Heavenlyflower9 Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 After nine years of marriage..... Two beautiful children..... 2 of H's indecressions...... Hours of martial counseling...... it helped! Now we're at a stand still. I really want to improve our relationship not only as H and W but as friends too. I'll never forget about him cheating but i've put it in the past and want to move on with our lives. I still love him with all my heart! He says he loves me too! What else can I do to help strengthen our marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Remember the reasons why you fell inlove - And have fun with it. Go out on a date. Or let him pick you up in a bar. Dress up sexy too. Start getting family to help out, take the kids for a weekend and the two of you go away for afew days. My sister does this ALOT. Even if it's downtown to a Hotel, she and her husband make the time to do this...(Ofcourse I'm the one who gets the kids! Do nice things for eachother. Send cute emails, bring home flowers... That means alot on days you know he's stressed out. I do this for my husband and he loves it. Most of all, say I love you everyday - and never go to bed pissed off eachother. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 There are couples' retreats and marriage building/strengthening weekends. Some are religious and some not. Google couples weekends and you should find lots to choose from. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 ditto outcast's reply. one excellent resource is Marriage Encounter, a weekend couple's event sponsored by the Catholic Church. There, you receive the tools needed to help you communicate better with your spouse, and it's focused solely on YOU. It's a pretty intense weekend, but you learn what first attracted you to your spouse and why chose to stay with them. It took my husband some convincing to go because he didn't think we needed anything to help our marriage because it was already good, but he's the first to tell you that it was the best thing we did for our marriage, and that's saying a lot coming from someone who was married twice before AND who isn't overly religious. you can do a search on "Worldwide Marriage Encounter" to find retreats offered in your area, and best of all, you don't have to be Catholic to go (one couple who was at our table was Baptist, and it was their second ME retreat, they liked it that much). Minimal cost, but you can give a "love donation" to cover expenses for the weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Heavenlyflower9 Posted July 27, 2005 Author Share Posted July 27, 2005 Thank yall for the advice! I'm going to look into Marriage Encounter, etc! My H and I already have a "date" this Friday! My mom will take care of the kids! I can't wait, I'm excited.... I have no idea where we're going! Thanks again! I'll keep yall updated. Link to post Share on other sites
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