LordVader Posted March 21, 2017 Share Posted March 21, 2017 And IDK anything about dating, or relationships or sex, etc. So I ignored her, and haven't gone back. So I'm miserable in a lot of ways because I'm single and "can't" get a GF. I can't even deal with a real life girl at all it seems. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 21, 2017 Share Posted March 21, 2017 Well you're never going to learn unless you go for it. Go back, tell her you're sorry you ignored her and that you were feeling ill, or something. Maybe she'll forgive you and you'll get a date, or maybe she's moved on. But if you don't go for it you'll never know. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 21, 2017 Share Posted March 21, 2017 Be really careful with this. I find that TONS of guys think female retail workers are coming on/flirting when really the girl is just doing her job: making the man feel comfortable in the store so he'll buy, and want to come back. What exactly did she say/do? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted March 21, 2017 Share Posted March 21, 2017 Be really careful with this. I find that TONS of guys think female retail workers are coming on/flirting when really the girl is just doing her job: making the man feel comfortable in the store so he'll buy, and want to come back. Yeah, if you don't know anything about women, this can be easily misconstrued as genuine attention. Especially if the girl works on tips/commission, she's being nice to you largely to extract money from you. There's a South Park episode based on it. If you don't know anything about dating, relationships, or sex, and are "miserable" at it, I'd imagine you haven't gotten a lot of female attention up to this point, so for this girl to suddenly give you some (in a business context) seems a little suspicious. The more important question is: are you even interested in her? If not, just ignore it. If so, you need to find out if she works on commission, if it's just company policy to be overly friendly, if she's just overly friendly in general, etc. I've been out with a girl who sold me clothes once but it was a very long, complex, interaction of trying to figure out if she liked me, wanted to sell me some clothes, or both. Turns out it was both -- but I didn't know until I dug deeper. If you like her, go and ask her circumstantial stuff -- like about the product you're interested in. Take a very guarded approach like you're totally not interested in her and are well aware that she's just trying to sell you something. Then, have the conversation get a little more personal as you "concede" things to her and let your guard down, rather than hold her in a position of power initially. You're the customer. You have the money she wants. You're in control, not her. Use that leverage to your advantage and then slowly grant her more warmth and personal connections. Then if you get the right vibe, see what happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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