if I really like my boyfriend's brother ?

[Elissvv]

I’m in a really new relationship with this guy (it’s just 2 months). He’s a fantastic guy, he’s caring, sweet, romantic (maybe too much for my personality!), he’s really in love with me.. i can tell. But from the start I haven’t felt that “sparkle”. I mean I like him a lot and he’s my first boyfriend so maybe I was also moved by curiosity but I thought okay maybe i just need some time to know him better. when we’re alone I feel that i love him and that he’s perfect but then I met his brother and since then I can’t stop thinking of him. he’s very attractive and I think he’s more than my bf, plus i feel we’re more similar ..in fact sometimes i think my bf and I are too different : he’s very calm and maybe a bit too serious (not that he doesn’t make me laugh) instead I am a bit crazy and adventurous just like his brother. one day the brother hugged me all in a sudden and i felt weird.. but my bf saw it and act normal. but then whenever i started thinking of him I felt my heart beating so fast like it never did with my bf. I’m trying to get this feeling away from my head but I know myself.. it’salready too late :/ however i feel sad because my bf doesn’t deserve this and i think i don’t love him enough or this wouldn’t happen but even if i break up with him i know it could be impossible to have a relationship with his brother (he has a gf too and i admit i feel a bit jealous) so i don’t know what to do. I think i’m a pretty girl and i think the brother could like me ( before i met by bf he approached me at a party) but i feel a horrible person even just thinking it and catching myself daydreaming about him. i’m in a horrible situation i know and i’m a horrible person i know. if ypu have some advice i will be thankful and please don’t judge me because i never wanted this to happen

[basil67]

The answer is to break up with your boyfriend because he's not meeting your needs. And then end contact with both of them because no good could come of you staying in contact with the brother.

 

This is a situation where you have to put other people's needs above your own desires.

[aileD]

You won't just ruin a relationship with your boyfriend, you will ruin his relationship with his brother.

Walk away from them both. Not worth it

[BTDT2012]

End it with your bf. He deserves better.

[Starswillshine]

Agree with breaking up with your bf and stay out of their lives. Respect the brother's relationship. It's only been 2 months, so walk away now before it becomes even more painful and too much time invested. For all of you.

[Bufo]

Pop song wisdom for what it's worth.

 

Did You Ever Have to Make Up Your Mind?

 

Shop Around

 

Too Many Fish in the Sea

 

Lesson: don't fall head over heels for either one. In a few years you'll be saying to yourself "what was I thinking". Besides if brother number 1 is less than happy about being dumped for brother number 2, a permanent state of tension is guaranteed.

[anika99]

First of all, nobody loves anybody after just 2 months. Your bf doesn't love you, he is infatuated with you. Love takes a long time. Now that being said, you don't appear to be infatuated with your bf and if you are not attracted to your bf then you need to break up with him.

 

Stay away from his brother. There are lots more men out there who will make your heart go pitter patter so no need to cause problems in someone's family.

[Lady2163]

If you do want to remain a good and decent person and you just can't feel a connection, everyone else is right. You need to end things with your boyfriend. I think you're still just looking for a good time and an adventure. Yet your fun time can damage their family for years to come. Your boyfriend may never trust his brother again. Your boyfriend may be unwilling to spend holidays with his family. He may not want his brother around any other women he dates.

 

Think of what that could do to his parents and everyone else.