Author solidfwa Posted June 16, 2017 Author Share Posted June 16, 2017 I messed up big time, she came back around 3 weeks ago and she didn't contact me at all which I found strange, but I didn't contact her either to move on. A few days ago she posted a few things on Facebook that were clearly directed at me. I was going to ignore them but I caved in as I thought she missed me and I was hoping for a miracle. So I started messaging her on whatsapp saying whats up and so on.., she kept reading my messages and didn't respond at all. I got annoyed and my messages sort of became desperate as I started saying things like "Don't you care about me anymore" etc". This went on for around 20 mins, and then she blocked me. Not one reply and she blocked me. It felt like I have been stabbed in the heart. Why would she do that to me? She ignored me like I was nothing. Has she lost all feelings for me and moved on that quick? I don't understand don't them 8 years mean nothing? I should never have tried to contact her cause now I feel as bad as I did on day one. fml I feel betrayed by her and my trust in her is broken. This pain and feeling sucks. I wish I never met her in my life. How could she block me without even saying a word, she could see how upset I was and couldn't even be bothered to comfort me. I never expected this from her, I feel like I'll never get closure now. I'm sorry I failed in taking your guys advice and to stop all contact. What should I do now? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2017 Share Posted June 16, 2017 Honey, she didn't come back 3 weeks ago. She became active on social media again. She did not reconcile with you. How much more closure do you want? This woman proverbially slammed the last door in your face. You pestering her left her no choice but to block you. Since she is engaged to another man, that is probably for the best. Her new husband does not want her EX BF in the picture at all. When you guys got together she told you the reality was she could never marry you & eventually she would marry "somebody in her caste." You need to face the harsh truth that this is over & she's not coming back. I'm sorry you are hurting but once you accept that this is the end you will begin to heal. Link to post Share on other sites
Gillys Posted June 17, 2017 Share Posted June 17, 2017 I’m sorry you had to go through that experience. Sadly, you will probably never get closure. When you accept that you’ll be one step closer to healing. You should block her on social media so you will not fall victim to anymore breadcrumbs as well. The best thing to do is just go no contact and try to heal. You’ll hurt for a while and probably still think about her every day, but slowly you will start to feel better. You now know what kind of damage initiating contact with her can do, so try to stay stronger next time. Just remember even if she did respond, you probably wouldn’t have gotten the response you wanted anyway and would still be just as hurt if not more. It is best not to initiate contact in these situations IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author solidfwa Posted June 18, 2017 Author Share Posted June 18, 2017 Honey, she didn't come back 3 weeks ago. She became active on social media again. She did not reconcile with you. How much more closure do you want? This woman proverbially slammed the last door in your face. You pestering her left her no choice but to block you. Since she is engaged to another man, that is probably for the best. Her new husband does not want her EX BF in the picture at all. When you guys got together she told you the reality was she could never marry you & eventually she would marry "somebody in her caste." You need to face the harsh truth that this is over & she's not coming back. I'm sorry you are hurting but once you accept that this is the end you will begin to heal. But she said to me she still wanted to be friends last time we spoke, before I went no contact. It's not even about that, It's about being a good person. She has disrespected me in ignoring and blocking me like that. It's not like I asked her to cheat on him with me. She could have had the decency to say bye to me, even a simple text message. Instead she let me degrade myself in front of her. She has previously said to me that she can't say bye to me cause it's to difficult for her, But I don't buy that, I just want to hear it from her so they I can let go, instead of leaving me hanging on. This is all odd because I never thought she was capable of being so heartless. I’m sorry you had to go through that experience. Sadly, you will probably never get closure. When you accept that you’ll be one step closer to healing. You should block her on social media so you will not fall victim to anymore breadcrumbs as well. The best thing to do is just go no contact and try to heal. You’ll hurt for a while and probably still think about her every day, but slowly you will start to feel better. You now know what kind of damage initiating contact with her can do, so try to stay stronger next time. Just remember even if she did respond, you probably wouldn’t have gotten the response you wanted anyway and would still be just as hurt if not more. It is best not to initiate contact in these situations IMO. I won't ever try contact her again, but I don't have the strength to block her on Facebook yet. It's just not fair how I put so much time in her to make her happy and she just ignores me like that. Do you guys think she has truly lost all feelings for me? as in she doesn't care about me at all? She's only known this guy for just over 3 months. I just don't get it. I don't know if I'll ever be able to forget her. Do you think she will ever contact me again? My mind is all over the place at the moment with so many questions. Link to post Share on other sites
Gillys Posted June 18, 2017 Share Posted June 18, 2017 I can empathize with what you’re going through. I degraded myself for months while trying to get a goodbye/ closure talk with my ex. It never happened and each attempt just made me lose my self-respect even more. Mine also said she wanted to be friends. After much pressure to get her to talk to me, she eventually told me that she never wanted to speak to me again and that she had zero desire to be friends with an ex. (Hearing that hurt more than getting dumped). Therefore, I personally suggest NC at this point. I can understand not being able to block her on Facebook yet. No one knows your ex personally, but I highly doubt someone can lose all feelings after an 8 year relationship just like that. She probably cares about you but maybe feels this is the easiest way to let you go. (Even though it feels like S*** and there isn’t an easy way about it from your point of view). You may never forget her but the pain hopefully will lessen over time. Not entirely sure if she’ll contact you, mine would periodically contact me. However, all it did was lead me on because she stayed with the new guy. Each time she reached out and pulled away it felt like I had been dumped again. My ex hasn’t said a word to me in the last 7 months. You need to let contact happen on her terms though. Any contact initiated by you when you’re feeling this way may not be interpreted in the way you intend. Hang in there! Try your best not to degrade yourself for contact or answers Link to post Share on other sites
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