StillHurtin Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 Since I have moved back to my hometown my sil or my sister have asked me to babysit for them several times. When my kids went to my sister for daycare while I went to work I paid her, but I never charged her to babysit her children when her and my bil wanted to have a day/night alone. My sil never charged me b/c we exchanged babysitting. She watched my children twice a week while I worked. I watched her children (12, 5 and 3 yo) all weekened long so they could go do things together. My children are old enough to stay home alone now so I did not ask my sister and sil to watch them anymore. My sister asked if I could babysit her two dd's as her and my bil were camping all weekend alone. I told them I had plans but couldn't remember if it was that weekend or this, I would have to check. My bil said that I don't have any plans, I was going to watch his kids. I told him I couldn't, if I had plans. Again he said I was watching them. I just ignored him. It ticks me off my bil is bullying me into babysitting. Since I have moved back my sister and sil have only babysat for me while I worked, not to have time alone w/ H, and I have never asked them. My bil's parent's watch their children every Saturday night so they get that time alone. I'm a people pleaser and hate saying no but I am changing that. If I can't or don't want to babysit I am not going to and my bil shouldn't be bullying me into doing it. I have watched their children on numerous occassions so they could have time alone. I have never asked them to watch my kids so H and I could have time alone. My brother's children are very well behaved and I never have problems when I babysit them. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 staright up tell him no, you Also have plans and you cannot care for HIS kids just because he does not want to. tell him to show some good parenting, and take responsibilty for his children. and~ start charging them $50 an hour......tell your Bro-IL, and sis, that it is too much of a financial strain for you and your hubby, to care for 3 kids. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 If their oldest is 12 yrs old, isn't that old enough to stay alone and "babysit" the younger ones? Why not suggest this to your bil/sil. They should be paying their 12 yr old to babysit the younger ones. Or better yet, tell them YOU are unavailable to babysit, but they can ask your kids to come to their house and babysit for them for $xx amount an hour. And no more overnight babysitting, if that was a problem. They can go out and do their thing, but they can also come home at a reasonable hour and drive the babysitter home. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 When did camping stop being a family event? They MADE the kids, now it's time to take responsibility for them. Let's see . . . the teacher watches them during the school year, someone watches them when the parents are working, and someone watches them when the parents want to be alone. When do the parents spend time with their own kids? Link to post Share on other sites
SoftDrink Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 yeah...it sounds like they are desperate to pass these kids off to anyone who'll take them... Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillHurtin Posted July 26, 2005 Author Share Posted July 26, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 If their oldest is 12 yrs old, isn't that old enough to stay alone and "babysit" the younger ones? Why not suggest this to your bil/sil. They should be paying their 12 yr old to babysit the younger ones. Or better yet, tell them YOU are unavailable to babysit, but they can ask your kids to come to their house and babysit for them for $xx amount an hour. And no more overnight babysitting, if that was a problem. They can go out and do their thing, but they can also come home at a reasonable hour and drive the babysitter home. MWC, sorry that confusing. My sil and brother are the ones that have the 12 yo and two younger children. They aren't the ones that want me to babysit, it's my sister and bil who have two children 10 and 8. I just found out the fair is that weekend. There is no way in he!! I am going to take my two kids plus theirs to the fair and my kids shouldn't miss out on the fun b/c of it. If she expects me to take her kids to the fair she is nuts. That is one of our family times and I refuse to take other ppl's kids w/ me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillHurtin Posted July 26, 2005 Author Share Posted July 26, 2005 Originally posted by Lil Honey When did camping stop being a family event? They MADE the kids, now it's time to take responsibility for them. Let's see . . . the teacher watches them during the school year, someone watches them when the parents are working, and someone watches them when the parents want to be alone. When do the parents spend time with their own kids? I agree Lil Honey. They want to go and spend time alone that weekend and not have to deal w/ their kids. My sister works but only PT (4 hours a day, 5 days a week) and they go to her mil's for two of those hours when she gets off work. H and I NEVER get a weekend to ourselves but yet we never ask anyone to babysit either. My inlaws come back off and on for the summer (they live out of state) and when they are back the kids spend a week or two w/ them off and on but that is my inlaws choice. That is the only time they get to see them the whole year so they want them around that long. My sil always tells me that I have it rough when my inlaws take the kids for a week. She basically said we have it better off than her and my bil b/c my inlaws have the kids a week long. Well, that only happens once a year, when they are back visiting. My sister's inlaws watch their girls every Saturday night (unless they go somewhere and that isn't very often). Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillHurtin Posted July 26, 2005 Author Share Posted July 26, 2005 Originally posted by SoftDrink yeah...it sounds like they are desperate to pass these kids off to anyone who'll take them... I know what they want to do...have wild, kinky sex and not worry about their kids being around. They have it made compared to us. We live in a little 2 bedroom mobile home (I rented it when I moved back to my hometown when my H and I were going through a D, it was the only place in the country for rent and I really wanted to be in the country again). Anyhow, so we don't get to have wild sex whenever we want, lol. They have a big 2story farm house. Their kids bedrooms are both upstairs. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 "Nobody can take advantage of you without your permission." Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillHurtin Posted July 27, 2005 Author Share Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 "Nobody can take advantage of you without your permission." I agree, and if they get pissed I say no, then they need to grow up. When my sis said she would babysit for my kids a couple days a week last summer there was a few times where she backed out at the last minute and I had to rush around to call to get another sitter. Now that did piss me off b/c she told me she would babysit and then backed out the day b4 she was suppose to. She was never sick, she just decided atthe last minute she didn't want to watch my kids. Link to post Share on other sites
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