blah. had to tell him like 4 times -- So, you were making out, he asked for sex, you said no, but continued to make out for another hour or so. How soon after you started making out did he push for sex? If you're making out with a guy on the first date and within a few minutes he asks for sex, you end the make out session. You don't keep making out, c'mon. And, if I tell a man no sex once and he pushes for it again, I'm out right then and there. I don't let him get to a 4th time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Holly. Posted March 2, 2017 Author Share Posted March 2, 2017 I told him no on the 4th time and told him to take me home he had a face like thunder Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 I told him no on the 4th time and told him to take me home he had a face like thunder If you put a bowl of food in front of a dog (dawg) and take it away . . . they aren't usually happy about it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Yeah true, had to tell him like 4 times though You should have stopped making out, told him to take you home the min you had to tell him no the first time. You really put yourself in a precarious position. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 You really need to develop better boundaries for your own safety. And, punctuation is your friend. Please, try to use it next time you post. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lurker74 Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 How everyone kind of hurting at the moment went on a date with a guy a liked and it didn't go smoothly but we did smile and laugh a lot then after we went back to his car and kissed for literally an hour and half he wanted sex but I refused anyway the next day he said we weren't right for each other which I can't understand because it wasn't the worst date ever nor the best I'm just abit upset as I liked him but he keeps viewing me my profile a couple times a day still when he was the one who rejected me it doesn't make sense I was on a date once that I knew early on that I wasn't that into her. But it was a date so I didn't bounce. Over the course of the date, I enjoyed speaking with her and when we got to the end, she asked me to kiss her. I did. We made out for a bit (not an hour) and I said goodnight. I told her the next day that I appreciated her time but...yada yada yada. Maybe I shouldn't have led her on but I was taken up in the moment. Of course, I never would have tried to have sex with her...doesn't make me a hero but perhaps less of a douche. But my point is that he wasn't that into you for some reason...it doesn't have to be personal as we are all fickle from time to time. SOmeone out there will be REALLY into you! Also, feel free to invest in punctuation marks...they make reading paragraphs much easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Holly. Posted March 4, 2017 Author Share Posted March 4, 2017 He contacted me and said 'we didn't need to fall out but it's ok if I don't want to talk '. What the hell 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 (edited) How everyone kind of hurting at the moment went on a date with a guy a liked and it didn't go smoothly but we did smile and laugh a lot then after we went back to his car and kissed for literally an hour and half he wanted sex but I refused anyway the next day he said we weren't right for each other which I can't understand because it wasn't the worst date ever nor the best I'm just abit upset as I liked him but he keeps viewing me my profile a couple times a day still when he was the one who rejected me it doesn't make sense He wanted sex only, that's how he rolls.. You didn't want it which is good, since you really don't know him. If he was the right guy he would have respected you more. Don't need a guy that doesn't respect your wishes. He just saying that nonsense to you that "you wasn't right for him" he said that because you didn't put out for him, giving him sex on the spot. Don't think twice he read your profile a few times doesn't matter. Move on to the next guy who will respect you and your wishes not to have sex the first date. You said he said this: He contacted me and said 'we didn't need to fall out but it's ok if I don't want to talk '. What the hell Don't listen to this guy, just a player not worth your time and effort. Move on don't even reply back and block him so he can't read your profile again. Don't need him. I am sure he has many women under his belt also that gives him his sex on the first date. You don't have to be one of them you did the right move. Now you have to look for a guy that as your interest to heart. Which clearly shows this guy isn't the one. You do not want to be a second choice with his statement above sounds like it. Like he had cancellation and turned to you. Edited March 4, 2017 by coolheadal Link to post Share on other sites
GoldSparkz Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 I told him no on the 4th time and told him to take me home he had a face like thunder Good grief, this guy seems to have control issues - I can't believe you had to say no 4 times before he got it into his head. The problem with guys like this, is that they feel they have a right to sleep with you regardless whether you want to or not. You were putting yourself in a dangerous situation when you made out with him, but then rejected sex with him (which you had every right to do). Perhaps take this as a lesson for next time. Don't make out with a guy you have just met...especially in his car. Also don't rely on the guy to drive you anywhere - you make your own way there and back. Personal safety is number 1. Not some loser who can't take no for an answer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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