Women Who Won't Take NO For An Answer

[alcarbone]

Is there a smooth way of turning a woman down?

 

This becomes especially difficult in a social circle situation where the girl is making her move in front of a group of friends and it becomes difficult to say no or not comply.

[stillafool]

Just be blunt about it. If they are that bold deal with them the same way. That is apparently all they understand.

[smackie9]

Gosh my friend was like that, she was a groper.... guys would come asking me to get her to back off. She was usually was in disbelief or thought I was interested in the guy to be saying that. Dude set her straight....I agree you have to be pretty blunt.

[basil67]

What is she doing? Perhaps we can come up with situation specific advice?

[phineas]

And how unattractive is she?

how many pitchers of beer would it take?

[Jj66]

Send her my way

[stillafool]

Send her my way

 

This is why women take liberties with men because they think all men feel like the above.

[Jj66]

This is why women take liberties with men because they think all men feel like the above.

 

My point exactly.

 

God help you, if you reject a woman sexually.

[CaliforniaGirl]

This bothers me. No is no. I can't imagine what sort of lack of social skills it would take to have to more or less be peeled off somebody who is down to calling other girls in for help! Unacceptable. Just no.

 

She is being invasive and has lost her right to a gentle answer, so I say, be blunt.

[CaliforniaGirl]

My point exactly.

 

God help you, if you reject a woman sexually.

 

"God help you" why? If you don't want her then how is her being angry and no longer liking you going to impact you? You don't want her anyway. She (apparently?) storms off. Done.

[preraph]

For people who won't take no for an answer, those are people who will become a problem and maybe a stalker and will likely try to interfere in your love life as well as find excuses to remain in contact with you. The longer they are allowed to remain in contact with you, the more invested they become and the harder it is to get rid of them.

 

Once you know someone doesn't take "no" for an answer, it is time to take the gloves off and put in writing, "I want no further contact with you." And in case they break the law, you have something in writing saying you told them to go away. After that, block them every which way and instruct friends and family to please not share ANY information with her about you.

[Jj66]

"God help you" why? If you don't want her then how is her being angry and no longer liking you going to impact you? You don't want her anyway. She (apparently?) storms off. Done.

 

You assume the woman in question is not your wife or girlfriend.

Edited March 30, 2017 by Jj66

[CaliforniaGirl]

You assume the woman in question is not your wife or girlfriend.

 

Well, based on this thread I was assuming it is NOT the wife or girlfriend. Am I missing something?

[CptInsano]

If that woman is part of a social circle it becomes a tricky question. No, there is no easy way to let her down, but you have to find a way that allows her to get out of the situation with her dignity intact. I've had it happen a few times at work, and it is not easy, and there is no standard answer IMHO. If the situation blows up she may turn on you and can complicate things even further. The story that a man rejected a woman sounds less believable, no matter what the truth is, so try not to make her angry.

[ashy555]

You have to be blunt!! If they don't take no for an answer, that is when I get really frustrated!!

Just say you are NOT interested and wish them the best! That is her problem if she is forcing it in front of the whole group.

[act00]

I agree, you have to be blunt. She certainly isn't accepting hints. If she touches you, remove her hands. If she goes in for the hug, separate yourself as quickly as possible, and as inconspicuously as possible, as in, don't shove her away, hug, then remove her hands from your body, and take a step or two back and keep smiling, and continue whatever conversation is happening. If she's around, try to keep a buffer around you, standing in a way that you cannot be easily reached. When she goes in for the hug, extend a hand, so a hug might be a half-hug, but you're maintaining some distance. Don't be alone in a room, ever.

 

If you've ever been at a family reunion where you actively avoid Aunt Betty who will not let up about her various aches and pains and bowel habits, you will behave this way always keep people around and actively find ways to avoid, or exit, like you need to use the restroom or refresh your drink, and try to maintain distance. Be polite.

