Help!! I'm so confused... to old for this...too young for that!

[flybeotch7]

Hello everyone!

 

I dont have a real big problem but just need some feed back from people my own age or people who were dealing with the same situation at my age. I am 23 years old and have been dating my boyfriend (who's 25) for a little over three years. I am currently a student while he graduated 2 years ago. He has a wonderful job and I am very proud of him. The only problem is that I feel like I am in a very strange age in my life. I seem too old to do somethings, yet to young to do others. My father keeps asking me how my relationships going because I think he wants to sell the house (meaning no room for me). He's not being pushy at all, but it makes me think about my future. My byfriend also has this "age crisis". When I ask to go out dancing, he says he's too old for that, but when I ask him about the possibilty of buying a house (which he can def. do), he says hes too young. Then there comes the big issue of engagement. As I said earlier, I know I'm young...but is 23 an appropriate age to start hoping that the question will come? I'm hope your thinking yes, because recently I've been thinking alot about it. I don't know if 3 years is too short to expect this or how guys think. All I know is that we've been talking about it for about a year, but nothings come out of it and the topic was kind of dropped. I don't want to sound to pushy so i would really appreciate some help!

 

Thank you!

 

*Confused*

[Marshbear]

I really don't think there is a time limit on when to take that step to commitment. It depends upon the maturity of the parties involved. You are 23 and you sound more mature than your 25 year old b/f. Not talking about it is just a delay tactic because it is easier to stall than deal. Are you thinking marriage or just long term commitment?

 

I think you are going to have to sit your b/f down and have the future talk. It will ease your mind. You want to know where he stands and the only way to know is ask. You are not to young to buy a house. It is just a big step and you want to be sure you both are on the same page. You will not sound pushy, just a mature adult with your future in mind.