It Is Officially Over!

[CRISS23]

MY EX ALREADY HAS A SO CALLED FREIND AND WE WERE ONLY SEPERATED FOR 2 WEEKS. I THOUGHT I MEANT MORE TO HER, I GUESS NOT. 6 YEARS MEANS ALOT TO ME AND I CAN'T SIT HEAR AND HURT IKE THIS . I STILL WANT HER BUT RIGHT NOW I 'M NOT LIKING HER. REBOUND OR NOT THIS IS BULL****, LOVE DON'T WAIT AND I'M SURE AS HELL NOT ABOUT TOO. I'VE NEVER HURT LIKE THIS BEFORE AND SHE THINKS THE GRASS IS GREENER, I'M ABOUT TO FOLLOW MY HEART, AND IT SAYS GO TO CALI. MY FRIEND IS THERE AND ALWAYS WANTED ME TO COME OUT THERE WITH HER. AND SHE DOESN'T HAVE FEELINGS FOR ME JUST MUTAL FRIENDSHIP. THIS IS JUST TO MUCH PAIN AND I CAN'T TAKE THIS ****. WHAT IF DUDE CHEATS ON HER THEN WHAT? HE'S STILL BETTER THAN ME? THANKS ALL YOU GUYS FOR YOUR SUPPORT I GREATLY APPERCIATE IT AND WILL VIST THE BOARD WHEN I CAN. I NEED TO DEAL WITH THIS PAIN FRIST. THANKS AGAIN

[CRISS23]

I 'M REALLY STARTING TO FEEL A LITTLE HATE TOWARDS HER. SHE TREATS ME LIKE I'M JUST A GUY SHE HAD A BABY BY. I RECENTLY FIND OUT FROM HER MOTHER SHE DEVELOPED AN ULCER, PART OF ME CARES AND THE OTHER PART SAYS SO WHAT AND I WONDER WHAT SHE IS SO STRESSED ABOUT. IT CAN'T BE ME BECAUSE WE NOT TOGETHER ANYMORE. IF FEELING UNAPPERCIATED MAKES YOU ACT LIKE A FOOL THEN I HAVE NO REMORSE FOR HER. THE WAY SHE ACTS SHE MAKES IT SEEM LIKE I CHEATED, I HIT HER AND IT WAS JUST THAT I DIDN'T DISPLAY MY EMOTIONS ALL THE TIME. HER OWN MOTHER DID NOT KNOW THE REAL REASON WE SPLIT BUT I LET HER KNOW, AND SAYS THAT'S NOTHING THAT CAN'T BE FIXED, BUT WITH THIS NEW GUY SHE MIGHT SOON REALIZE MY PROBLEMS ARE NOTHING COMPARED TO WHAT HE MIGHT HAVE GOING ON BECAUSE EVERYBODY HAS PROBLEMS. AT LEAST SHE KNOWS MINE AND I'M A LOYAL DUDE, SHE WAS JUST FAITHFUL. AND WHEN I SAY THAT I MEAN, FAITHFUL IS WHEN U ARE WITH SOME ONE, AND YOU STILL TAKE A GIRL'S NUMBER THOUGH YOU HAVE SOMEONE BUT GIVING THE OTHER GIRL THE IDEA THAT SHE HAS A CHANCE,LOYAL MEANS NO MATTER IF IT'S HALLIE BERRY YOU ARE WITH THIS GIRL AND THAT IS WHO YOU ARE WITH AND OTHERS GIRLS DON'T EXIST. FOR 6 YEARS, NO OTHER FEMALE EXISTIED TO ME JUST HER, AND THIS IS WHAT I GET. EMOTIONALLY I FEEL AS THOUGH I,M GETTING OVER IT BUT I FEEL LIKE A FOOL AND HER OWN MOM SAYS I'M TAKING IT TO LIGHTLY. SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND ALREADY AND HER MOM DOESN'T LIKE THAT IDEA SO IT MUST BE SOMETHING TO IT. I AM HEALING PROPERLY WHILE SHE IS RUSHING IN A NEW THING AND U KNOW IT IS DOOMED TO FAIL, AND THEN SHE IS GONNA BE WORST OFF THAN BEFORE EMOTIONALLY. I REALLY WANT TO TELL HER HOW PISSED I AM. WHAT DO U GUYS THINK, AM I TAKING THIS TO LIGHTLY, I MEAN SHE DID SAY- ME, HER, AN OUR DAUGHTER ARE NOT A FAMILY AND DOESN'T WANT TO DO FAMILY OUTINGS OR TAKE FAMILIY PORTRIATS AS IF THAT IS NOT RIGHT BECAUSE WE ARE NOT A COUPLE I MEAN I ASKED HER LAST WEEK ABOUT US GOING OUT HAVINS A NICE FAMILY OUTING LIKE WE ALWAYS DID, AND SHE SAID NO BECAUSE SHE HAS A FRIEND. THIS IS ALL MY DAUGHTER KNOWS AND SHE WANNA TAKE THAT AWAY BECAUSE OF SOME GUY. IT STILL HURTS JUST TO THINK ABOUT THAT, SHOULD I SAY SOMETHING? OR IS SILENT TREATMENT THE BEST OPTION? BECAUSE I THINK SHE IS REALLY HURTING INSIDE BUT WHAT CAN I DO, SHE WILL NOT TALK TO ME OR ANYONE, NOT EVEN HER OWN MOTHER, LET ME KNOW WHAT YA'LL THINK ABOUT THIS SITUATION.

