So used to being torn down

[KissySmith]

Before I met my husband, I was with a man who hardly shown me love. He was cruel, abusive, and lazy.

 

Now, my husband shows me all of the love in the world, but I can't handle it. I am not used to it and it shows. I think it's pushing us apart. I can't take compliments, I feel like he lies to me, I just am such a huge problem.

 

How can I get over this and allow my husband to love me?

[Chilli]

My ex wasn't nasty but she just wouldn't bother mentioning nice stuff,

Where as gf now speaks her mind and that includes a lot of nice stuff too. And l know what you mean to a degree at least but l love how gf speaks her mind even though l'm not use to such nice stuff either.

 

But l'm thinking , first thing you gotta do is cuddle up with h and explain like you just did to us.

And you could say too that you do really appreciate it but could he just back it up a bit because of all that stuff.

Maybe you can meet in the middle. You start enjoying being treated nicely a bit more and he backs it up a little.

 

Good luck

[stillafool]

Therapy. Otherwise you will destroy this relationship as well as the next.