Mail order brides

[carhill]

I found the government fees for a K1 to be quite low, generally under a few hundred dollars, essentially about the same as renting an apartment in Russia for a month, and my partner at the time was a doctor so had a firm grasp of what the medical-related fees would be (physical, etc) and cost, basically a train ticket, for going to/from the consulate was quite low; however, the one variable, ostensibly to not waste time and make sure everything was right, was legal fees and those are generally expensive and vary widely depending on the individual process.

 

Lastly, there was the financial stability aspect, proving up income, assets and liabilities in a manner which gives the interviewer a warm and fuzzy about the American citizen having the means to support the K1. This was more difficult for someone who was self-employed like myself versus someone who had an easily quantifiable 'job'. Mine turned mostly on assets.

 

The costs of actually dating and visiting and conducting a long-distance relationship far outweighed the costs of a K1, IME. Hence, that was why I budgeted about 20K for the K1 process, notwithstanding other assets needed to verify solvency and stability.

[normal person]

But like I said, we all choose how much social pressure we put on ourselves.

 

Choosing not to go into medicine or law and being happy doing something a little stressful is fine, but it's not really the problem for OP. The barrier to what he wants (women) is something that's beyond his control (height). He can't choose to be taller, or choose that women will view him differently, or somehow choose a scenario where women won't care about it. He's at the mercy of the world, not the other way around.

[O'Malley]

It's going to be much more of an investment, both financially and time-wise, than typical online dating. A friend of mine married a woman that he met while they worked together in her country (not a marriage agency thing) and even then the process was complicated.

 

Women wanting to move to the U.S. or western Europe will also acclimate to your culture. Coming from a "traditional" culture also doesn't mean that the women are docile or subservient, far from it.

[NuevoYorko]

Foreign born women won't expect you to be Jimmy Kimmel, because they are slightly socially retarded too.

I disagree. "Socially retarded" doesn't depend upon where a person was born.

 

In any case, looking for women who aren't native Americans in the USA is not the same as getting a "mail order bride."

 

If you're planning to get a "mail order bride," you'll still need to offer her something that she wants, whether that is money, US citizenship, or your personal charms. Just because a woman lives in a different country doesn't mean she has no options.

[JamesM]

Choosing not to go into medicine or law and being happy doing something a little stressful is fine, but it's not really the problem for OP. The barrier to what he wants (women) is something that's beyond his control (height). He can't choose to be taller, or choose that women will view him differently, or somehow choose a scenario where women won't care about it. He's at the mercy of the world, not the other way around.

 

I agree that he cannot control how tall he is....

 

However, he can control his attitude towards his height. Many a short man has been successful with woman, and many tall men have not.

 

It limits his selection though to a degree, but it doesn't eliminate his choices. Only he does that completely.

 

Even a woman chosen through the mail order bride system may be picky. It is not a guaranteed way to marital bliss...if there is such a thing.

 

A change in attitude towards what one is given is really the best way to feel attractive and in turn be attractive. We all have our characteristics that can be focused upon and made into reasons for a lack of men/women after us. It is certainly not just shorter people who have an issue.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Choosing not to go into medicine or law and being happy doing something a little stressful is fine, but it's not really the problem for OP. The barrier to what he wants (women) is something that's beyond his control (height). He can't choose to be taller, or choose that women will view him differently, or somehow choose a scenario where women won't care about it. He's at the mercy of the world, not the other way around.

 

The only way you're at the mercy of the world is if you want to be.

 

I know a guy who is 5'3" who whines non-stop on his Facebook about getting shot down by women because of his height, yet he's had several girlfriends ... and has one now.

 

So, what's his complaint? His complaint is that he feels he's LESSER than other men because of his height. That he feels he needs to make up for it and compensate.

 

Well, again, it's only that way if you buy into the competition of life.

 

There's two ways to think about it...

 

1) Well, I'm going to be able to date these five women in my life who like me despite the fact that I'm short. Many, many women won't like me, but no matter, I'll have some fun times with those women.

 

2) If I was 6 feet tall instead of 5'3", I'd be able to have dated 20 women instead of five and hundreds would have wanted me instead of just a few.

 

See the difference...

 

And there's a decent amount of women who don't care about height. Can't believe I of all people just said that. But I did...

[William]

Folks, feel free to post up relevant commentary on the starter's past or existing relationships in threads discussing those relationships. Here we're discussing mail order brides, specifically member experiences with the process. The topical question is:

 

Has anyone here tried it or know a friend or family member who has done it? Was it just a scam or did it work out?

 

Alternatively, directly quote and link to relevant content to this topic so members may be referred to it. Thanks!

[youdunsay]

C) An ex-Marine married a girl from Singapore. She is gorgeous and when I met her, she too gave me some interesting smiles. He is incredibly happy and treats her like a queen. She seems to enjoy it and love him. They have been married for about five years.

 

How did she became a mail order bride?