BeautifuLie Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Sigh... Hi everyone... This is literally my first week here. I read the NC thread. Completely insightful. Problemis, we have a small child (who he doesnt support and spends almost no time with) . We have been together for 7 years. During which time he has had multiple other women. Each time i start to prepare mentally to cut him off, its like he senses it and starts burrowing his way back in. I also am firmly of the view that he has NPD. Im a smart woman, attractive, get along very well with others, im very empathetic, im independent of him financially. Essentially, he brings not much of anything to the table. I think im just stuck on him because he is all i have known these many years. Latest drama is he flew halfway across the world to be with some woman he met when she visited our country. He was spending a lot of time with her which i didnt know about. Until she became suspicious of him and got into his phone and started contacting me. So we talked, and talked. She told me alotof things thay I had only suspected, and i gave her a lot of info as well. He has admitted to nothing despite me presenting proof, and her copying and pasting msges between them up to present time... msg of him being upset that me and her have basically tag teamed him. She says she is completely done. So she says. I don't believe her, because after all she is in love. Its been months of sheer drama. He has been trying to cling to both of us....(although he hasnt even apologised, not that that fixes anything) Issue is we have a child. I would wish for nothing more than to be able to cuy him off cold turkey. But how do i do that with child in picture? Seems like NC never really addresses this is any comprehensive way. Ive had so many sleepless nights. So much emotional pain. Especially because he has been so cold and arrogant about the whole situation. Ive stayed so long that its like i have no idea how to get out. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 You don't get the luxury of complete NC when you share a child. Instead use a modified version where you only speak about what's in your child's best interests. At the very least you need to break up with this cheater. Hold your ground. Be resolute. Get a lawyer involved to settle any child support or custody issues. Link to post Share on other sites
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