[curiouslysearching]

This sounds like it cannot happen to a man but IT CAN. I have had it

happen twice and both times were creepy. One was a fan of a team

that I was on and the other was just someone I hardly knew that

worked out at the same facility. It is not always men doing this towards

women....and I agree that you have to be blunt/direct. Please use a

little tact if at all possible just on the odd chance that is innocent....

[coolheadal]

Is there a smooth way of turning a woman down?

 

This becomes especially difficult in a social circle situation where the girl is making her move in front of a group of friends and it becomes difficult to say no or not comply.

 

That's the other woman (a.k.a the liar) I have she's madly in love with me. I told her "NO" she won't let me go. I've tried to stoop below the belt-line she won't go.. My other woman knows about this so she won't even go near this one. I have to you can block her 360 and she'll come around to you still. Does she know where you live? You can change the locks, you can change you cell number you can look the other way, but if she still gets into your face you might have to get the police involve.

[kendahke]

You could try farting when you say "no"... that should turn her off pretty well...

[Leigh 87]

You could try farting when you say "no"... that should turn her off pretty well...

 

Nah better yet tell her you may have followed through and that you will BRB after you clean yourself up in the restroom.

[OatsAndHall]

Yup, being blunt is the key here. A female co-worker was hammered and tried to run her hands through my hair in front of her husband at the staff holiday party this year. I stepped away and said "boundaries, boundaries, boundaries, Mrs. _____"

 

Funny how her husband still shot me a glare as I walked away.

[SevenCity]

My point exactly.

 

God help you, if you reject a woman sexually.

 

This is so true. Women are not wired to be rejected sexually.

 

I've done it on several occasions from gfs to women I've met. One actually grabbed my crotch and said she was up for anal.

 

When I've turned them down the emotions range from bewilderment, to disdane, to flat out anger.

[coolheadal]

Open the door and say don't look back and don't let the door hit your fanny!

[NTV]

I don't have much to say that would give you an answer. But yeah it sucks.

 

Especially if you're married and it's a different girl that keeps hitting on you. Tell the wife and she thinks you're trying to make her jealous. If I would have known how much that was going to happen when I was single I would have worn a fake wedding band for a while lol.

[preraph]

If that woman is part of a social circle it becomes a tricky question. No, there is no easy way to let her down, but you have to find a way that allows her to get out of the situation with her dignity intact. I've had it happen a few times at work, and it is not easy, and there is no standard answer IMHO. If the situation blows up she may turn on you and can complicate things even further. The story that a man rejected a woman sounds less believable, no matter what the truth is, so try not to make her angry.

 

If the person is a part of your social circle, you let the social circle in on what's going on and let the pack correct her. This is a good way to get kicked out of the herd because in a circle like that, it's easy enough to verify that it's true and other people may already have been through it. No reason to keep it a secret.

 

In my old circle, a guy's wife began going around to his friends and hitting on them what seemed like out of the blue, but I guess trouble had been brewing with her being jealous of his female friends for awhile (I was one). The husband didn't tell me what was going on even though we were good friends, but did tell me they were separating. But over a couple months, two of the guys she hit on told me about it (I was kind of the female center of the group and people came to me with things sometimes) and then it was 30 years before the third one told me because it was the bigger deal. He was the husband's best friend and band mate. But trust me, although the guys mostly kept quiet about it to other women, they were making sure someone connected knew what was going on. And I think all three of those guys kept their hands off her because her husband was very well respected and a nice guy. Saw her at a gig or two before the divorce was final, but once the divorce was done, never saw her again. She was not encouraged to remain part of the crowd, which she complained loudly about decades later once the internet was up and running.

 

I remember one instance when this guy who was the ex-drummer of a local band came back in town who had a bad reputation for being trouble. I lived across the street from the band house and he stopped me on the street right away and then found out where I lived with my roommate. He had come by once and was totally just hitting on both of us or either. I was in love with someone and my roommate was with someone. He wasn't stalkerish but he also wasn't easily discouraged. So next time he came over, 3 guys from across the street just came over and asked him what he was doing there and took him away, like the police.

 

So sometimes you can let the friend circle just handle it if they're tight enough.

Edited March 31, 2017 by preraph