wkdwilliams Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Recently moved back to the UK after living in Asia for a long time. Tinder seemed to be the best way of finding a girl, had great relationships but ever since coming back to the UK, I haven't been able to find anything. Tinder seems to be the worst method since I've had only 2 matches. What's your best methods of finding something decent? Link to post Share on other sites
GoldSparkz Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 I wouldn't use Tinder unless you're looking for a hookup. Have you tried a paid dating app like Match? Being paid, I would assume the members are much more serious about finding a relationship. Obviously dating apps are only one option that shouldn't be used alone. To increase your chances, you also need to get out in the real world and put yourself in the company of women. What are your interests/hobbies? For example, if you like running, you can join a local running club. Not only would you make new friends, but you may find a potential partner who shares the same interests. As you've lived abroad for a long time, perhaps you should start of by focussing on making new friends as opposed to finding a partner. This way you can build a close bond before taking the next step. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
anzhoulau Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Agree with GoldSparkz, making new fds should come before getting a new partner when you move to a new place. It is the case for me at least. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Tinder sounds awful. I have never done it. I prefer IRL. Tell family & friends of friends you are open to being fixed up. Go to events where there will be people. Join niche singles meet up groups that do things that interest you so you will have fun even if you don't make a match. See who is around at work; not your company but in the building, where you eat lunch, on your commute etc. Join a co-ed sports team. Volunteer somewhere doing something you are passionate about. Get involved with alumni associations. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 I wouldn't use Tinder unless you're looking for a hookup. Have you tried a paid dating app like Match? Being paid, I would assume the members are much more serious about finding a relationship. Obviously dating apps are only one option that shouldn't be used alone. To increase your chances, you also need to get out in the real world and put yourself in the company of women. What are your interests/hobbies? For example, if you like running, you can join a local running club. Not only would you make new friends, but you may find a potential partner who shares the same interests. As you've lived abroad for a long time, perhaps you should start of by focussing on making new friends as opposed to finding a partner. This way you can build a close bond before taking the next step. It sounds like you haven't used OLD. Tinder is not a hookup app (in my area anyway). Paid or free makes no difference other than you tend to get more members with free. I agree that IRL is the best way to meet someone. Women on OLD seem to be riddled with issues. Op - For OLD, Bumble is a better app in my area with better quality women. Maybwant to give that a try. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 By going out and participating in actives, interests, hobbies, etc that gets you socializing with people. That's how you can meet someone of quality because it give you face to face interaction. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
greenbee81 Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 For me, I just keep trying and trying. As an Asian male, I have the worst odds but I'll keep trying different dating apps, bars, friends of friend etc. Usually it'll be a year or two before I even get a date. Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Recently moved back to the UK after living in Asia for a long time. Tinder seemed to be the best way of finding a girl, had great relationships but ever since coming back to the UK, I haven't been able to find anything. Tinder seems to be the worst method since I've had only 2 matches. What's your best methods of finding something decent?That must not really be you in the picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Tressugar Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Greenbee I've heard and read that Asian men and black women have the hardest time to find dates online. Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Recently moved back to the UK after living in Asia for a long time. Tinder seemed to be the best way of finding a girl, had great relationships but ever since coming back to the UK, I haven't been able to find anything. Tinder seems to be the worst method since I've had only 2 matches. What's your best methods of finding something decent? I use online dating and it has been relatively successful for me. I've had some very nice relationships and dates. I've never used Tinder. Not to burst your bubble, but comparing your experience in Asia with the UK is fair. Asian, et. al women are going to gravitate towards Englishman, white, western men much more readily. You represent material opportunity, wealth and a way out and so women will be less knowledgeable or 'picky.' Now you're back in a part of the world where women tend to be more savvy, jaded about dating and relationships. Getting into group activities is fun and another way to date. Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Greenbee I've heard and read that Asian men and black women have the hardest time to find dates online.Asian men have to fight the "tiny penis" stereotype. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 I find that women come to me for the sake of getting to know me or interact with me. When I just don't care. When I make an effort. It seems like they are a bit more resistant. So my way of finding love this year is prayer and a woman more putting it together with us. Than me being the driving force. Link to post Share on other sites
TheTraveler Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 For me, I just keep trying and trying. As an Asian male, I have the worst odds but I'll keep trying different dating apps, bars, friends of friend etc. Usually it'll be a year or two before I even get a date. Asian men have to fight the "tiny penis" stereotype. Greenbee, have you considered writing “hung like horse” in your dating app? 1-2 years to even land a date is a very long time via dating apps Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Dating apps vary by region and by age group. Where I live and in my age group Tinder is not all about hook ups. People go to bars for hookups. My gf and I are having our one year Tinderversary in less than a week. It will be one year since she super liked me (accidentally lol) and I contacted her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wkdwilliams Posted April 3, 2017 Author Share Posted April 3, 2017 That must not really be you in the picture. I promise it is me Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted April 3, 2017 Share Posted April 3, 2017 I think the key is to not close ones eyes to opportunities wherever they may originate. Past few months I have been in and out of a place and got to know the lady behind the front desk fairly well and flirting (even for someone as challenged as me at it ) has happened fairly naturally. The point is opportunities are all around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted April 3, 2017 Share Posted April 3, 2017 I found the vast majority of my dates and relationships via OLD. A few were found at activities/social events/meetup groups. I haven't tried the apps - there are too few people in my area for that to produce results for my demographic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Telemachus Posted April 3, 2017 Share Posted April 3, 2017 You write about a relationship as though you're shopping for a new pair of pants or some toothpaste. Go shopping this way, and you'll find yourself in a relationship that doesn't last. Remember, the way you're going about this, you're just as disposable to the women on the other side of the transaction as they are to you. And I do mean transaction. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 3, 2017 Share Posted April 3, 2017 OLD for men is very feast or famine. And when I say that, it's relative to the guy. A feast for me was talking to 3 or 4 women at the same time. But still. Sometimes, you have to work through the valleys. It's worth sticking with it. Low investment, high exposure.. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark Horse Posted April 16, 2017 Share Posted April 16, 2017 Tinder shoudn't be your primary way of meeting girls Link to post Share on other sites
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