[Jaime03]

I'm sure that she isnt ready to move on. Just because it seem like she has it doesnt mean she has. You need to take control of your life right now. You seem to be really torn up right now which is understandable. I think you are more angry than anything. If she thinks the grass is greener on the other side then let her go there. I bet you though if you were a good guy like you have made it sound she will realize that and want to be back with you. 6 years is a long time to just forget about. It is just not possible. Give it time. Relax. But do you really want to be with her? Do you really want to be with someone who is going to hurt you this bad? There are so many people out there. I wouldn't waste my time on someone who doesnt appreiciate you. Go give your honesty, and loyalty and all the qualities you have to someone who will give them back to you and who deserves it. Hang in there it will work out. Remember time heals pain.

[CRISS23]

THANKS JAMIE, BECAUSE WE BROKE UP ON GOOD TERMS AND THEN SHE CHANGED TOTALLY AND I DON'T HOPE SHE GETS HURT BUT RIGHT NOW IT'S GONNA HAPPEN. I GUESS SHE FEELS LIKE HE MAKES HER FEEL GOOD AND THINGS LIKE THAT, THAT DON'T LAST. IN RELATIONSHIPS, THINGS CHANGE WITH EACH STAGE, AND I GUESS SHE NEEDS TO GO THROUGH SOME PAIN IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP TO REALIZE THAT. BECAUSE WHEN THE SMOKE CLEARS, WHO DOES SHE THINKS GONNA BE THERE? HIM? IT IS GONNA BE ME, BECAUSE DESPITE MY PAIN, I LOVER HER DEEPLY AND STILL WANT TO BE A FAMILY SOME DAY, BECAUSE RIGHT NOW IT'S BIGGER THAN US , ITS ABOUT OUR CHILD AND ALL THESE NEGATIVE FEELINGS IS NOT A GOOD THING FOR HER TO SEE, SHE IS FOUR AND SHE KNOWS SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT BECAUSE I'M NOT THERE WHEN SHE WAKES UP OR GOES TO SLEEP. I WAS HER FRIST AND MAYBE SHE NEEDS TO SEE WHATS OUT THERE SO HER EYES CAN REALLY OPEN UP AND REALIZE THOUGH OUR THING WAS NOT PERFECT, WE REALLY HAD NO MAJOR PROBLEMS. SHE WILL SEE.

[Jaime03]

Your right it should be about the child more than anything. In times like this as hard as it is you just need to put aside your problems with her and concentrate on the child. I am sure s(he) is a little confused and not sure of what is going on. Just give it time. Either way it will work out like it is supposed to.

