erik1986 Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 My wife and I went to the beach yesterday. Liza, it's her name, was sunbathing topless for first time. Before she took off her bikini top, Liza asked me if I have problem with this. I said "you can do it if you want". Anyway, after a few time, I didn't feel comfortable. I felt that other men looked at her breast. So I told her to wear the bikini top and she didn't like it. She told me that I am very jealous for no reason and that I shouldn't care for any other people because she is near to me. How will you feel if our woman did this? Am I wrong or not? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 people check out people all the time on the beach so yes I think you're wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 Being topless is less common than it once was, at least outside of nude beaches. I take it she has beautiful tits and men were being curious. When I say less common, it's all relative, some still do, I was on the beach recently and saw a young 20s girl topless, at first I couldn't help myself and stared a bit, but she caught me and I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable, so I had to ignore her afterwards. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 i understand you dont like it and i dont think its a big ask to keep the peace for your gf to put her top back on mayeb even she coudl ook at it as she is saving very sensitive skin around her nipple area from skin cancers......i am sensitive about this topic.....i have a growing skin cancer on face..my right cheek.....im scared to go get it checked out because i dont want them to hack into my face....my face ..has had enough abuse for a few lifetimes........i have turned my cheek alot.....anyway i coudl never imagine getting my nipple area hacked at i would rather they put me under and take the whole thing off..........talk to her about erring on the side of caution in this regard and cover up..... when i was young my father used to drag us all over gods green earth to fidn beaches that were isolated and people free...we woudl climb down cliffs so he coudl take his shirt off he had a hairy back.....my mum would go topless..she had small boobies........my mum has breast problems now.....who knows if this toplessness didnt contribute to that.....i have skinny dipped at night...but...i dont go topless on beaches even when i am fit because my boobs are massive....and i am fearful of skin cancer...i am casper like with freckles..... this si a concern you should express with your gf......care about her beautiful breasts..... instead of jealousy ......i think as far as this goes nudity in society has desensiitized beach goers to see boobs on display as normal.......and hardly notice them ..unless of course they e size or fs.....water melons like mine.....i always wear a shirt swimming....if i got fit i would wear a half wet suit..because i love the support and safety and non wedgie status...due to my childhood which was a childhood spent mostyl at the beach withotu a hat and without reapplied sunscreen ....blisters etc from sunburn i am going to find myself being hacked at regularly for skin cancers...... if your gf tans often ...make sure she reapplies her sunscreen and covers sensitive areas like her face...and her boobs.....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author erik1986 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Share Posted April 4, 2017 Her reason is for tanlines. Maybe I am wrong but I don't understand why is so important this reason to take off the top in front of a lot of people. I don't want to continue the discussion with her but I am jealous when other men looked her. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 I have no problem with it. In fact, if dudes are checking out my lady then that's just the ultimate compliment to me. Right? Eat your heart out fellas. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 She could be into exhibitionism. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 It wouldn't bother me at all. She's with me - other guys may look, but they can't touch! Are you concerned that one will come over and she'll run off with him? That's not realistic, so what's the real worry? Link to post Share on other sites
Author erik1986 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Share Posted April 4, 2017 mikeylo... I consider that she is not this kind of woman. We are couple for 11 years and it was the first time who did it. Before this, I was really sure that she was shy to sunbathe topless. The tan Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 I have no problem with it. In fact, if dudes are checking out my lady then that's just the ultimate compliment to me. Right? Eat your heart out fellas. so did my ex ..more so because..in fact his level of attraction for me grew when he knew others wanted me he would say yeah she is mine buddy and be really satisifed when guys would rubberneck me in cars to catch another look or a back view at traffic lights when i crossed the road with him.....and i was fully covered....................or stop or turn their heads.........which made me pretty sad.....that his level of attraction would differ on anothers opinion.......good or bad.... i actually dont feel its a compliment to a man ....for a guy to check out his lady .....when that guy is with her...to me...it shows a lack of respect and almost passive aggressive f you i dont care you're there.... im gonna check her out....that s what i felt from those guys.....and my ex was huge by the way ex bouncer....and he also liked to intimidate the men who did check me out...........and in my opinion it is a mild form of disrespect....on both sides.......and that made me sad too.....he thought i twas cool and hot...i thought it was disrespectful and wrong and a slight on who i was to him.....for his opinion to vary on some random guy he doesnt know and who didnt know me at all..... his attraction grew....or waned...........deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author erik1986 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Share Posted April 4, 2017 central... No worries this but I had seen a few people as they saw her and felt jealousy. This was continuoysly from specific persons. Anyway, If it was someone in my position, maybe you understand how I felt this time... Link to post Share on other sites
