Bromeo Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Just received probably the most spiteful message ever From her number "Take it you have plans this weekend? Xxxxx" Me "No, why?" Her "Well i thought we were going out but you didn't text me so i've made plans with someone else" I have done nothing to her for her to act like this to me.. absolute psycho I was thinking this over, and remembered a similar experience. Right after she left, I hadn't begun the desperation stage of stalker chasing, but I had been texting and calling. Several days later, I remember I was mowing the lawn. she texted me and said basically that she had to go to the hospital for a serious kidney infection. I loved this woman, so of course I was concerned and worried. Can I help, do you need a ride, are you ok, do you need anything, etc. He response? I'm perfect, I don't need anything from you, and stop holding me hostage on the phone. Then she disappeared again on me. After reading what I just wrote, I feel stupid. I understand the frustration, and at the time was all bound up. She dumped me, why tell me, I felt powerless, WTF. Now, much later, I can look back and see the stringing along, punishing behavior, and other nonsense. Stay strong. My previous recommendation was meant to bring levity to a crazy situation that I know you are struggling with. Link to post Share on other sites
1fish2fish Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 I spent the evening with another woman last night. Good looking, educated, own place.. the complete opposite to my ex, however i felt completely detached. How do people spend time in that nature when they're in love with someone else? It baffles me.. I laid awake the whole night with all kinds of thoughts running through my head. I left this morning whilst she was still asleep.. This moving on processs is very odd!! Please call this poor woman this morning and explain your leaving while she was still asleep. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HumanMachine Posted March 14, 2017 Author Share Posted March 14, 2017 Please call this poor woman this morning and explain your leaving while she was still asleep. I messaged her explaining why I left, I was honest. She understood as we're friends. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HumanMachine Posted March 14, 2017 Author Share Posted March 14, 2017 (edited) An update (sorry) I hadn't been in contact with her, she phoned me Monday evening saying that had made a mistake and realised that she wants to be with me. I kept rejecting her but she would call back, she was in tears begging me. I met up with her, we had a long chat and agreed what we BOTH needed to improve on. We were both happy with the changes that needed to take place. Within 10 minutes she had changed her mind, stating "as much as I want to be with you i don't think it's going to work" I've been to some pretty dark places before but this is the lowest of the low. My head has well and truly been messed about. You were all right, like I knew you would be. Edited March 14, 2017 by HumanMachine Link to post Share on other sites
keiji Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 An update (sorry) I hadn't been in contact with her, she phoned me Monday evening saying that had made a mistake and realised that she wants to be with me. I kept rejecting her but she would call back, she was in tears begging me. I met up with her, we had a long chat and agreed what we BOTH needed to improve on. We were both happy with the changes that needed to take place. Within 10 minutes she had changed her mind, stating "as much as I want to be with you i don't think it's going to work" I've been to some pretty dark places before but this is the lowest of the low. My head has when and truly been messed about. You were all right, like I knew you would be. Well, sometimes we need a good beating to finally come to our senses. I hope this is a turning point for you. It hurts a lot, of course, and it will take time and effort to heal, but that girl has nothing to offer you other than pain. Go ahead and cut contact unilaterally. No goodbyes, no nothing. She doesn't exist. She's dead to you. You're clinging to the source of pain. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 An update (sorry) I hadn't been in contact with her, she phoned me Monday evening saying that had made a mistake and realised that she wants to be with me. I kept rejecting her but she would call back, she was in tears begging me. I met up with her, we had a long chat and agreed what we BOTH needed to improve on. We were both happy with the changes that needed to take place. Within 10 minutes she had changed her mind, stating "as much as I want to be with you i don't think it's going to work" I've been to some pretty dark places before but this is the lowest of the low. My head has well and truly been messed about. You were all right, like I knew you would be. That is very messed up. How she sleeps at night is beyond me. Link to post Share on other sites
