My ex who is my current best friend still loves me

[Mysteryconcerned]

My best friend who I dated a few years ago claims to still be in love with me despite trying to distance myself from him. It's a tricky situation where we've tried not talking to each other for him to get over me but because we are so close as friends we end up missing each other too much. Does anyone have any ideas how I can help him get over me ? He knows me too well for me to randomly try to be mean to him for him to dislike me. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you for your time and help.

[basil67]

You may see him as a best friend, but that's not how he sees you.

 

The only way you can help him get over you is to go No Contact. While you are in his life, seeing you will continue to feed his fires. Yes, it will hurt both of you. But leaving him in this state will ultimately hurt him more.

 

Can you be selfless enough to let him go?

[Shanex]

It's not impossible to stay friends with an ex unless there are still deep feelings from one of you. So I'd follow Basil advice if I were you. He won't understand why first but it's best for both of you in the long run.

[preraph]

You're going to lose him as a best friend eventually because that's his cover for trying to get you back. Once he meets another woman, he will probably rudely kick you to the door --- soooooo....I would introduce him to a steady stream of women until he finds one.

[DKT3]

If you were truly his best friend, you would end this relationship since you know it's creates pain for him wanting more than you're willing to offer. It's actually pretty selfish of you to keep him hanging on.

 

I suspect you want him around for just in case plan C or Do kind of thing. Also knowing he wants you has to be feeding your ego.

 

How do you help? Leave him alone, it's really that simple

[ZayKayWill]

You're going to lose him as a best friend eventually because that's his cover for trying to get you back. Once he meets another woman, he will probably rudely kick you to the door --- soooooo....I would introduce him to a steady stream of women until he finds one.

 

Not always true.