40daysforthen253 Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 (edited) 25-year-old. A year ago, I did my 1st date ever. I kept facing the fear and did 16 first dates in a year. But way too scared to go for a kiss or anything. There's this one girl I'd had a crush on for years. Asked her out 2 months ago. "YES!" She cam to my apartment. I took her out. I was too afraid to make it man-to-woman or reciprocate as she tried to flirt. Now her former boyfriend got in the picture (they're friends?). She's texted me a few times. "Wanna go out tonight"? I kept saying no, afraid to disappoint her. I just lost my job (whole office got cut). If only to face my fear, I want to hang out with her gosh darnit. Can someone give me an action plan. I'll start. I'm in San Fran. 1. Next friday, i text her. "Would you like to meet me at 6 pm on Market Street to ___?". (???) To fill that blank, I see on facebook that night there will be some kind of pathetic art show. We could go to that. Then we walk around a bit. 2. If it goes well, we take a cab back to my apartment circa 8 pm (15. min ride) so we can watch the movie, The Pianist. Spotify. Wine. Play cards. Good? I lack of confidence in every word I wrote (cab vs. uber vs. lyft?) So tips appreciated! Thanks PS I have a friends. One is girl who she'd like. Should I invite her along? PSS options open up if we get in a car and do a long ride. What is too much taxi time? Edited March 5, 2017 by 40daysforthen253 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 Dude. The girl likes you. Wtf. Get on with it. This shy timid teenager stuff is generally extremely un-hot from a lady's perspective, and she is still sticking around? Wow. She must think you're smokin' hot or something. Btw, sorry about your job. Real bummer. You seem to be handling that well though considering you're living in like the most expensive city in the country. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 40daysforthen253 Posted March 5, 2017 Author Share Posted March 5, 2017 (edited) Get on with it. What does "taking her out" means? I'm an introvert. I can't dance. I don't drink. I grew up fat so I avoid restaurants. Not into bowling. I also don't get what a relationship would look like other than physical stuff I'm too afraid to attempt for fear of rejection or disappointing her. One more thing. She's pretty. She's cool. She's nice. Couldn't get her to open up much so don't know if she blows my mind. I feel wrong trying to kiss her or anything until my mind's blown. But I need the practice if I'm to ever get there. Edited March 5, 2017 by 40daysforthen253 Link to post Share on other sites
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