Missing him soooo bad

[sinkerswim]

My boyfriend and I had the best weekend ever a couple weeks ago, and I now just want to be with him ALL the time.

We have plans to live together in the future.. which is great. He is in Illinois and I am in PA...

We just have to decide who goes where.

Anyway...

The ache of missing him sometimes gets so overwhelming. Anybody else have this problem?

I sometimes wake up with a dreaded feeling in the morning...

See, I am more than happy I am loved by him... but yet I get scared as to what if I never see him again?

I know these feelings arent normal.. we make plans everytime we part to see each other again. Next time i will see him in Labor Day weekend.

He is sooo wonderful to me.. I just dont want to lose him.

I had a bad bad breakup last year and thats how I ended up on this site.. my ex fiance of 8 years left me. I dont want this happening again.

This guy is truly the love of my life.

 

Any advice what you do when you miss your SO sooo bad??

[kgal]

I feel that way all the time! I have a relationship (long distance) and I am in love w/this guy. He and I seem so close... and sometimes I get these awful feelings of "what if..." Right now I have to wrestle with thoughts of him being unfaithful to me (but thats another story)... I, too, went thru a bad breakup about 2 years ago... that's what brought me here as well. I think those feelings of insecurity have lingered and are interferring w/the relationship I'm in. I don't know if it's just me being too over-emotional.. or if I have a reason to listen to the thoughts of his whereabouts. Sometimes I feel like I am going to scare my b/f away if I act too psycho about where he is all the time and if he still loves me and wants to be w/me. I feel like I have to be constantly reassured that he will not leave. I guess this is just due to the fear of abandonment that I encountered in the past 'ship.

 

You say this guy is the love of your life... but don't rely too much on him for your every happiness. I guess that's the one mistake I always make.. is looking to him to make me happy. I expect too much and when I don't get what I want,, I get real depressed.

 

I hope things work out great for you in this 'ship!

 

I would give him a phone call and talk when it gets to where you're missing him real bad... but don't call too much (as to where you are harrassing him.. lol) I make the mistake of "smothering" my b/f and I think that doing stuff for yourself is a plus! Go get a manicure, read a new magazine, take a nice bath... just enjoy the time in between seeing him & really pamper yourself. Afterall, you deserve it!

 

Keep us posted.

[sinkerswim]

Hi there, KGal...

Thanks so much for your input. I too always need to be "reassured". Actually, I just started doing that. I did it in my last relationship too..

Anyway my new guy and I been together since February...now that Ive been with him a few times, and both of us having fallen in love with each other and having a wonderful time., I just wish we were ALWAYS together.

 

He is sooo wonderful to me. Hes truly a wonderful person who deserves happiness as well, after some crappy relationships he has been in.

I just dont want to smother him either. I dont want to ruin what we have.

 

He calls me at least twice a day at work... which is wonderful, and we chat on the computer. But when hes not available, I get all sad, thinking he doesnt want to talk to me. Thats where my reassurance problem comes in. But what I have to understand is, hes got a life too.

He told me if I dont ever hear from him, its probably for a legitimate reason.

 

He told me the other day, if I have any doubt... to just remember that he drove 12 hours to see me, flew in to see me, and that should tell me something right there that he loves me .

 

I hope I didnt ruin anything already by being all smothering at times. When I was crying to him on the phone the other morning, he told me that it was sweet that I missed him so much, because nobody has ever cried over him before.

He told me he misses me as well, and that he wishes he was coming home to me everyday. But unlike me, hes not making himself sick over it. But of course, I am.

I just dont wanna screw anything up with him. We have our plans for the future together. We want to marry and have children together.

I love it....I can truly see myself being with him the rest of my life.

Anyway....I hope your situation works out well, Kgal... keep me posted!

[kgal]

I think it's normal.. considering what you went through in the past. I always have to tell myself to chill out and smile anyways. I know he loves me... but when he doesn't talk to me, I start to feel like he's distracted and my thoughts run wild. I must have text messaged him 10 times, called once and IM'd him a bunch trying to get a response. (Im very impatient) lol... I just hope he's not getting annoyed. I have peace right now.. I know he'll talk to me as soon as he can. He's always been good at that in the past... so I just won't worry about it.

 

Your relationship sounds really good.. I wouldn't worry, though. Try doing more for yourself in the free time that you have... I always like to go for a walk or do my hair and makeup. It makes me feel better about myself .. and when I am more in touch w/myself.. I realize why someone loves me.

 

I will keep you posted. Happy for you, that you found such a great guy!