[lostinmymind]

From what I read into this your ex has some major maturity issues. She isn't thinking about the child and what she is growing up with. That is the most important right now. When a child is involved in a breakup both parties need to bite their tongue, think about how much they love their kid, and allow the child to have a normal life. I feel really bad for you as well as for your daughter.

 

You said she needs to find out the grass isn't greener somewhere else, well that may be the case. You can't be her backup though, you HAVE to move on. Your trust for this woman should be gone and if it is to be rebuilt she is the one who has to build it, not you.

 

Her mother seems to be a fairly neutral third party. Talk to her about your daughter and your concerns for her. Right now that is a bigger issue then the failed relationship. Get a healthy relationship going with your daughter and what follows will be what is meant to be.

[CRISS23]

I KNOW I HAVE FLAWS BUT IT IS GOOD SEE THAT SOMEONE ON THE OUTSIDE SEES WHERE I'M COMING FROM, SHE IS A BEAUTIFUL PERSON, BUT SHE IS CONFUSED RIGHT NOW, AND I HATE TO SEE THAT. IT SEEMS LIKE SHE IS DRIVEN TO PROVE HER WORTH MORE THAN TRYING TO MAKE HER SELF HAPPY AND SHE MUST DO THAT FIRST. I FEEL LIKE THE GUY SHE IS SEEING SEEN HER VULNERABLE AND SHE PROBALLY TALKED TO HIM ABOUT US AND HE BEING A GUY, SAYS EXACTALLY WHAT SHE WANTED TO HEAR AND TOOK HOLD THE OPEN CHANCE TO GET HER. IT IS ALL DOOMED TO FAIL. REBOUNDS JUST DON'T WORK. I'M JUST ABOUT TO CORRECT THE HOLES IN MY LIFE AND BE A BETTER PERSON, BECAUSE THE MORE I SAY NOTHING, THE MORE SHE THINKS ABOUT THINGS. SHE KEEPS FOCUS ON THE THINGS I DIDN'T DO RIGHT AND THAT IS STUNTING THE GROWTH OF ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP WE MUST HAVE NOW. I TELL HER ALL THE TIME , LIVE FOR TODAY BECAUSE I CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST, WE NEED TO MOVE FOWARD. I DON'T WANT TO DISPIES HER, BUT SHE KEEP ACTING THE WAY SHE IS AND I HAVE NO CHOICE. I KNOW IF I ACT COLD TO HER, IT WILL REALLY HURT HER FEELINGS EVEN THOUGH SHE ACTS IF SHE DOESN'T HAVE A CARE IN THE WORLD ABOUT ME. AND I DON'T WANNA DO IT, BUT SHE NEEDS TO SEE THAT I'M SERIOUS ABOUT ALL OF THIS!

[CRISS23]

