kgal Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 I just posted recently about the situation Im in... ANYWAYS... I've tried backing off... I didnt talk to him the entire day yesterday... when I finally said a little something on messenger, he was all "WELL WELL WELL STRANGER" and acted like I was mad at him... which I wasn't... but he asked me if I was. He ended up being the first to say "I love you" and that was a good sign.. cuz he NEVER does that! I'm always the first one to say it! Soooo....here I am.. waiting for him to talk to me b/cuz I am sick of being the one to always initiate the conversation! I won't back down either... I dont want to be hurt. I vowed the other night I wasnt going to allow him to hurt me. I have already experienced the horrible pain of one relationship gone wrong. I do hope he says something though. Do you guys think that making myself less available will help or hurt? Link to post Share on other sites
zuir1 Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 It works both ways. It can hurt or make things better. The bad thing is you wont know which one it will affect until it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 In your case, making yourself less available would definitely help. I would say it always helps, but that's just me. You need to decide whether to pretend that you're busy with various activities or you want him to "realize" that you're not into him that much. I would wait for him to call me, speak shortly, and then say I have to go. The less love statements the better. Men love challenge more than anything. There's a famous joke: people say to a man "Your wife is so beautiful, smart, kind, well-mannered, sweet, educated, a good mother, dedicated, etc.... does she have any faults at all?" He replies: "Yes. She is mine!" Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted July 30, 2005 Author Share Posted July 30, 2005 Well... a part of me can't wait for him to get back from this weekend so I can talk to him. I've missed him more than I"ve ever missed any man I've been in a 'ship with. I truly love this man... I just want a little respect and commitment shown on his part. He loves me, its just that I feel pride gets in the way and he won't tell me unless I show less interest...indeed increasing the "challenge" side of things. My feelings about this now are to not even worry about it and let it unfold as it does.... the less I worry.. the more confidence I seem to gain back and then everything else aligns. LOL... Have I just realized that not worrying is my anecdote to this extreme cycle of chaos I've put myself thru!? I just have to relax is all. Thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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