arlington Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 My boyfriend of 4 months and I just got back together after being broken up for about a week. It turns out that our problems before were as a result of not effectively communicating with each other and our issues stemmed from space issues - time with his friends, time for himself and vice versa. So we worked everything out and agreed to be more open and honest with each other. So we have been back together for 4 days now and we are talking and communicating great, but things just seem a little awkward I suppose. For example, we are not touchy feely as we were before. Should I just give it some time, mention something about it and ask if there is anything wrong or do/say something else? Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted July 29, 2005 Share Posted July 29, 2005 It's natural for it to feel awkward. You're both scared and don't know what to expect or how to be with the other person. One of you needs to break the ice and since you're the one that recognizes it, it should be you. Make him feel comfortable, don't ask what's wrong, pretend like nothing is. Ignore it and be happy, smile a lot, give him attention and love. If he loves you in return, eventually he'll let down his walls of protection. When you talk, validate him, don't judge. The most important thing is to be his friend. It might be a slow process, so be prepared to be patient, and recognize when he does make a breakthrough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author arlington Posted July 29, 2005 Author Share Posted July 29, 2005 Thank you Lonestar - that' very good advice. That has been exactly what I have been doing now. Smiling, listening to him and validating him, etc. Thanks for replying and for the advice! Link to post Share on other sites
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