Punishing myself for moving on

[Jay_91L]

Last June my almost 2 year relationship came to an end. I knew it was coming but I was still devastated when he ended the relationship. I've really struggled with the breakup and we have no contact anymore.

 

I've started to develop feelings for another guy but I'm feeling really guilty about it and I've started basically reliving the breakup by having it constantly on my mind all day.

 

Is this normal behaviour? This is my first real heartbreak. I don't even know if I've explained this well.

[No_Go]

Completely normal, although it is 'unnecessary worry'. I broke up with my ex of almost 2 years in the end of last year and feel the same way. Now, I'm almost ready to pull the trigger and start dating again, but I definitely needed that time to rewire and put my life/emotions together.

 

With my first heartbreak it took the longest... I was dating but I was not over him probably for good two years (that's of course an extreme; t was a complicated situation)

 

Last June my almost 2 year relationship came to an end. I knew it was coming but I was still devastated when he ended the relationship. I've really struggled with the breakup and we have no contact anymore.

 

I've started to develop feelings for another guy but I'm feeling really guilty about it and I've started basically reliving the breakup by having it constantly on my mind all day.

 

Is this normal behaviour? This is my first real heartbreak. I don't even know if I've explained this well.

[SevenCity]

Yes, this feeling is normal. You were with your ex for so long, that it feels unnatural to develop feelings for another guy. You feel guilty, because to you, you are almost cheating. You know you aren't cheating, but sometimes knowing isn't the same as feeling. Eventually, this feeling will go away. Live your life.

 

This is right on.

 

I started dating a month after my ex broke up with me and was riddled with guilt. I felt like I was cheating.

 

It goes away with time.