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Because of the recent break up I'm going through, I've been feeling very rejected as a person. Even though she says it's not me and that she jsut doesn't feel like being in a relationship right now. She is 19 and has been with me since she was 15. Many say that she's just young and wants to explore her youth and test the waters, the grass is greener story.

 

The only thing I can think of that might have gone bad was towards the end of our relationship we grew complacent of each other. But doesn't that happen in any long-term relationship? Never abusive, verbally or physically, and never controlling and I certianly don't have a big ego.

 

After the whole "honeymoon phase", I thought love turned into being supportive, undertsanding and giving your partner companionship.

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ReluctantRomeo
Originally posted by eddpad

Never abusive, verbally or physically, and never controlling and I certianly don't have a big ego.

 

These are a good start. But a good relationship is more than the absence of negatives... it's the presence of companionship, good conversation and listening, joy and fun, good teamwork, etc.

 

 

After the whole "honeymoon phase", I thought love turned into being supportive, undertsanding and giving your partner companionship.

 

I think this too.

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I agree with both of you...unfortunately there are some naive people who feel that the "honeymoon phase" lasts forever... one day they will realize that a perfect relationship doesnt exist.

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ReluctantRomeo
Originally posted by queenie01

unfortunately there are some naive people who feel that the "honeymoon phase" lasts forever... one day they will realize that a perfect relationship doesnt exist.

 

No kiddin' :(

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I really do feel that the grass isnt any greener...but hey who am I to say, i wasnt the one who ended my relationship.

 

I for one know that I am not happier without him in my life.

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That someone decides you don't suit her is nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. Some people dislike chocolate ice cream. The ice cream isn't to blame - it's just that some people don't enjoy it.

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ReluctantRomeo
Originally posted by Outcast

Some people dislike chocolate ice cream. The ice cream isn't to blame - it's just that some people don't enjoy it.

 

To continue the metaphor though, some people like chocolate ice cream, but hanker after a better flavour which they fondly imagine exists out there somewhere. "Chocolate+".

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Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo

To continue the metaphor though, some people like chocolate ice cream, but hanker after a better flavour which they fondly imagine exists out there somewhere. "Chocolate+".

 

Yep - and the more chocolate you give them, the more they develop a sense of chocolate-entitlement. Then sooner or later, they meet a similar fate to Augustus Gloop from Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory (who fell into a lake of chocolate when he tried to drink from it).

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And sometimes people like vanilla ice cream with chocolate syrup on top.

 

Sometimes they like Rocky Road Ice Cream ( marshmallow cream and chocolate bits )

 

And most importantly they adore chocolate chip mint ice cream

 

So it just goes to show everything likes something ......even the low fat frozen yogurt types .....everyone has their own special flavor..

 

And how many times have you felt like changing lce Cream flavors ?

 

( I have ) :)

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ReluctantRomeo
Originally posted by lindya

Then sooner or later, they meet a similar fate to Augustus Gloop

 

:laugh:

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MWC_LifeBeginsAt40
Originally posted by eddpad

 

After the whole "honeymoon phase", I thought love turned into being supportive, undertsanding and giving your partner companionship.

 

If she's only 19 now, she's way too young even just for the honeymoon phase. She is still in the "teenager" phase.

 

I don't think it went "bad" as you say. Maybe it was all good, and she just wanted better and to keep having fun and enjoy being a kid!

 

This last phase you talk about sounds like something you look forward to in retirement!

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