mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 Hey group boy am i confused. My ex and i broke up 3 years ago. We have a 7 year old son together. We havent gotten along in this time. Were both in a relationship. Well last thursday we meet up for drop off. She tell me her and her bf broke up. Since then weve been talking daily till very late. (Hiding it from my gf) lets not judge that right now. Well we said were gonna work on being friends the last 7 days things got really heated. Sexual talking, jealousy on her part. Worning towards a future what we miss about eachother so on and so on. She did mention that she did not want to be the home wrecker and i respect that. We havent done anything physical just talking and major flirting. I loved this woman to pieces and she broke my heart when she left me. Fast forward to today. I get a textbsaying ive looked into everything too much. Im not getting that it was just friends and she said "i never wanted more " even tho she said many time. Now all the blame is on me i looked to deep into it and she didnt say anything it was all me....wtf just happend? Help Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 You were her plan B until..... Limited contact Kid only is your best bet. Her bf probably came back Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 That was my thought. Plan B and she went back. Says she didnt but damn. Wtf we have a kid together so it makes this a pain in the ass Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 You fell for it. You just found out there is no future with her. You'd have just gotten dumped again. Get solid boundaries in place. Text or email kid only. Definition of friend = loyal, honest, trustworthy. Not friend material. Pickups / drops offs should be a 5 minute exercise. Never engage or you'll get this again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 Think i dodge a bullet. But damn what a ****ty thing to do to someone Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 It's who she is. Getting it now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 Yeah. Unfortunately its even worse since we have a kid together and i deal with the crazy all the time. Everything is my fault and she does nothing wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 Yeah. Unfortunately its even worse since we have a kid together and i deal with the crazy all the time. Everything is my fault and she does nothing wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 Think i dodge a bullet. But damn what a ****ty thing to do to someone Yeah, hope there are no emails or text trails. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 Unfortunately there is Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 Unfortunately there is Well you didnt dodge a bullet.. its still in the chamber. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 Time for you to reflect on yourself. All she did was put the bait out. You jumped right on it. You have some work to do on yourself. You've obviously not moved on and aren't safe for a relationship Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 Weve both been with the same people for 3 years. So doesnt that mean she hasnt either? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 We both said the same stuff together and both have a trail. So were both locked and loaded then right? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 13, 2017 Share Posted April 13, 2017 Weve both been with the same people for 3 years. So doesnt that mean she hasnt either? She started and ended it apparently but you can never have the life you need and deserve unless you can move on. This isn't about her. Read up and apply http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/406628-critical-readings-separation-divorce Link to post Share on other sites
Author mattyp Posted April 13, 2017 Author Share Posted April 13, 2017 Thank you for that! Makes perfect sense. But not to over analyze but this line Was said almost complete except for the last line. . If they really want you back, then you have to listen out for the apology. The complete 180. "I'm really sorry for what I did. I don't know why I did it, but all I know, is that it was the most stupid thing I've ever done. I want to try again, and will do whatever it takes to make it up to you, prove I'm deadly serious, and regain your trust. Please, can you find it in your heart to try again?" Link to post Share on other sites
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