Sisters heading toward trouble

[fyre]

I have two twin sisters, 15 years old. They do drugs, steal from us (family), and get violent (if they don't get their way). My parents feel stuck, I feel disgusted with my sisters. I feel that they can do what they want, whenever that want to, and get their way. Which is pretty much true as it appears. My parents wont call the cops because they know that if they do get busted, they would have to pay the court fees, which they cant afford. As it is we live with my Mom's dad.

 

They also wont call the cops because they know that when the cop goes to go knock on the door, that person there doesn't have to answer the door, regardless if they were there, or if there was a party going on and my sisters were in there. My sisters will pretty much break out of any place. Last time one of them was locked up in this place called CRC (it's a crisis center), she broke out by breaking the fence down. A nice $400 we had to pay.

 

The same sister that broke down the fence got locked up in the hospital, for pulling a knife on my mom.

She was there for 9 and a half months, she too broke out of there. She just walked out. When she returned all was quiet, then things got worse, then they ever were before.

 

What can we do? and it actually work!? and not be expensive?! remember they are twins..

[loony]

I'm sorry that you have so much trouble with your sisters. If I may ask, how old are you? Your situation seems to be very difficult to solve, because you seem to be around their age. Even if you sat down to talk with them, you probably lack the authority to make them listen to you. It should be your parents' problem to deal with them appropiately. I'm afraid though that your parents are also at their wits' end and maybe even scared to deal with your violent sisters (I'm not surprised... :/ ). It is sad that your parents feel so helpless about it that you feel compelled to look for support yourself, because I think it should be the responsibility of your parents to look for help and not you.

 

I don't think you can do much yourself. I can only suggest that you maybe talk to a school counselor about your situation or go to a family center and ask for help there. Hopefully some other posters here have more ideas.

 

Good luck!

[New_Wife]

Hey Sweetie,

 

My heart breaks for you. I have a 28-year old alcoholic brother. He is in recovery for about six weeks this time, and as always, I'm hopeful that this will work, but we are talking about roughly 11 years of watching him destroy himself in the meantime.

 

I tell you this, so that you know that I'm not talking to you out of my butt. I know of what I speak.

 

For starters, is there another place you can stay? With your father, or another grandparent, and aunt or uncle? It does not sound like this is an emotionally or physically safe place for you. If you are old enough to move out, I suggest you get a roomie and do so.

 

Second, and this is the hardest, there's not a dang thing you can do. If your sisters are dead-set on running amok, and your parents are unwilling to lay down the hammer, this is what it's going to be for awhile (or worse). The saying is: If nothing changes, nothing changes.

 

Alanon or Alateen are great places for you to go and safely voice all of the pain and anger you are feeling - in a room full of your peers who have gone through, or are gong through, the same thing. Google it & find a meeting near you. Even if you are scared to go to a meeting, there's always a phone number you can call just to talk to someone. It's completely anonymous - no one has to know but you. This is always a good plan because living in such chaos - the world can seem a little tilted, and it's hard to find normal sometimes.

 

Finally, I think the school counselor idea was a great one. Or any counselor. You'll be in my thoughts.

[fyre]

loony, I'm 22 I have yet to move out. I need to though.

Thank you New_Wife for the suggestion that you told me to google.

Oh and counseling, is expensive.. When we did have my sisters in it, it never really helped them any. I for one never really liked counselors any way.

[New_Wife]

Oh Kiddo, I just saw your location. Sent me a PM and we'll talk. I know folks and fellowships there. Or, if you don't want to do that, just know that there is a HUGE support network in your area for you.