Trauerweide Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 He left me 7 motnhs ago and directly jumped in a new relationship. He left me cause we had a long distance relationship and lot of fights the last half of a year... particulary the last argument was horrible.. I sayd a lot of terrible things to him and that was the changing point.. he slowly faded away in front of me and a month later betrayed and left me. Meanwhile, I moved in his city, I worked on myself, I finsihed my studies, found a job, made new friends and even trying to get to know guys. But nothing, really nothing helps. Im constantly thinking about my ex and his new gf. I miss him terrible and I feel unable to let go. During the past 4 weeks, my ex and I saw two times. The first time we saw after the BU he told me - he is just with the new girl to not be lonely - he was thinking every day bout me and his heart is with me - he still feels for me - he knows already he will sooner or later come crawling back to me and begging me to take him back - he knows what he is doing is discusting but he is still healing and its the easiest way for him The second meeting, I stayed at his place. He didnt want that but it ended up that I slept in his arms half of the night, he kissed my hair and my forehead but didnt want to sleep with me, cause he sayd it would break him apart and would cause even more pain. He sayd the new girl "is not just a thing" for him but indirectly that he doesnt love her. He sayd he still has feelings for me but he cant forget what i says and he doesnt believe I changed. He sayd if we get back together now, it anyway would not work out because we would still be too hurt. I'm close to crazyness. Im constantly losing weight, Im crying and Im feeling lonely without him. He doesnt want contact. And Im thinking: Is there any hope at all? Could he miss me eventually and come back? Could I forgive him his betrayal and relationship? Why cant I let go? Its 7 months... Why are my feelings the same, and Im still so attached? What does all this mean at all? He sayd he is confused and has porridge in his head. How can he show me he still feels and cares for me and say all this things and behave disloyal towards her but then just goes on..? Please anyone, any insight? What can i do? I actually have the offer to go to China for a job... I feel tempted to delete him forever and just run far far away.... Link to post Share on other sites
GeekLover Posted April 12, 2017 Share Posted April 12, 2017 Perhaps the job offer for China is coming at the right time. Have you considered that maybe this is actually your path? My vote? Take control of your life. Accept the job offer in China and go experience something new. Honestly? I bet you'll barely think of him once you got there. You'd have so many new opportunities and experiences!! It's been 7 months. Time to live your life for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trauerweide Posted April 14, 2017 Author Share Posted April 14, 2017 Hi! I am not sure if I'm emotionally stable enough to take such a big step and to go to the other side of the world alone... it sounds a bit of too much right now for me. I feel innerly unfree, traumatized. I so much wish he would come back to me. But I know it anyway wouldnt be the same as before. But still... I miss him so so much. I heard about rebound relationships and after all I got to know it could be possible that my ex is in one. He himself sayd he is just with her to not be lonely, and that his heart is with me and that he is still hurting. On the other hand, they are tgthr for 7 months already. I'm switiching from hopeless to being optimistic that he will be back. All in all I feel like I wont ever be the same person anymore Is there anything I could do in case she is a rebound for him? Link to post Share on other sites
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