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So, this late afternoon, 2 people between me and this guy left early(usually they all do) at work, so he started a conversation when he saw someone hanging outside at a tall building washing window, so I mentioned the popular glass swimming pool and he wondered where it is, so I looked for the post in my Facebook to find the location.

 

so I casually mentioned if he uses Facebook(so that I can add him and find out more about him) and he said/mumbling something like his inactive or not avid user (I forgot his exact words), so I let it dropped.

 

I mean, come on, how hard is it to add each other on FB? we are not even strangers, are we? we have sat on the same row over a month now.

 

what person in their 20's or 30's not using FB, nowadays? especially this guy appears to be a very social (seems should be popular) kind of guy? a guy who said he had his fair share of night life?

 

um...or maybe there are just too much info in his FB that he doesn't want me to know?

 

um...dear forum fellows, any thought?

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Telemachus

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Facebook isn't for everybody. Believe it or not, it brings some people mostly pleasure and others mostly pain. Those who don't enjoy it are wise not to use it.

 

"How hard is it to add each other on FB?" Exactly, it costs nothing and takes seconds, and its worth is indicated by this. It's a meaningless gesture.

 

Lots of people in their 20s and 30s understand that Facebook is best used to stalk celebrities and former school classmates who had no interest in having any further contact after graduation. It's also a great place to see a picture of what somebody's dog had for dinner tonight.

 

It isn't for everyone.

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I believe that some of the wisest people out there actively choose to not be on social media. Perhaps this is a conscious choice this guy has made.

 

Despite being a good tool for friends to be in contact with each other, and some informative pages and groups to follow, the majority of social media is narcissistic, attention seeking garbage. Facebook also own all the pictures you put up on there as well. Big data corporations actively mine Facebook to retrieve personal info about their users.

 

Yes, I am on Facebook, but by no means do I tag other people, tell Facebook who I am in a relationship with, who and where I am dining with, or God forbid, post pictures of my kids or what I am eating. Ugh.

 

Having said that, anyone on my friends list who overshares, overposts, posts selfies, frequently post who they are with, uses hashtags, or post pictures of their kids or food get unfollowed.

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I believe that some of the wisest people out there actively choose to not be on social media. Perhaps this is a conscious choice this guy has made.

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Hope so. and not because he has a GF or something on FB...

 

and I showed all these travel photos to him in my FB...

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Are you coworkers?

 

I've denied friendships requests from some coworkers because frankly they don't need to know my business.

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Are you coworkers?

 

I've denied friendships requests from some coworkers because frankly they don't need to know my business.

 

we are temporary outside consultants, working for totally different teams and projects. his is done in a couple of months.

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I didn't ever accept requests co-workers from an active role - until my current job. Probably because it's a larger company with a younger workforce, but I still restrict what they can see... there's no need for them to know about my non-work friends.

 

I rarely add anyone myself though. I have some kind of social media rejection-phobia :(

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My sister gives this type of response if someone she doesn't particularly like wants to add her as a FB friend.

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Are you coworkers?

 

I've denied friendships requests from some coworkers because frankly they don't need to know my business.

 

My hubby avoids being FB friends with coworkers too. While he does get on well with them, he can't see the point of FB on top of daily face to face contact. And I do think there's also a degree of him not wanting them to know more than he chooses to tell them.

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My sister gives this type of response if someone she doesn't particularly like wants to add her as a FB friend.

 

why he doesn't like me? he sure seems doesn't mind talking with me.

 

people seem to like me in the workforce. um...

 

He is leaving the end of next month. so I don't see how work place is an issue here too.

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My sister gives this type of response if someone she doesn't particularly like wants to add her as a FB friend.

 

If he doesn't like me. why he asked what phone I use? and then grabbed my phone to look? (I quickly grabbed back my phone though. I think a phone is too private...fortunately I think I uninstalled Tinder)

 

maybe next time I also grab his phone and see if there is Tinder:p...and also FB...

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