Author erik1986 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Share Posted April 4, 2017 todreaminblue.... you are convincing. But if I tell her, maybe she will say that it was for a few time for tanlines. So important this??? I really don't understand her mind but maybe I have to respect. I don't know... Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 I will say only this: The only women I've known who liked to go topless at beaches or lakes or rivers around strangers were those who were very well endowed and wanted to show off. For this reason, I don't think it's all about tan lines which you can even out at home in the privacy of your balcony or back yard. Link to post Share on other sites
Author erik1986 Posted April 5, 2017 Author Share Posted April 5, 2017 So you tell me that she did it for this reason? I told her that I don't like it and she answered: "Sorry but it's not my problem". I am nervous and I feel that she doesn't respect me!!! Link to post Share on other sites
curiouslysearching Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 I have no problem with it. In fact, if dudes are checking out my lady then that's just the ultimate compliment to me. Right? Eat your heart out fellas. Mrin does have a good point. She is your wife and not theirs....I am a beach guy and spend a great deal of time there but I never see anyone topless these are public beaches of course. She does have a valid point on the tan lines as well Link to post Share on other sites
Larryville Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 So you think that dudes check out your gf MORE just because she takes her top off? Seriously? that's just the ultimate compliment to me. Right? Eat your heart out fellas. Yup Guys don’t give a damn about topless or not they will eye (F) whenever they can. Are you going to stop her from wearing a pair of nice form fitting jeans? Yoga paints? The notorious "little black dress?" Then cover her up or date a less hot gf. Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 Am I wrong or not? It's irrelevant if you are wrong or not. In a relationship it's only important what you can negotiate. There is no referee you can appeal to. If your wife considers it her decision you simply have to get over it, or try again to convince her, but you will have to come up with better reasons than you did in the past. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 It's a delicate situation. She obviously wanted to be topless. You initially said OK then got jealous & changed your mind. When she didn't respect your feelings & put her bikini top back on that is where the problem developed. In a calmer situation you need to talk to her. Be vulnerable & tell her you were jealous & then that you were hurt when she didn't seem to care. Ask her what she was thinking & feeling. Try to come to a compromise, like she can be topless at home & wear a smaller bikini in public but you'd prefer some things to just be between you. Perhaps she was trying to make you jealous or spice up your love life. Do hear her out & keep talking about this so you can better understand the other's perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 Go to a more secluded beach. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author erik1986 Posted April 5, 2017 Author Share Posted April 5, 2017 We are now in mini holidays. Normally I should feel happy but I become nervous with this behavior. I am sorry if you disturb you with my bull**** but I am really sad. Today, she has ignored me more. She took off the bikini top again in front of me, I told her "please I don't like, do it for me". Then she smiled and turned on the other. I got angry and I left alone from the beach to the hotel!!! When she came back, the only thing she said that I must apologise to her and also that I destroy our holidays!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 Tell her you feel like she's being exhibitionistic. Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 I don't think I'd care too much, especially if our marriage/relationship was rock solid. Let's be real here. It doesn't matter if she has a ring on or not. Guys are gonna check her out. Guys will hit on her. Guys will approach her, even if you're there. Part of getting married is finding that woman (or guy, however you swing) and vetting them to be able to turn guys down that hit on them like that. It's going to happen regardless. You can only hope to find a spouse who won't entertain the affection. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 [...] Part of getting married is finding that woman (or guy, however you swing) and vetting them to be able to turn guys down that hit on them like that. It's going to happen regardless. You can only hope to find a spouse who won't entertain the affection. Part of being married is also knowing which battles to pick and what to leave alone. This one is completely unnecessary IMHO, because at the end of the day nothing happened, except that she didn't follow the OP's wishes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 I will say only this: The only women I've known who liked to go topless at beaches or lakes or rivers around strangers were those who were very well endowed and wanted to show off. For this reason, I don't think it's all about tan lines which you can even out at home in the privacy of your balcony or back yard. Back in the 80's and 90's when being topless was commonplace here, I did my fair share. I wasn't well endowed back then. In fact, when I lay on my back, I'd be as flat as a tack. There truly wasn't much to show off. For me, the enjoyment was sensory. The sun and breeze on my skin. The sound of the surf and seagulls. Bliss. Link to post Share on other sites
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