Jooles Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Sorry sweetie, that has to be so devastating! Sometimes things happen for a reason-perhaps the best part of your life awaits you in your new independence from your louse of a spouse. Get that divorce asap, and do nothing to sabotage his military career. You need to move forward and leave him and your heartbreak behind! Good Luck, and stay strong ! ???? Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 Why would you follow him and continue to put up with his infidelity and disrespect? Time to get your self respect back and leave him to his new love. He'll soon find out what her true intentions are, but by then you'll have long moved on. If you let him treat you like this, he'll continue to. Expose his behaviour to his family, so they know what he's been up to and move on with your life. He's not worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted March 19, 2017 Share Posted March 19, 2017 Hi Aphydiniega, your situation really seems so tragic. Is your family and that of your husband originally from the Philippines? I ask because I'm a little confused as to how he met up with this girl while posted in Korea. You said that he spent his vacation in the Philippines instead of coming back to the US to spend it with you. At that time did you not think it odd and ask him the reason? Maybe if you had questioned him then while it was still early days he may have broken it off although from his current behaviour it seems unlikely he would do so. I also wanted to ask you what was the state of your marriage preceding this affair? Did you two enjoy a good level of togetherness? Was it a warm and loving relationship? How did you two meet and how long did you date before getting married? Were you always as needy as you appear to have been after discovering your husband's affair? Answers to some of these questions will give the folks on here a better picture of the overall state of your marriage before and after the affair and help them address your concerns better. You have been given some very good advice and for your own sake you should be paying close attention to what people have to say. Your last post indicates that you are are becoming much more realistic about your situation and that is a good thing. All the very best to you going forward. Warm wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
viatori patuit Posted March 20, 2017 Share Posted March 20, 2017 I am a man, and I have been in a similar position. Here are the differences. 1. I wasn't a sh*tstain that told his wife she was ugly. 2. I was horribly ashamed by my single fling. That being said, a person who is done with the marriage is done. There is always a party that still wants to try even if just a little bit. You made the correct choice in leaving. Now divorce him and move on with your life. My ex did. Yes, it sucks. And yes it will hurt. But the issues that stem from divorce are nothing when confronted with this situation. Life goes on and happiness awaits. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Apple1977 Posted March 22, 2017 Share Posted March 22, 2017 (edited) dump [him] and make sure you tell all his friends and family what he really is Edited March 22, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
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