Adding More Fun To Our Routine... Any Ideas?

[snowbunny089]

HI,

 

My partner and (27F & 31M) I live a pretty fun and eventful life, always trying to go out on adventures, trying new things and doing our best to spice things up.

On weekends we do things such as go to the movies, go to the park with our dogs, visit museums and or local festivals in the area, those sort of things. So we clearly try our best to stay active and keep things exciting. We also have a very active sex life, and are pretty open in communication.

 

But during the week we seem to fall into a slump of what we call "the routine".

This consists of coming home from work, eating, talking, working out, and watching a show and/or movie followed by sex and bed.

We've repeatedly talked about spicing our weekdays up, but we really don't know how else to shake things up anymore than we already have. I don't want to fall into this routine, and want to make each night exciting and fun for both of us. More so for him, as I want him to be excited to come home and see what awaits him.

I've thought of doing a sexy scavenger hunt, or just waiting for him on the couch in lingerie, but those are sort of one-time things that can't be repeated every day.

Any ideas on how to help? We are extremely open-minded and willing to try new things.

 

Thank you in advance, you're all awesome

[Telemachus]

I'm not selling anything. Go to mojoupgrade.com It's free. It's very good.

 

It's an interactive sex questionnaire for couples. One of you first answers questions, then the other does, then it gives you results about shared fantasies or compatible fantasies that you both have and may never have discussed.

 

For example, one of you may have a secret kink, and the other isn't turned on by it, but open to it. This is a way of getting it out in the open. You may both be into or curious about something you've never done or talked about together.

 

If nothing else, you'll get a good list to work from, and you'll definitely learn something about each other's tastes. If there's something that one of you would never be open to doing, it won't show up in your combined results. Therefore, it's totally safe.

 

Aside from sex, I could give you lots of ideas, but you seem mostly interested in sex.

[snowbunny089]

Thanks Telemachus, I'll definitely check it out!

I'm interested in things aside from sex as well, and and all ideas are definitely welcome

[Cephalopod]

Nude Twister.

[NTV]

Nude Twister.

 

Was totally thinking that. And roadhead. And if there's a way to rent a bus to do both at the same time....hnnn... bucket list!

 

But seriously if every day is different then that will dull what makes the weekends exciting. Maybe slow dull days are needed.

[GunslingerRoland]

Day in and day out, after work can be busy, by the time you make meals, clean the house, taking care of pets etc. it's already almost bed time and it isn't always the worst to do "lazy" things like watch a show together. If you want to change it up, cards/board games is a little more interactive but doesn't take a lot of energy.

 

But on days where you don't have a lot of responsibilities what stops you from doing the same types of things you do on weekends? Go check out a gig at a pub, go for coffee, go to a museum...

 

Also maybe it's just the way the post reads, but it sounds like it's you and him, together alone all of the time. Do you guys have couples friends? Family? Individual friends you can do things with?

[Cephalopod]

Give him a lap dance one night.

[d0nnivain]

Life happens. It's hard to be "on" all day every day. Your expectations may be unreasonable. There are only so many hours in a day.

 

 

Perhaps have a date night during the week.

 

 

Do you like to cook? Have one person pick a style of cuisine & have the other person make or buy dinner from that region.

 

 

Eat dinner by candlelight on the good china (even if it's take out)

 

 

Play some board games together.

 

 

Take up a sport / hobby like go play tennis or mini golf after dinner.

 

 

Go for a walk & hold hands.

 

 

Take a relaxing candlelit bubble bath together with or without adult beverages.

[Gemma1]

No offense but those weekend things seem pretty standard...maybe try different things on some of the weekends so that the weekdays you feel entitled to just relaxing? Also, I don't know how late you work, but some of the weekend stuff you do can be relegated to weekdays, so that you can do different things on the weekends.

 

Do you guys have any hobbies? What time do you go to bed? Friends? Do you live in a city? Have a big yard? We need more info about you to give good suggestions so I'll just tell you what we do. On weekdays (and weekends) we usually invite friends over to play games in the backyard (corn hole, polish horseshoes, Kubbing, or this video game Knight Squad that's insanely fun even if you hate video games, like me). That usually evolves into a backyard fire and roasting marshmallows. If your friends aren't into that kind of thing, I HIGHLY recommend Knight Squad for just you and your partner as a nightly addition to the "before bed" routine. Super fun. Best played high, but I dunno if that's in your repertoire or not ;-) I don't know if you've ever been to a trampoline park but if you can get a group together my H likes trampoline dodgeball. Not my thing but I take funny photos. There's also card games. Oh and escape rooms are getting super popular and there are some really good ones popping up in almost every city. They last an hour so can be played on a weeknight easily.

 

Uhhh...ill have to think of some more. But you get the idea. Games are good.

[basil67]

I understand wanting to keep life interesting, but I'm detecting more than a hint of overkill here. Frankly, it sounds exhausting.

 

Is there a reason why a moderate dose of Netflix and chill together of an evening isn't an attractive?

[RecentChange]

Like some others have mentioned, I don’t think this is a totally reasonable goal.

 

Avoiding bordem is one thing – but a bit of routine and predictability foster security and comfort as well.

 

That said my husband and I do not have children, which gives us a lot of leeway and freedom. We go on mini trips often, little road trips off to concerts or national parks. Maybe we will fly out to Portland, Vancouver or Las Vegas for a weekend.

 

As far as the week days go, despite our long working days (I am usually working / commuting 12-13 hours a day) we make plenty of time for date nights. Plus we both have our own hobbies (I ride horses, he rides bikes / motorcycles). Our last week looked like this:

 

Friday – After work took the train met him the east bay, went to a few breweries, caught the sunset over the SF bay, went to dinner, and got home around 2 am.

 

Saturday – he had a golfing event, I went and rode my horse. Met up after, went to dinner, went to a small concert in town.

 

Sunday – more horse riding for me, bike riding for him, yard house work together. Had a very nice dinner at home, grilled steaks and enjoyed dinner in the back yard under a big moon.

 

Monday – SF Giants home opener, he went to the game with friends, I met up the whole gang after work. We bar hopped a little and then went to a Korean place for dinner.

 

Tuesday / Wednesday – these will be “routine” days. After work I’ll go ride, he’ll do his thing and take the dogs out etc. I’ll cook us both dinner in the evening. We often listen to music / read rather than watch TV after eating.

 

Thursday – comedy show in town, we will grab a bite before hand and go watch.

 

Friday – meeting with a group of friend’s after work for drinks and dinner.

 

Some weeks have more “routine” days than others, but generally we go out at least once on the weekend, and at least once during the week days. We get out of town about once a month.

 

We usually have sex 3-4 days a week – just about always after dressing up and hitting the town, but sometimes after a cozy night in as well.