Capri23 Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Good morning! So I'll cut right to the chase. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years. We started dating in college so we'd spend our entire summers apart for the first 3 years of our relationship. Then, in 2013 he bought a house where I live & I started spending the night at his place a few nights a week. I still lived at home with my parents so I loved everything about staying with him. Around Spring 2016, I started to stay with him every night but it wasn't an official move in because I still packed a bag to come over, and still got told to go home after every fight. Fast forward to today, I'm still staying at his place but its under the same circumstances. I have a few things over his house, but essentially still pack a bag to come over. He's mentioned a few times during arguments that he feels like I'm "always up his ass" and in his space. I mentioned finding a place together when his lease is up in 6 months, so that it would be "our space" and everything would be equal. He's not budging. Also, I mentioned to him that I need to be engaged by our 6 year anniversary (which I already pushed 2 years), and while he said he understood, I don't see that happening either. I think officially moving in together would shift things from just on his terms, to our terms. Somehow, I always end up feeling very bad and in the wrong for expecting more from him at this point in our relationship. He's 27, and still very much cringes at the thought of being married or living together any time soon. This all leads me to the reason I'm here - should I go back home (unfortunately to my parents house because I can't quite afford to live alone yet) until he's ready for the next step? Or should I keep things how they are? Link to post Share on other sites
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