foreverdancer Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 so i've been seeing this guy for less than 3 weeks and he's celebrating his birthday this week. it's going pretty well (frequent dates, messages, calls) and for my graduation he gave me an old book of his to read with a note inside (not sure if i can keep it or i should still return it though). he invited me to his birthday with about 30-40 people. he says instead of bringing him gifts we should bring donations for the children in this certain community. but i think it'd still be nice to give him something aside from that. i'm an unemployed recent college graduate and he's already established plus he comes from a wealthy family. so it makes things more difficult because he can basically buy almost anything he wants. what do you suggest?? 1
Jj66 Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 A card. Nothing too mushy. Maybe blank on the inside with a personally written note wishing him happy birthday and saying how you glad you met and are looking forward to getting to know him better. I had been with my gf for less than four weeks when she had her birthday. I gave her a blank birthday card just saying "I'm glad we met" and a small signed mermaid print I thought would match her decor. I was out for less than 20 bucks and made a very favorable impression. Her next birthday is coming up in a few weeks. I won't get away as cheaply or easily this time, I suspect. 2
Redhead14 Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 so i've been seeing this guy for less than 3 weeks and he's celebrating his birthday this week. it's going pretty well (frequent dates, messages, calls) and for my graduation he gave me an old book of his to read with a note inside (not sure if i can keep it or i should still return it though). he invited me to his birthday with about 30-40 people. he says instead of bringing him gifts we should bring donations for the children in this certain community. but i think it'd still be nice to give him something aside from that. i'm an unemployed recent college graduate and he's already established plus he comes from a wealthy family. so it makes things more difficult because he can basically buy almost anything he wants. what do you suggest?? I suggest doing what he's asked . . . instead of gifts make a donation for the children. Besides that, at 3 weeks of dating, gifts aren't really appropriate anyway. 1
central Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 At this stage, a card should suffice. Or maybe make him dinner if that's something you like to do. Memories and bonding are important if the relationship is going to last - something you DO together is better than something you give. 1
rester Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 I suggest something small/low-cost and consumable. Something like a pair of movie/museum/sporting event tickets you can use together, a bottle of wine, a box of chocolates, something homemade (cookies/cupcakes), or even some scratch-off lottery tickets if you have them where you live. Something he can eat or use just to show you're thinking about him. Nothing too extravagant. Added points for tailoring the gift to a personal interest of his. 1
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