aus_half Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 Great, I`ve been depressed for over 4 years now and now my friends decide to turn on me. I feel really betrayed and worthless, they decided to completely boycott me from their little group on sports day today...I feel even worse because of the fact that I TOTALLY suck at everything (discus, running)......What is left for me now? I`m good at nothing and nobody gives a **** about me......I thought I could cling on somehow with my friends by my side but now, there`s no-one.......no-one to cheer for you on the side-lines or even respect you......Life is not getting better (why would it)....I`m qualified at nothing aswell and is boring as ****......Most guys my age (15) are having fun and have their little click......It`s too late... Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 Hi Aus, Sounds like things are pretty bad for you right now. That you might need to talk to someone, an adult, a therapist. Talk to someone who can help you through this bad part of your life right now. Sometimes people who are our own age, especially in our teens, can be ruthless. You've got to let that sh** go right now. Not worth getting into a tizzy over. Again, talk to someone that you know you can trust. A teacher if you need to. Just don't sit and do nothing about the way you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aus_half Posted July 29, 2005 Author Share Posted July 29, 2005 Hmmm...I won`t be able to consult anyone, I get intimidated by almost everyone Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 Hey Aus, I'm going to bed here in a minute, but seriously, there's got to be someone in your life that you trust. An aunt, a parent, a relative of some sort, a gf, a friend, one person. Youv'e just got to consider who there is in your life that you can confide in. You can do it: sometimes it's hard to figure out who that person is, but almost always there is SOMEONe there. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 Being 15 can be rotten. You are not, I repeat NOT, the only guy your age who feels this way. You just don't see the other ones because they're home feeling rotten, too. Your school must have a counsellor or nurse or somebody you can talk to. Don't be scared - no adult wants any teen to feel like that and whoever you tell will get help for you. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 You're the kid who is half-Japanese, half-Australian, right? I know you didn't mention this in your thread, but obviously your mixed background is something that has affected your self-esteem to a great deal. I can only vaguely imagine how it is to have parents of different races. Some people seem to enjoy their two heritages and embrace the cultural diversity they experience while others seem to feel as if they don't belong anywhere, that they are missing their roots. You need to stop believing that you're not worth anything and that nobody likes you, because you look different or that you're not good enough, it's simply not true. Both my parents are Asian and I grew up in a European country where there are a lot less Asians than in Australia, so that was weird. I've never really felt comfortable around people, because I thought I was different, I was ugly, the kids at school sometimes called me names (but it wasn't too bad, could have been worse), etc. I was quite unhappy about this. It took me a looong time to realize that being different is absolutely ok and that I do not have to look like a Western model to attract people. In fact, they like that I look exotic. I wasted time dwelling on my imperfections and my short-comings while I should have tried to enhance my strengths instead. The time would have been better spent on trying to look my best with what I have instead of comparing myself with other people all the time. Looking back I realize how many people were trying to include me in their group, but I was just too shy, I was to self-centered and actually had no clue what was going around me, I was too busy with my own problems that I only had, because I was so busy with them. Life is not that bad and sometimes people just have a bad day. If you understand this, life will be easier. Don't take it too much to heart when you get rejected once in a while. Should your so-called friends belong to the kind of people who like to have exclusive little circle of friends, then I'd recommend you to look for other friends. Some people are highly immature and waste your precious time with games, sometimes you're their friend and sometimes you're not, depending on your current popularity status - *yawn*... I really believe that everybody can be good in something, you just need to find out what it is. And if you like something and are not good at it yet, you just have to try harder. Practice alone if you don't want other people to watch you. If you really want it, you can achieve it. You may never become a professional runner or throw the discus far enough for a gold medal, but you can still reach a good level of proficiency in your chosen field, enough at least to keep up with your friends. Start doing things that you really enjoy and you will meet people who have the same interests as you. You will feel attracted to you, because you share the same interests. Sometimes the people we want to be friends with are not the right ones for us, because in fact we have nothing in common with them, no similar interests, hobbies, values, etc. You can not connect with them, because there is nothing to connect. Fear of being alone is usually not good reason enough to stay friends with people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aus_half Posted July 31, 2005 Author Share Posted July 31, 2005 Yeah, agree with you on the hobby & interests part (I did Karate but I haven't gone for months)...but I'll always feel inferior along side the pure bloods... Link to post Share on other sites
thesameguest Posted July 31, 2005 Share Posted July 31, 2005 Originally posted by aus_half Yeah, agree with you on the hobby & interests part (I did Karate but I haven't gone for months)...but I'll always feel inferior along side the pure bloods... "pure bloods"?? I assume you don't feel inferior in regards to pure Japanese people but white Australians? I don't really think that inferior complexes derive that much from outer circumstances but from within. Now you blame it on your race, but if you were white you would still feel inferior. And what is so great about being a white Australian? Even if you were part of an ancient family and could trace your ancestors back a couple of hundred years you would probably find a bunch of prisoners - kewl... All the kids that you fear are just that - kids, just like you. Sometimes they have problems at home, sometimes they have heartaches, sometimes they are afraid of getting bad grades. Just like you. If you stoped alienating yourself from your classmates by assuming that you're not worthy enough to be their friends you would see that they are also only humans with a lot of weaknesses, including fear of rejection. I'm sure they mind your different looks a lot less than you do. Link to post Share on other sites
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