mea_M Posted April 6, 2017 Share Posted April 6, 2017 I know i should be old and wise enough to know this but when sex and passion leave a marriage is that a really bad sign? Mea Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 6, 2017 Share Posted April 6, 2017 I know i should be old and wise enough to know this but when sex and passion leave a marriage is that a really bad sign? Mea�� I'm trying to flip the script here and think about any circumstances - any at all - where it is a good sign. I'm stumped ... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted April 6, 2017 Share Posted April 6, 2017 Mea! How the heck are you? And the answer is likely yes, but it may well be reversible. What's going on? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted April 6, 2017 Share Posted April 6, 2017 Can't be a good sign right? And I agree with GT, things can come back - want to elaborate? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mea_M Posted April 6, 2017 Author Share Posted April 6, 2017 Mea! How the heck are you? And the answer is likely yes, but it may well be reversible. What's going on? Hey GT.. Im ok but so busy with too many kids.. Just feeling like the sex and passion is like null and void. Never went through this before. Well i mean i did but last H was abusive so the abuse killed it. Current H loving not abusive at all. Not sure? Link to post Share on other sites
Simple Logic Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 I know i should be old and wise enough to know this but when sex and passion leave a marriage is that a really bad sign? Mea�� It really good if you don't like sex and passion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 . Just feeling like the sex and passion is like null and void. On your end or his ? in other words is he trying and you turning him down or vise versa Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 Sex and Passion can leave for a variety of reasons. Does it mean the rest of the marriage is bad ? - Not always Does it mean the person who lacks interest in sex has issues with YOU? - Not always. Does a lack of sex diminish the marriage in some way? - Most Always. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Telemachus Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 Every couple has peaks and valleys when it comes to sex and passion, and the former is easier to revive than the latter. People are generally either spontaneuously aroused or receptively aroused. If you're a person who is spontaneously aroused, and only about 20 percent of women are, then initiate. If you're receptively aroused, then tell him to surprise you and take you from time to time. Give him a list of things you'd like him to do to get things started, items on the list to be used during one encounter at a time. About 90 percent of men are spontaneously aroused, but if he's in that 10 percent that aren't and you're in the 80 percent of women who aren't, you're stuck. One of you is going to have to step-up. One of you is going to have to buy sexy new underwear, and adult toy, pick out some porn, or arrange for a babysitter and at least several hours in a hotel. Getting back to those peaks and valleys, Nietszche believed that what matters most in a relationship is to be able to share good conversation all the way into old age, because all else is transitory. I believe that's true. If the two of you simply can't find anything to say to each other, then you're going to have to read a book, or go to a movie, or take up your own independent hobbies, in order to have something that interests you to talk about. Let the passion and sex follow from good conversation, and let good conversation be your joy together during those times when the passion isn't red hot. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 Anyone on any new medication? Sometimes that does it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mea_M Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 On your end or his ? in other words is he trying and you turning him down or vise versa Two way street.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mea_M Posted April 12, 2017 Author Share Posted April 12, 2017 Every couple has peaks and valleys when it comes to sex and passion, and the former is easier to revive than the latter. People are generally either spontaneuously aroused or receptively aroused. If you're a person who is spontaneously aroused, and only about 20 percent of women are, then initiate. If you're receptively aroused, then tell him to surprise you and take you from time to time. Give him a list of things you'd like him to do to get things started, items on the list to be used during one encounter at a time. About 90 percent of men are spontaneously aroused, but if he's in that 10 percent that aren't and you're in the 80 percent of women who aren't, you're stuck. One of you is going to have to step-up. One of you is going to have to buy sexy new underwear, and adult toy, pick out some porn, or arrange for a babysitter and at least several hours in a hotel. Getting back to those peaks and valleys, Nietszche believed that what matters most in a relationship is to be able to share good conversation all the way into old age, because all else is transitory. I believe that's true. If the two of you simply can't find anything to say to each other, then you're going to have to read a book, or go to a movie, or take up your own independent hobbies, in order to have something that interests you to talk about. Let the passion and sex follow from good conversation, and let good conversation be your joy together during those times when the passion isn't red hot. This is good. I guess the communication is not there as it should be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Re-romance each other. Roleplay meeting her in a bar for the first time. Flirt, heavily, with each other. Remember what it was that attracted you to each other in the first place. If sex and passion leaves a marriage, invite it back in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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