la74219 Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Agreed. I don't see how someone can do this to another person. Unbelievable. I don't even know what to say, but I'm sorry HumanMachine. Hang in there man. That is very messed up. How she sleeps at night is beyond me. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 An update (sorry) I hadn't been in contact with her, she phoned me Monday evening saying that had made a mistake and realised that she wants to be with me. I kept rejecting her but she would call back, she was in tears begging me. I met up with her, we had a long chat and agreed what we BOTH needed to improve on. We were both happy with the changes that needed to take place. Within 10 minutes she had changed her mind, stating "as much as I want to be with you i don't think it's going to work" I've been to some pretty dark places before but this is the lowest of the low. My head has well and truly been messed about. You were all right, like I knew you would be. What kind of selfish pyscho would do something like this???? It's true that you don't really know what someone is about until a breakup - I feel thankful my ex never contacted me again. That sucks bro - hang in there and realize what this woman is all about. Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 (edited) Agreed. I don't see how someone can do this to another person. Unbelievable. I don't even know what to say, but I'm sorry HumanMachine. Hang in there man. All I can say is thank GOD, the OP is a MACHINE. OP, your not the only one with a heartless, narcissistic and cruel ex. I won't go into the details but I was dispatched about as bad as it gets. But don't be mistaken, your Ex is right up there with the absolute worst of the worst. It's possible your Ex was angry about the fact you were holding NC and had the high road so she decided to steal that from you as well. Totally disgusting. My Ex has been sending me some tasty breadcrumbs recently but it is stories like this that make me too scared to entertain them. Edited March 14, 2017 by marky00 Link to post Share on other sites
la74219 Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 All I can say is thank GOD, the OP is a MACHINE. OP, your not the only one with a heartless, narcissistic and cruel ex. I won't go into the details but I was dispatched about as bad as it gets. But don't be mistaken, your Ex is right up there with the absolute worst of the worst. It's possible your Ex was angry about the fact you were holding NC and had the high road so she decided to steal that from you as well. Totally disgusting. My Ex has been sending me some tasty breadcrumbs recently but it is stories like this that make me too scared to entertain them. You hang in there too Marky00. Stay strong my friends. You guys are not alone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HumanMachine Posted March 14, 2017 Author Share Posted March 14, 2017 Thank you guys, your kind words are seriously helping. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HumanMachine Posted March 18, 2017 Author Share Posted March 18, 2017 (edited) FINAL UPDATE I'm going to write bullet points.. She turned up at my house, crying, begging for forgiveness saying that she had made a huge mistake and wants to be with me After a lengthy convo we agree to get back together I go to work That evening she invites me to her house for dinner with her family, we then go out for drinks and I stay round hers. We had a fantastic evening. I take her to work in the morning, she asked me to pick her up then we'll go out 1 hour before i'm meant to pick her up I receive a text from her "sorry I can't do this, block me" what... the... fu......... I am speachless Edited March 18, 2017 by HumanMachine 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mackem23 Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 My ex invited me round to see her we had sex next day she contacted saying she can't do it she was texting one hour before that saying she wants to get married I later found out her and her rebond where back together it's at that moment I realised the women I fell I love with has gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HumanMachine Posted March 18, 2017 Author Share Posted March 18, 2017 My ex invited me round to see her we had sex next day she contacted saying she can't do it she was texting one hour before that saying she wants to get married I later found out her and her rebond where back together it's at that moment I realised the women I fell I love with has gone. Yep serious deep mental issues acting like that Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 Yep serious deep mental issues acting like that Did you block her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HumanMachine Posted March 18, 2017 Author Share Posted March 18, 2017 Did you block her? I did exactly as she pleased.. didn't even reply Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 Amazing !! Yes block her that's it move on !! Link to post Share on other sites
KBob Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 FINAL UPDATE I'm going to write bullet points.. She turned up at my house, crying, begging for forgiveness saying that she had made a huge mistake and wants to be with me After a lengthy convo we agree to get back together I go to work That evening she invites me to her house for dinner with her family, we then go out for drinks and I stay round hers. We had a fantastic evening. I take her to work in the morning, she asked me to pick her up then we'll go out 1 hour before i'm meant to pick her up I receive a text from her "sorry I can't do this, block me" what... the... fu......... I am speachless My ex invited me round to see her we had sex next day she contacted saying she can't do it she was texting one hour before that saying she wants to get married I later found out her and her rebond where back together it's at that moment I realised the women I fell I love with has gone. You two need to realise that these women are broken records that keep playing the same track over and over again. You know what you do with broken records? You toss them and find a good one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 As the old saying goes: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" This chick is a cornacopia of emotional issues. Cut and run. Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted March 19, 2017 Share Posted March 19, 2017 Good lord, man... I came back to see what happened and it seems even more extreme than I thought. I imagined she would string you along with breadcrumbs, but she did a jump from one extreme to the other. For someone to actually go to your house begging to get back and later turn 180 is seriously messed up. What a mean person. I hope you can stay away this time, for the sake of your sanity. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted March 19, 2017 Share Posted March 19, 2017 I hope you learned something this time. What's it up to now 3 times? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HumanMachine Posted March 19, 2017 Author Share Posted March 19, 2017 Good lord, man... I came back to see what happened and it seems even more extreme than I thought. I imagined she would string you along with breadcrumbs, but she did a jump from one extreme to the other. For someone to actually go to your house begging to get back and later turn 180 is seriously messed up. What a mean person. I hope you can stay away this time, for the sake of your sanity. Thank you. I see her as pure evil, baffles me that someone could do this. I hope you learned something this time. What's it up to now 3 times? I should be sectioned myself if I ever engage with this nasty bit of work again. ------------------- Today I awoke to a text from a number i'm not aware of: "I love you more than anything (Humanmanchine) but you didn't give me enough time, you forced me to make a decision" Hilarious Link to post Share on other sites
Bromeo Posted March 19, 2017 Share Posted March 19, 2017 Thank you. I see her as pure evil, baffles me that someone could do this. I should be sectioned myself if I ever engage with this nasty bit of work again. ------------------- Today I awoke to a text from a number i'm not aware of: "I love you more than anything (Humanmanchine) but you didn't give me enough time, you forced me to make a decision" Hilarious Jesus, I feel for you. I know exactly how you are feeling. Frustrated, angry, depressed, and bound up, all rolled together in one toxic package. This EXACT same thing happened to me, and sadly I knew when I was reading your thread to start how this would play out. And believe me, I'm not giving you any grief at all, more commiserating. Mine would send texts, quotes, pictures, etc. she would never want to talk or meet up, but more like "hey, don't move on, I'm still here, want me, even though i don't want you." It was pure hell. If you are anything like me, you have to put a stop to this. It will continue as long as you let it, and you will continue to hurt the entire time, and long after. For me, as I've said before in my own and other threads, I handled mine via voicemail. Haven't gotten a crumb since. It sucks, and I still get pangs of emotion. But I do not have to live with those games any damn longer. You have to love yourself more than the immature, game playing ex. I'm sorry man, I know how you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted March 19, 2017 Share Posted March 19, 2017 "I love you more than anything (Humanmanchine) but you didn't give me enough time, you forced me to make a decision" Hilarious omfg, she is still trying?! dude... I seriously feel for you because from the outside looking in on your situation, I strongly believe that continuing NC would be the absolute best route to your healing. I say that I feel for you though because I would bet money that if it was me getting a text like that even after blocking her number, I might still be tempted to argue back with her, just for the sake of contact. It's so messed up... The best advice I can give you would be to change your number. That may sound extreme, but remember that you have already been pulled in by her before and look what happened. It's the same damn thing over and over. She's dangerous and you need to get that out of your life. Find someone better, but in order to do that, you need to be healed and over this crap. Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted March 20, 2017 Share Posted March 20, 2017 I think your ex is a narc jut like mine was. All that push-pull is a control thing. They attempt to control people because that is essential to allow them to keep hold of their image of their own life. Once you hold NC for a sufficient amount of time, you force her to re-assess that image. In fact, you totally undermine that image and force her to face the truth. Now narcs don't like that. So much so, she will eventually disengage with you because she would rather continue living inside the fake image as opposed to confront it head on. So yes, with NC, she will eventually disappear for good but you will be one of very few people in her life who she will be legitimately scared to confront because she doesn't want to see the real her in the mirror. At this point, all you can be is her teacher and the one man who walked out of her life (that being the image of her life that exists in her mind). Once day when her looks go south and other problems in her life become simply over whelming. Guess who she will think about? YOU 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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