well guys and girls, i took what u all said' and she is cruel as ever. i called the other day to talk to my kid and she has me on hold for a long time. all she had to do is tell me to call back, not have me on hold for long periods of time. so i hung up and called back later and she picked up, told her to put my kid on and talked to her. afterwards, i told her to put her mom back on the phone and i told her when i ask to speak to my kid that is what i expect, she hung up in my face. so i called right back and i am calm not angry, and she gets mad at the fact that i stop talking to her except when it concerns my child. she said that i cause her ulcer which is in my opinoin, is cruel to say i caused her heath problems. she has a boy friend now, why the hell am i going to talk to u.i told you all the truth, i blame my self but if feeling unaapreciated can cause ulcers, then a world full of people should have one, i should have one. so she goes on to say that i have her mother thinking it was her fault we split because her family wants to know. but her mom knows because she aSKED AND KEEP IT BETWEEN ME AND HER. MY EX MUST FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SOMETHING BECAUSE WHAT IS SO HARD ABOUT TALKING ABOUT IT IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DID THE RIGHT THING? U HAVE A NEW GUY , SHE SAID I AM THE ONLY ONE THAT THINKS SHE WAS MESSING WITH THIS NEW GUY WHILE WE WHERE STILL AN ITEM AND BECAUSE 2 WEEKS AFTER WE SPLIT SHE HAS A NEW BOY FREIND DOSEN'T MEAN SHE WAS. SO WHAT WOULD U WOMEN AND MEN THINK IF U JUST BREAK WITH SOMEONE AFTER 6 YEARS AND 2 WEEKS LATER THEY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE NOT JUST A FREIND, A BOY FRIEND/GIRLFRIEND? ISN'T THAT KIND OF SUPSICIOUS, I THINK SHE DOESN'T TALK TO HER MOM ABOUT IT OR ANYONE THAT'S CLOSE TOM HER BECAUSE THEY ARE GOING TO SEE IT NOT HOW I DO, BUT FOR WHAT IT IS , THAT SHE HAD IT PLANNED OUT WITH THIS GUY AND WAS MESSING WITH HIM AT SOME POINT WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER. THERE IS NO OTHER EXPLANATION. BUT I WANNA HEAR FROM U ALL, IS THAT NOT A FAIR TRUTH, BECAUSE SHE THINK IT IS NOT, TALK TO ME YALL!

[CRISS23]

well guys and girls, i took what u all said' and she is cruel as ever. i called the other day to talk to my kid and she has me on hold for a long time. all she had to do is tell I'M ON THE OTHER LINE, call back, not have me on hold for long periods of time. so i hung up and called back later and she picked up, told her to put my kid on and talked to her. afterwards, i told her to put her mom back on the phone and i told her when i ask to speak to my kid that is what i expect, she hung up in my face. so i called right back and i am calm not angry, and she gets mad at the fact that i stop talking to her except when it concerns my child. she said that i cause her ulcer which is in my opinoin, is cruel to say i caused her heath problems. she has a boy friend now, why the hell am i going to talk to u, SHE SAID THAT IS THE ONLY THING WE HAVE TO TALK ABOUT IS OUR KID. I told you all the truth, i blame my self , but if feeling unaapreciated can cause ulcers, then a world full of people should have one, i should have one. so she goes on to say that i have her mother thinking it was her fault we split because her family wants to know. but her mom knows because she aSKED AND KEEP IT BETWEEN ME AND HER AND DIDN'T TELL MY EX WE HAD THE CONVERSATION. HER WHOLE FAMILY IS IN THE DARK WHY, IT IS HER FAMLIY AND SHE SHOULD BE ABLE TO TALK TO THEME WITH NO PROBLEM. MY EX MUST FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SOMETHING BECAUSE WHAT IS SO HARD ABOUT TALKING ABOUT IT IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DID THE RIGHT THING? U HAVE A NEW GUY , SHE SAID I AM THE ONLY ONE THAT THINKS SHE WAS MESSING WITH THIS NEW GUY WHILE WE WHERE STILL AN ITEM AND BECAUSE 2 WEEKS AFTER WE SPLIT SHE HAS A NEW BOY FREIND DOSEN'T MEAN SHE WAS. SO WHAT WOULD U WOMEN AND MEN THINK IF YOUR LOVE JUST BROKE UP WITH YOU AFTER 6 YEARS AND 2 WEEKS LATER THEY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE NOT JUST A FREIND, A BOY FRIEND/GIRLFRIEND? ISN'T THAT KIND OF SUPSICIOUS, I THINK SHE DOESN'T TALK TO HER MOM ABOUT IT OR ANYONE THAT'S CLOSE TO HER BECAUSE THEY ARE GOING TO SEE IT NOT HOW I DO, BUT FOR WHAT IT IS , THAT SHE HAD IT PLANNED OUT WITH THIS GUY AND WAS MESSING WITH HIM AT SOME POINT WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER. THERE IS NO OTHER EXPLANATION. BUT I WANNA HEAR FROM U ALL, IS THAT NOT A FAIR TRUTH, BECAUSE SHE THINK IT IS NOT, TALK TO ME YALL!