TimmyC Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Hi everyone I was hoping to not post back in this section but I really need advice from others that may have experienced this. So after a few months of finally been able to move past my emotionally abusive ex and her manipulation. She still tries to contact me and has been passing by my job. What really upset me was that her husband whom the police believe was her messaged me and threatened me about a Facebook post. I told her after she contacted me saying that she missed the "Expletive" to leave me alone. I then blocked her but I'm guessing somehow she's able to see my profile. I posted this and forgot that my profile was not set to private: Finally, I can say *Expletive* it! I don't need her, I deserved so much better. She was right, I'll never find another woman like her because I know I'm worth more than being lied to. It feels good to finally be at peace, and you become so much stronger through the hard times and realize indifference is so much better than hate. Hate takes energy and people that treat us like garbage aren't worth it. Good riddance! It never occurred to me that she would see this she is blocked and at the time I felt really happy... As some of you may know I took the breakup pretty hard. Especially with all the emotional abuse. Then I got a message from her husband saying this: I'm only going to tell you this once. Keep my wife off your Facebook. *Jane doe* is over you fool, go on with your life and don't let me see this again because the next time I won't be so nice about it. So I went to the sheriffs office since I had expressed to her already that I wanted to be left alone. I had to print out a message of my message of course and his, and they contacted me a week later saying they could not find his profile and that judging by the nature of the message it may have been her using a fake profile and that I have a right to freedom of speech. So to avoid the drama I just removed the post altogether. I feel like now she still has control over me like she used to, I feel much better about things and have even started doing more hobbies but it just makes me angry because I wish she wouldn't try to keep pushing herself in my life. Has anyone ever felt with this? She even had the nerve to say I'm a message to me that since she almost had my child it is her business who I date and that she would kill anyone I tried to date. I'm sure the last part was a joke but it's just not fair. If she can move on why is she not letting me? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 I feel like now she still has control over me like she used to, I feel much better about things and have even started doing more hobbies but it just makes me angry because I wish she wouldn't try to keep pushing herself in my life. Has anyone ever felt with this? People have control over you ONLY if you let them. I can't help but wonder if you like the drama -- you interpret her actions as attention. Block her everywhere. Even if you have to deactivate your FB for as long as you need. She even had the nerve to say I'm a message to me that since she almost had my child it is her business who I date and that she would kill anyone I tried to date. I'm sure the last part was a joke but it's just not fair. If she can move on why is she not letting me? If she's controlled you before, she's just doing it again. She gets a kick out of stomping on you. People who are manipulative do manipulative things. And it's time you stop questioning her dysfunctional behavior and start focusing on your own as to why you are still curious about her actions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TimmyC Posted March 3, 2017 Author Share Posted March 3, 2017 Your right, I'm letting her control me. I definitely don't like the drama and I'm not curious about her. She's blocked everywhere but she keeps reaching out to me...I guess it's my fault for responding. If I could go back in time to the day we went out I'd take it back I really don't want any part of her and I was doing much better prior to that message I got. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Your right, I'm letting her control me. I definitely don't like the drama and I'm not curious about her. She's blocked everywhere but she keeps reaching out to me...I guess it's my fault for responding. If I could go back in time to the day we went out I'd take it back I really don't want any part of her and I was doing much better prior to that message I got. How does she keep reaching out to you? There you go. You keep feeding the fire. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TimmyC Posted March 3, 2017 Author Share Posted March 3, 2017 (edited) She makes new profiles...this has happend 3 times already which is why I went to the police, but I see your point. Thanks for the advice Edited March 3, 2017 by TimmyC Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Okay I'm going to assume your 16 years old since your post sounds like it was written by a 16 year old who's bored so I'll say this politely Why not just delete or deactivate your face book ? I know you could die because who kno s ... what could happen on Facebook ...? God forbid you never find out what your friends are doing or eating ...? But it sounds so crazy it might work no ? Close your stupid account, and go have fun !!! Go do something with your life besides wondering what a married woman is doing ! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
VeveCakes Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Stop posting cryptic FB messages directed at people and this won't happen. Seriously Facebook shouldn't be used to vent your personal issues anyway, people don't want to see that. Make it private also. Problem solved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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