jackson11 Posted April 11, 2017 Share Posted April 11, 2017 Firstly I'd like to describe my situation Were together for 6 months before LDR Girlfriend moved for university for 2 years Been 2 months since she left By nature my girlfriend is: Spontaneuous Pretty bad with communication Terrible timing skills Me: On to it all the time with communication A bit needy Think very far into the future We decided that we were a perfect match and could easily see ourselves marrying each other. Not just based on the chemistry, but also family wise and goal wise. Within the space of those 2 long months, we came to the discovery that the communication was going to be very difficult. We both had different ideals about what was reasonable, both on separate sides of the spectrum. After a couple arguments, we decided that we would give the open relationship a go, it was really positive for about a week before i decided that I just couldn't bring myself to letting my girlfriend **** other guys. As a result, we broke up but decided to keep contact, It was super positive. After I left the weekend we broke up, she started calling me lots and confessed that she has a problem with, 'the grass is greener on the other side', and that she has a problem with wanting what she cant have. Since then, the communication has pretty much been decided upon by her as to when we call and talk and stuff. Its been basically the same sort of romantic talk we'd had before. I dont really have an issue with this as i know she is busier and is surrounded by people all the time. However, when I have tried initiating a call, it usually never ends in us talking. Neither of us have been involved with other people as of yet which I'm pretty happy about. She did mention making a tinder with her friend as a joke because she has all this freedom but nothing serious. We often remind each other about how much we love and care for each other and that at the end of the road, we want to end up with one another. Bottom line is, she is the girl of my dreams. Not just now, but I know that she is going to remain beautiful for her entire life and when we are together we click really well. This is why I don't want to give up because she is amazing. At the same time, she wants to have the freedom to do what she wants while she is away. I completely understand this but just struggle with accepting the facts that come with this. My question is, is this reality where we do whatever we want, not gaining emotional attachment to anyone but each other and having pretty average communication going to result in tears? Is it unrealistic for us to think that we could still end up with each other? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 It's fairly unrealistic to think you will end up together. At college she is discovering a whole new world. You are the boy back home. She will have happy memories of you. She doesn't dislike you. But you are her past, not her future. Sorry. Do not hang on to this pipe dream Link to post Share on other sites
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