Friend stopped speaking to me and I have no idea why.

[Cristoforo]

I have a friend who I also briefly dated about 5 years ago. She moved across the country after we stopped dating and we didn't have any contact with each other until this past summer when she added me on FB and we started talking as friends. She asked me if I wanted to come out and visit her and so this past summer I did. It was nice to reconnect and even though we dated before there was nothing awkward and we really enjoyed each other's company. After I returned from my trip we kept in touch regularly through text, email and phone calls.

 

About two weeks ago I sent her a text. A week and half later and I still hasn't received a response. I sent her an email reaching out again this past Friday and I never got a response to that either. The longest she's ever taken to respond was a few days, never any period of time this long. I see she is active on Facebook too with posts and likes. I just don't understand why she hasn't responded. Should I try contacting her again? I'd like to ask her if there is any particular reason she just stopped responding to me. It's been really nagging me because I enjoyed our long-distance friendship and it really hurts me when people just decide to ignore me without giving me a reason. Did I say or do something or not say or do something to cause it?

[FoundLove]

How long after you saw her in person did she begin to ignore you?

 

Maybe she realized she still has feelings for you when she saw you and don't want to be just your friend?

[Cristoforo]

How long after you saw her in person did she begin to ignore you?

 

Maybe she realized she still has feelings for you when she saw you and don't want to be just your friend?

 

I saw her this past summer in August. We had been talking ever since I got back until about 2 weeks ago when she stopped responding to me.

[whichwayisup]

You two are ex's and even though there's been a bit of contact it doesn't mean that contact has to happen so much. There is no point in pursuing when the other person isn't interested.

 

Let her contact you next. You've reached out a few times and received no response. If you reach out again you're gonna feel like crap when she doesn't reply back (again).

[preraph]

Did she get a boyfriend? If so, he could have insisted she stop talking to an ex. It's possible she's on vacation or something too, though. Or it's possible she got the idea you still had romantic feelings for her she can't return or vice versa.

[ChatroomHero]

An ex gf if mine was always on her phone and when I was with her she would be anywhere, in the middle of a conversation, in the shower, at work, sleeping, etc. and if her phone message alert went off she would pick it up and respond to whoever in a few seconds. Every time.

 

 

When I would text her about plans or something important and I needed a quick response she would not respond. So I tested her. We were supposed to go on a date we agreed to a few days earlier and she went silent. The day before I texted her to confirm the time. No response. I followed up mid afternoon the day of because I had to plan when I was leaving my office. No response. So a couple of hours later I sent her a text saying something came up at work but I had tickets for a baseball game from one of the guys from work, they were great seats and she could take her sister but I had to know in the next 10 minutes or the guy was going to give them to someone else in the office. It took less than a minute for a response and I had my answer basically.

 

 

If you are really wondering, you might be able to message her about something you know she would respond to because it would benefit her personally, that way you can determine if it is the message or the messenger getting ignored.