Quality People in Friendship/Romance

[Mysterio]

You would think that most of us currently have at least 5 to 10 friends. That we should be able to find a love match, since they are pooled from the same social circles right.

 

Someone on this board said that there are basically more Quality people in Friendship than there are the Dating/Love world.

 

My question is how can this be?

[basil67]

I think that friends don't ask as much of us as a partner does. So, our friends are less likely to annoy us. Therefore we judge them less harshly.

[The Introvert]

I think friends are comfortable being themselves and there is no pressure to impress anyone in a friendship...I think friendships are natural therefore it provides an opportunity for people to be the best they can be naturally. The relationship scene is now a bit over-rated and people, even the quality ones, act foolishly out of a plethora of reasons including lust, materialism, anxiety, mistrust etc.........I however think that high quality people are found in relationships, those relationships that have stood the enormous tests that have hit the dating scene in this age, those partners who remind us of the relationships of th 70s, those, those partners who make things work against all odds are the Quality People who can not be compared to friends..... These are however fewer than friends. Point is, there are quality people in romance and they are of more quality than friends because these are people who operate from a scenario that is tricky unlike a friendship scenario.

Edited March 28, 2017 by The Introvert

[JuneJulySeptember]

I don't think it's the case.

 

I think you're drawing from the same pool.

 

My friends blow me off, are undependable, and say shallow stuff.

 

With friends, you have more tolerance because you don't see them as much. I couldn't date the women I'm friends with.

[CaliforniaGirl]

I think that friends don't ask as much of us as a partner does. So, our friends are less likely to annoy us. Therefore we judge them less harshly.

 

Also, when a person isn't drooling down my front, posturing, and doing everything in his power to get in there, that element is removed and his relaxed self will often allow his great inner qualities to shine through.

[Mysterio]

Here is how I am with a woman, with me being the man. I call and make an effort to get to know her. I am a gentleman. There is no calling her everyday on the hour.

 

I try to find interesting conversations and laughs. I am not a natural comedian trying to crack jokes. I am not Mr. Serious with lets talk about heavy world events as well.

 

A hand shake or a light hug is met with me. I try to project warmth and I always dress up. Jeans. Nice shoes, usually a blazer and a collard shirt. I am very well mannored. The one thing I find with myself is that I don't swear around women. So unless thats a bad thing.

 

As I keep saying on here. I am one of those type that am going to have to wait for love and let it come to me. Chasing after love has never worked for me.

[CptInsano]

There is a gf who broke up with me in 2015 after we just couldn't get together. It was an amicable break-up, largely caused by family and work-related issues, and we remained in contact, talking about once a month.

 

Yesterday was one of those days, and she mentioned a new friend "Becky". She described "Becky" to me, and that woman seemed oddly familiar. I asked a few more details and my ex confirmed it was the same person.

 

At that point I had to admit that I dated "Becky" shortly after my ex and I broke up. Looking back I can see how these two would get along, and that there are certain aspects of a personality that are great in a lover and a friend.

 

My ex thought it was hilarious and suggested we should all go out together. While I'm not so sure about that, I do think the pool of friends and lovers is not all that different.